I have kissed other guys when I have been very drunk and as unbelievable as it seems I completely love my b/f. It has got to the stage that I know being drunk cannot justify my actions and the guilt is eating me up. If I tell him he will leave me for sure. I am older and should know better yet I have allowed this to happen a number of times. Mostly I have no real memory of the event - I feel so vile and yet if my b/f leaves me I cant live. I know I deserve the guilt and he deserves so much better. Any advice?
2007-01-15 07:45:27 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Yes - only kissing. I cant handle this - I am an evil beeatch
2007-01-15 08:10:08 · update #1
we are all accountable for our actions, if u know u have a problem in an area in life, why do what u have trouble controlling. being drunk still does not get u off the hook, it was your choice to do it. if u value and love your boyfriend than just know that if u keep doing the same old things that eventually he may find out, and once he does,your relationship will never be the same, all trust will have been lost. there is no excuse for your behavior, u have no one to blame but yourself.
2007-01-15 09:04:37 · answer #1 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
O my if you were young and just experiencing life I could understand it as we women got that curiosity thing from Eve. I doubt it is the kisses you are looking for but the attention. Work on your relationship with your boyfriend and see what is lacking so that you won't need to seek out the attention of others. The alcohol is a buffer to make you feel okay about what you want to do. Why do you go out without your boyfriend? Also it is a challenge to see how much control you can have over those guys. It could be a power play. Mmm
2007-01-15 08:17:21 · answer #2 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Smart people knows that too much drinking can lead to destructive behavior and yet didn't make much effort to stop from doing it. But there's a huge difference between being drunk and being a drinker. And I guessed you know which one best describes you. The strong powerful word that might save you from upcoming trouble is the word Q U I T . Quit drinking. And confess your sins to your boyfriend and if he still love you, he might still want to keep you but if he leavesyou, then accept the fact that it is not his fault then move on . Be sober. The sad thing about making a mistake is that you will be the one suffering from its consequences. But the good thing we can learn from mistake is that it serves as a warning that will keep you from repeating the same thing. Be honest and be true to yourself and to your boyfriend .lol.
2007-01-15 08:34:41 · answer #3 · answered by dtmc542006 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have to ask, is kissing all you do? Drinking does loosen us up some. The real truth is you only do what you want to! Maybe you should talk to you b/f about a threesome or letting him watch you with another guy. Check out how swingers handle it! You can love you b/f and still enjoy sexual encounters. Sex and love isn't necessarily the same thing.
2007-01-15 08:07:24 · answer #4 · answered by bigh5586 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The fact that you have no real memory of the event and the fact that you blame your actions on being drunk are two warning signs of that you drink way to much.
You should reduce your alcohol consumption or quit drinking. If you cannot do it on your own, get help.
2007-01-15 08:04:03 · answer #5 · answered by Leroy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The same thing happened to me 3 years ago. We all got drunk, spend the night at my husbands friends house (who is single). My husbands friend kissed me while my husband was sleeping next to me in bed. But sorry to say that he kissed better that my husband. No regrets.
2007-01-15 08:37:41 · answer #6 · answered by Mami-Chula 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Admit your mistake, appologise for the act & stop drinking. If he really loves you, he will leave you for a moment & then get back to you when his anger gets cool down. For the time he leaves you, dont mess up the scene & dont engage in other relations & wait for him. He will surely get back to you if in case he leaves you after you tell him the truth.
2007-01-15 08:03:43 · answer #7 · answered by hmmm 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes - stop doing it! If you love your bf as much as you say you do, you shouldn't even be in situations where you find yourself kissing other guys.
2007-01-15 07:55:56 · answer #8 · answered by ForeverAnAngel 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Straighten up your act, grow up (you'll live just fine if he leaves you), and stop using alcohol as an excuse for poor behavior. If you have so little control over yourself when you drink, then stop doing it.
2007-01-15 07:52:48 · answer #9 · answered by . 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Stop drinking. Then u will not be guilty of being unfaithful, but believe me someday he will find out u just don't know when.
2007-01-15 08:13:29 · answer #10 · answered by Shery W 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋