Especially knowing that he is in love with his wife? Knowing that you are going to cause all sorts of problems between him and his wife when there are children involved? Knowing that if she leaves him, he will lose alot, financially. How can you answer the phone when she calls and act like there is nothing wrong with what you are doing? How can you be around his children, when he has no right to bring them around you? How can you stay with him, knowing that as soon as his wife gives a little, he will leave you and go back home? Most importantly, how can you respect yourself when you are with him, knowing that you are being judged by the wife and her friends and family without them ever meeting you? Being judged by his friends and family also?
These are some of the questions i have wanted to ask my husbands whore for quite some time now.
2007-01-15 07:35:30 · 6 answers · asked by siriusblackpearl 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
i am one of the rare ones who did not know about the whore until it was almost over. all of our friends and his mom, sister and niece knew about her and no one told me. he never even let on, and when i found out, it was over
2007-01-15 07:50:30 · update #1
Fooling around with a married man is easy because of no committment, she can walk out anytime she wants with no worries. Any woman who knowingly does so has already lost all self respect she has for herself and for anyone else involved. She already knows exactly what she is, but without morals who cares. She will live for the minute and to hell with tomorrow. Even worse, is the married man who knowingly knows what he is doing and exactly what he is about to lose and yet, continues doing it, hurts his loved ones, downgrades himself in front of others, and knows his actions will cost him dearly for the rest of his life.Which is worse, who knows?
2007-01-15 07:45:51 · answer #1 · answered by Arthur W 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I understand your hurt and your pain at infidelity in your marriage. I also know what your saying is true as far as the financial side and the problems between him and you as far as the children are concerned.
But where does your reasoning come from that he will be back home when you, the wife, gives in a little? Could this be why he left in the first place? Your holding out might have been just a little to long and now it's a little too late! I have found in my 49 years of life and 2 marriages behind me that men do as men want to do and no amount of giving in will change them. Once a cheater always a cheater and as I see it you should be saying goodbye to bad rubbish, or maybe a sympathy card to his new woman would be more appropriate seeing how she got him in her life while still attached to you, two ways to look at this, one... what goes around comes around, meaning she could leave him for someone the same as he did you for her or two...the grass isn't always greener on the other side, meaning whatever caused him to leave you, it could be worse from her. I never blamed the other woman myself. I always felt he was the guilty party in it all. If not her it would have been someone else. She doesn't have any guilt over him being there, he is where he wants to be or he wouldn't be there, I mean does she have him tied to a chair or chained up in the attic? It's not fair to her to be judged by others, if there was to be any judgements passed it should be on him and YOU! Yes, it takes two to tango and for all her, what did you call her? Whorish ways, something wasn't right in your relationship to begin with for him to start a relationship with her. Because children are a part of this situation, I'd say the two of you need to calmly sit down and talk over what is to come, a lawyer would be most helpful in a situation like yours. Accussing others for your misfortune and for family and friends to interfer in a personal matter such as this, isn't right. For your childrens sake I hope the two of you can be adult enough to handle this and move on.
2007-01-15 16:04:14 · answer #2 · answered by sassywv 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Umm....I'm thinking the love of the husband for the wife is not as great as she might think it is.....there are two people involved in every affair.
Why do you have to "give a little" to get your husband to leave his girlfriend to get back with you? You should put more blame on your husband.
Why did YOU fall in love with him? People cannot help who they love.
2007-01-15 15:47:56 · answer #3 · answered by Just tryin' to help 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
wow. that sucks that you were the last to know. You didn't deserve that. But no woman can take a man away unless he's willing. I also believe that if he truly loved you he would not let himself be tempted. You have every right to be mad at the whore, but he was a willing participant.
2007-01-15 16:20:19 · answer #4 · answered by Sweetness 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel you.
Only WHORES go after married men.
My husband is doing the same thing now that he is stationed away from his family.....and she is a WHORE.
Good luck to you. IM me if you need some support....
Take care!
2007-01-15 15:58:22 · answer #5 · answered by Smiling Belle 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would never do it, so I don't know what motives those people either...
2007-01-15 15:48:49 · answer #6 · answered by CEP 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋