My husband says he doesn't love and wants a divorce. WHat should I do? Married only 13 months.?

Answer 1

Get the divorce. He obviously has no interest in maintaining a positive relationship with you. I know it will hurt to go through this but in the end you will be able to heal and get on with your life. If you stay with him he will not respect you and the two of you will only continue this breakup/makeup cycle.

Answer 2

Though it may be hard, understand that you do not want to be put in the situation to where he stays only for the wrong reasons. Then he will think that he is doing you a favor and would not be in the marriage whole-heartedly. I feel that the best thing for you to do is let him go. But dont try and hide the fact that you are hurt because it is the only way that you will heal. Tyler Perry said it best, " Some people are placed in your life for a season and some for a lifetime". With that said do not deprive yourself of true happiness b/c if you try and make him stay for 13 more months, eventually you will be back in the same spot. Everyone is just not capable of enduring the many struggles of marriage like some. Nothing against him it is just that way. Good luck to you and God bless. Prayer is the most powerful tool!

Answer 3

I guess I would want more information from him. Has he met someone else? What are you guys fighting over? Do you fight with each other? How long have you been together before you got married? Not really sure what to say. If I were you, I would sit down and talk to him. You guys haven't been married for too long. Me and my husband have been married for almost 5 years, and only together for a year before we got married, and our hardest times were in the first year. It is hard to get through. If you sit down and talk to him, and he just doesn't budge, doesn't want marriage counseling, you are going to have to respect his decision. It wasn't meant to be. I'm sorry!!

1 minute ago...
OK, I was sympathetic towards you, but after reading your last question...you obviously aren't happy either? Looking to meet men on the Internet?!! I take this crap too personal.

Answer 4

I really feel bad for you. Man you are only married a little over a year. Does he really want to divorce you? If so...let him divorce you. My ex had to pay half of my legal fees because he filed. Depending what state you are in one of you might have to pay spousal support. In my state they take the highest income minus the lowest and divide it in half. I was a house wife so I got half of my ex's salary when he cheated on me and divorced me. He never knew that and neither did I. If you are thinking of it...stash some money away for yourself in a jar some where so you can save for a lawyer. They can cost a small fortune. I wish you the best. Good luck.

Answer 5

I'm sorry to hear about that. There is actually nothing you can do. I hope children aren't involved...if they are, then burn him for child support and make him pay for their health insurance, at least until their 18, or out of college. There is no way that you can make him come back......he's already decided to leave....and I'm sure there is another woman.....there always is. This may be a blessing in disguise......good thing he's doing this now....and not 5 years down the line....so think of it like that. So I'm sure you're young enough to get over this loser. Take your time, and find a REAL man who is willing to commit to you. Use this as a learning experience. My best advice to you is for you to get a lawyer NOW who has experience with divorce......and take him to the cleaners.......some times the judge will even make him pay for your lawyer. Now is the time you've got to think about you (and any children you have), and forget about him, and be aggressive. Now if he comes crawling back.......which sometimes they do........refuse it. He didn't want you then, he don't need you now. I wish you the best of luck......if you need anymore advice.just message me. Best of luck to you.

Answer 6

Well if he wants to leave you after this short time he is really not the right man for you. I think he did not want to marry you in the first place but maybe thinks you traped him into it.You should let him go as he is more then likely having sex with another lady now anyway.Just make sure the next man that you date and all is the right one just take your time so you can be sure of it.

Answer 7

It is too soon to decide quickly to divorce, have you ever tried counselling? are you both open and honest to each other? Marriage needs work and commitment, only when there are obvious irrconcilable differences that you both decide that you both no longer are suited to each other. There must be a point in your relationship that he has decised to stop loving, find this out at least you are not left out in the cold. Relationships are hard when only one partner is trying to make it work.

Answer 8

Talk to him, ask him why, if there is a chance then weigh your options as to whether you can change for him or walk away. Usually if one spouse is wanting out he/she will eventually go, no matter what you do. If you don't work now, find a job that will occupy some of your time, if you do work, instead of going home and being alone, join a club or gym, don't spend too much time alone until you have had a chance to deal with the break up.

Answer 9

I think you should get an divorce, You don't want to be with someone who does not love you. girl you are so much better then that. Give it some time, then romeo will enter your life! Good Luck.Ever heard of the song by beyonce "irresistible " if not you should hear the words.

Answer 10

If he doesn't love you then why would you even wonder if you should let him go? Don't waste anymore of your time with someone who doesn't love you I would say thanks for letting me know now I can move on and find someone who truly loves me. It's going to hurt for a while but it's better to get a divorce.