the person who accused me of this situation was my female partner. never any one else, just a her[ any her,but always a her]. this is the ? " if u are asked a ? & u do not lie , but u leave things out. then u are found out later that u left certain things out . [this is for boys & girls alike] in ur mind do u consider this a lie for not telling all the truth? I will twell how I got around this ? ,but was still accused of being a liar. Later though because i am curious as to every one else's say first.
2007-01-15 07:27:57 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Arts & Humanities ➔ Philosophy
I use spell check & i still screw up. what a pain.
2007-01-15 07:30:05 · update #1
This is not about me, this ? is about every one else. I know the answer. when i get a few more answers I will then tell exactly what is the best way to handle this exact situation. and it will work every time!
2007-01-15 08:05:34 · update #2
A non truth is when verbalize it. this is what u do: u tell ur female that u will never lie to her. but she has to ask the right ? one word can change the out come vary drasticly. if a person asked the right ? correctly then i will answer, correctly. it always falls in the catagory asking the correct ?. females seem to think that if they ask u should tell them every thing. that is not so. one word can change a sentence. that is what the english language is for. not generalities but specifics. if u tell this person ahead of time then they are at fault when they are being specific. " there is a saying that goes like this" say what u mean & do what u say".
2007-01-17 01:57:17 · update #3
i think its telling the truth because you dont always remeber everything when your asked a ? but then later you will remember
2007-01-15 07:35:06 · answer #1 · answered by shimbals 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think it depends on the topic or subject of the question you are being asked. If it is something personal that you do not like to discuss with anyone, yes you have every right to be as brief as you wish. We all have secrets concerning our past. We all have some skeletons in our closet. It is our decision of what we let others know about us. I have secrets that I do not disclose to my girlfriend or significant other. If she asks anything concerning them, I am simple and to the point. Yes or NO. Or even better" I dont want to talk about this" or "That is really none of your business or concern." Say you had a bad drug addiction in early years and she finds out you went to rehab to get help. It is a part of your life you dont want to speak of or look back on. You might of done some pretty bad things at that time. The person might hear some things from people who knew you then. If that person throws that in your face, they are completely in the wrong for prying into your personal business. Another example would be if you had a relationship that went bad someway in the past. That is before her and whatever details you give are up to you. Now on the otherhand if you are caught red handed cheating or something like that, the person you wronged deserves the truth. All of the truth. Do not beat around the bush.
2007-01-15 22:42:34 · answer #2 · answered by bribri75 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It depends on what you left out and whether you left it out on purpose or just forgot the detail. If the omission causes any person asked that question to modify their answer after they learn what was omitted then it is significant. For example, your friend was angry because you had to cancel your dinner at the last minute because you had to take your mom to the hospital. Anyone answering this question would argue that your friend should understand that it was an emergency . Now lets say that you omitted to say that you had know about this a few hours before you had to meet your friend for dinner. This omission changes the situation because you could've called your friend much earlier to let them know the change in plan so that they could have made different plans.
Omissions can be lies if their purpose was to change the outcome of the answer.
2007-01-15 16:21:27 · answer #3 · answered by Michael K 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I haven't read the other answers, so this one is mine alone.
Leaving information out by itself is not considered lying, but it is often considered tactful not to reveal every detail in the course of conversations. Some things, people just don't need to know. Who really cares if I last went to the bathroom 30 minutes ago. ;-) If somebody asks me what I did today, I'm not likely to answer by telling them I went to the bathroom 3 times. I'll probably tell them other things, but I won't be likely to tell them that. That doesn't make me a liar though. I would be a liar if I said I did not go to the bathroom today.
Part of the art of conversation and communication is in being tactful with knowing who should be familiar with what aspects of your life. There are some things I tell very few people, and some things I have told to everybody. I don't need to tell everybody everything. (It would take too long anyuway.)
If, however, by not telling this person a detail that they felt was important to have known, your still not a liar, but you probably will have to explain truthfully why you refused to reveal that information in the first place. Withholding the truth from people can be painful to them when they find out, but sometimes, it can be a personal necessity. We are all entitled to some level of privacy, but we should also expect that other people might want to have a greater role in our lives than we want to allow them to have.
2007-01-15 18:13:58 · answer #4 · answered by G A 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
What is the intent? If the intent is just to cover-up and effectively not answer then I do not think it is a lie. It is not a lie to remain silent and refuse to anwer a question.
If however you deliberately leave bits out and put so puts in so that the hearer will reach a conclusion that is wrong: then that is, at least, dishonest.
EG You went out boozing and then onto a strip club. You do not want to tell your partner that you were in a strip club. She asks "What did you do last night?" in an everyday, chatty type way: that is to say she is clearly NOT grilling you for info! If you say you went out boozing and you went to pub x then I think you've just not told her about the strip club.
If she asks "and where were YOU until 3 am." Knowing a booze session usually has you out until midnight and you say boozing knowing she will take this as "just boozing" - then I think we're edging towards dishonesty.
2007-01-15 15:51:25 · answer #5 · answered by anthonypaullloyd 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you purposely leave things out then it is considered not telling the truth. But as the person above said if things were accidentally left out and later was re asked the same question and remember things that you had forgotten then that is completely different because that happens all the time.
2007-01-15 15:38:20 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Lying by omition is still lying...
If you forget to add small details...that is forgetting insignificant things...but purposely leaving out parts of the truth that are important or significant and you remember them..just choose to omit them..then YES..that's lying.
Any court of law or attorney will tell you the same.
2007-01-15 15:39:32 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think that a half-truth is still a deception, but not quite as bad as a full-on lie. That being said, I would not want my partner to tell me half-truths, either.
2007-01-15 16:04:38 · answer #8 · answered by Shellbell 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you deliberately omit certain details, you are skirting the truth, which isn't really lying but will get you in the predicament you currently find yourself in. However, if you simply forgot to add those details, then an explanation should suffice.
2007-01-15 15:42:30 · answer #9 · answered by JADE 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
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2007-01-15 17:28:30 · answer #10 · answered by metroactus 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋