Can a marriage survive after one of the partners have cheated on the other?

Question

Is that too much to overcome, or can it be done if the partner who cheated is remorseful and the one who was cheated on is forgiving?

Answer 1

Only you can decide that. I personally could never forgive it. I would want to, but it would alway be in the back of my mind. They would pay for it in every argument. And that's not fair. If you forgive, then you must truely forgive.

Answer 2

It would most probably have a better chance of survival if the person who was cheated on never found out - but this means the cheater lives with the guilt which can be too much and break down the marriage anyway. If the cheater is remorseful and their partner is forgiving then yes they can work it out although it may never be the same relationship again. In some cases I guess the open communication could mean the marriage gets stronger. Another problem can be that the partner forgives but because they never forget it can eat away at the relationship. I hope they can work it out as in general people are not perfect and make horrible mistakes.

Answer 3

Sometimes it is possible, but usually not. When a partner cheats, the trust in the relationship is gone. Without trust, there is no relationship. Can you rebuild trust? Sure, but usually by the time someone cheats there's not enough left in the marriage to rebuild it anyway. And once someone cheats, odds are that they will do it again. It's a very hard thing to have to deal with - sorry you have to go through this.

Answer 4

I think that anything in life can be overcome if you want to overcome it. If the person that was betrayed can truly let go of the incident and trust their partner again, yes. However, the partner that did the cheating needs to be 100% honest and faithful from the on out in order for this to work. If it happens again, then no, I don't think that the people involved want the marriage to work. I also believe if someone TRULY loves their partner, they wouldn't cheat on them in the first place. but that is just my opinion and moral system.

-EA

Answer 5

Yes the marriage can even end up stronger. I do know a married couple that stayed married after the husband slept with a co-worker. Most times no the marriage doesn't survive cheating, but sometimes it does. If you search cheating on the Internet you will find lots of help on this issue because it is so common. Good Luck.

Answer 6

Yes, it can survive, but the offending party has be very penitent, and the injured party must have a LOT of forgiveness.

Forgiveness is one of the elements most lacking in marriages and one of the reasons for relationship failure.

Cheating may be an extreme example, but the fact is we're HUMAN and we're going to SCREW UP on occasion. How you HANDLE those moments is pivotal.

Many couples separate for the stupidest of reasons, let alone cheating.

So yes, a marriage could survive; but it requires maturity and dedication on both sides.

Answer 7

It is possible for a marriage to survive it if and only if the person who cheated is truly sorry and realizes that they must earn back their partners trust. That usually means changing things that led up to the cheating in the first place i.e. going to clubs or out all the time with friends or not communicating with your spouse.

Answer 8

when i was 16 my father cheated on my mother with an 18 year old after 19 years of marraige. they worked it out. but that is a really tough question. it all depends on how comitted the person is. trust is shot so the cheator has to earn it back. and if they think they don't have to earn it back or if it is too much for the cheator then you gotta drop them. they did the deed now they have to pay for the consiquences. i still don't trust my dad but my mom does. actaully to ladie not counting the first one have got my two cents for looking at him wrong. but that is just me. as long as my dad doesn't hurt my mom again he is cool with me. now don't forget i am a dadies girl and love him to death but it has been 5 years since he ****** up and things will never be the same.

Answer 9

I believe it could. It going to take hard work. The one who did the cheated is going to have to put up with the questions and give the right answer and deal with mood swings form the other spouse.In the who got cheated on is going to go though a lot. I believe you can't go though it alone. One of you is going to have to get help.Start going to church. In most church's they have marriage groups. You just have to ask. And start reading self help books like ten stupid things couples do to mess up their relationships by Dr. Laura C. Schlessinger. Your going to need something. And she has a talk radio show on 640am Mon-Fri 12noon-3pm southern ca time.

Answer 10

i have seen people try to make it work. but its something that will take a long time to forgive and it will never be forgotten. unfortunately it will always be stuck in the back of the mind )of the partner who did not cheat).

from personal experience, i could never get over it. i couldnt forget about it and i had to end the relationship.

Answer 11

yes.........and no.

it depends on the circumstances before and after the affair, one-night stand, whatever.
It also depends on whether the other party can forgive them or not. some can, some can't.

Personally, I would of said no before i was cheated on. However, i am still with my idiot of a husband.
It is hard to deal with. he pays for it in every arguement, and though there were other issues that went along with his whore, she is the first that is brought up when we argue. I could handle it a little better had he not of had her around our kids twice.