My husband is a loser should I take him back?

Question

My husband and I have been fighting for a long time and it makes me not want to have sex with him. He then told me that if I didn't sleep with with him he was going to sleep with the woman he slept with when him and I was separated. He told me that he just laid in the bed with her at her house. Now he wants me to take him back. Should I give him another chance or just let him go?

Answer 1

Dump that man to the curb for women everywhere! Sounds like you are a very caring person who deserves (and can get) better. There is no reason to stay with a complete bum. Being with someone like that is stressful and toxic. If he wants to threaten you with other women... let him have her. They probably deserve each other anyhow.

Answer 2

Do you have children with this person? If you guys are fighting all the time what would make you think the marriage is going to work? If he wants you back then why sleep with another woman? Maybe tell him you will take him back if he agrees to go to marriage counseling with you. Most of the counseling is about how you guys communicate with each other. Good Luck. Too late for me, just got divorced for the second time.

Answer 3

Where to start? It seems as if you already lost respect for him (i.e. "loser) and he obviously has no respect for you if he could threaten you with sleeping with another women. Then of course he had already slept with her, I don't think seperation is an excuse to sleep with someone else, so this respect issue has already been going on for a while. Before love, admiration, and all those other feelings you profess for someone #1 on the list should be RESPECT. Don't waste your time, let him go because you don't have him anymore in the first place. I think that you will feel a sense of freedom and hope once you do. Good luck.

Answer 4

Your husband is playing on your kindness for your weakness.
So while your playing Tiddly Winks to discover what, of, and or but, he has once again got laid nicely by someone else when you should be the only one in his life.

Now ask yourself, if you argue all the time you obviously must not be that great in bed or why otherwise would he play the field?

Answer 5

For one you withhold sex from your husband the first place, where all women lose at this point, you didn't meet his needs, and basically when withholding sex, you told him, I don't love you, accept you, don't need you, don't care about you, you have broken all the promises of the world to your husband, and stop the trust bond between the two of you.
Now do you want this woman to have him or not?
Are you going to forgive him, and stop all this nonsense of behaviors of you powergame of withholding sex with him, then I strongly suggests, that you will examine your own heart, and honestly want this man, to honour him, love him, be submissive to him, forgive him, stop nagging, stop thinking negative things about him, and start over with a fresh renew attitude that this man is the man of your dreams, and you will fully honour this man, respect this man, meet his needs sexuallly and physically, emotionally and truly you will be cherished, loved, protected, adored, and he would not have to be attracted to any other woman, because he has a woman, who is submitting to him in everything, loves him, respect him, and even forgives him in everything, and yes that means no more bringing up the past issues, and no nagging, griping and etc, and trully you will be happy and he will to, because it sounds like you both want to restore this marriage and relationship.
Best of luck, and I do wish your marriage in success and healing for both of you, and that you and him will fall back in deeply in love with each other!

Answer 6

If you have to question it, chances are you are not ready to end the marriage. If you were there would be no need to ask anyone else their opinion. So the only advice for you will be to take care of yourself, be careful and do not let anyone make you feel pressure to do something you are not comfortable with.

Answer 7

He sounds like a selfish loser. A truely compassionate loving man would want to find out WHY you don't want sex with him and work to correct anything that is wrong.
If he has already threatened you with being unfaithful, he probably has already done so.
If you take him back not, you are being dishonest with yourself. Be self confident and get rid of him. There are plenty of nice guys out there.
The only way I would even consider taking him back was:
If he were truely sorry.
If he wanted to change his bad behavior.
If he would go to a counselor with you, be honest, and work to make your marriage better.

Answer 8

That's what I like to see: healthy, "respectful'" relationships where folks call each other disrespectful names and threaten to cheat on one another. Where sex is a power tool and not a way to establish deeper intimacy.

You two need to get into therapy, IMO.

Answer 9

not particular how previous your daughther is yet when she is sufficiently previous to comprehend perchance you would possibly want to sit down her down and talk such as her let her understand that she would not must be contained in the midst of both of you and the subsequent time that he asks own questions about you that's better if she suggested that if he somewhat needs to entice close he ought to ask you straight away. This takes it out of her hands so as that she isn't contained in the middle and shall we him understand in an off hand way the way it is none of his company yet when he somewhat needs to entice close then he can ask you and also you may both tell him or tell him to wander away and proposals his own company.

Answer 10

Please just let him go. Obviously if he is that eager to sleep with someone else if you don't provide it, then he doesn't really care about you and probably wants you back just because no one else in their right mind would have him. I know it is really hard to let go and move on sometimes, but the more you stay with this loser the more misery you will see in your life.