any one have a teenager?

Question

who wont listen, knows best and thinks you dont love them? any advice welcome

Answer 1

I was the same way... well I'm still a teenager (19) but I've changed a lot. I used to think my parents were the stupidest people alive!! I hated being controlled by them and I hated that they didn't understand me. I grew out of it though. I admire my parents now. They are smart people who took good care of me and raised me well!!
Your teenager will definitely grow out of it. It's going to take a lot of years though. Just remember, you are the parent, not a friend. They want you to be a parent even though they are going to hate you for it.

good luck!

Answer 2

Yes. If anyone had an answer to that problem they would be ruling the world now. Someone that wise should be in charge. I guess just grin and bear it. Sooner, or later, the little angels will grow out of it. I've survived one teenager and my youngest is 15 so I have a way to go, yet. Maybe we should start a support group for parents who are abused by their children. Something like Association of Parents Abused by Teenagers. We will, if God wills, be vindicated by our grandchildren. Hang in there. My oldest had twins almost 18 months ago so I'm starting to reap the benefits.

Answer 3

I have 4 kids...three of which have been through their teens. And yes they all hated us & wouldn't listen to anything we said. My daughters are 19 & 22 & we are very close now. We do lots of stuff together. We've even gone out for drinks (with my oldest) together & that was pretty strange at first. But we talk about everything.

My son is 18 & he's at the point where he thinks he knows best, but he'll learn when he goes off to college in the fall.

I think the turning point was when they went off to college & lived on their own. then they understood a lot more.

My advice: hang in there...it'll get better.

Answer 4

Have two 5 year olds, and am only 25 (so was not that long ago I was a teen myself). You need to just push through with that unconditional love. Lay out the rules, stick to them; remembering that to teenagers mutual respect is #1, so try as best you can to make sure your rules are fair. Tell them everyday that you love them and hug them, even if they don't say it or hug you back. Just remember PATIENCE.... and just like I tell myself with my 5 year olds when they are driving me crazy, it won't last forever. teenagers at 13 are very different at 15, and even more different at 17, it's a normal phase. Hopefully you'll be able to look back and laugh in a few years

Answer 5

Hi there, im 18 and probably, by the sounds of it a little older than your teen, from personal experience, if they wont listen-dont talk to them! i know it sounds silly, but if they wont listen to you the best thing to do is ignore them just as much! this annoyed me the most and eventually they will give in. dont shower with gifts to make them think you love them and just be normal, with a little less conversation!trust me, if you nag they will just get worse!

Answer 6

There is nothing worse to be a teenager and have your parents still treat you as a child. They want to be adult. They dont know better.
Arguing never answers anything. I'm sure alot of that goes on. Try not to. As hard as that may be. Try giving him/her an adult decision or do something that might be considered grown up, with them.
My parents did that with me, and its something that made me think and had a positive effect with me, they were still in charge but they respected the fact i didnt want to be treated like a child anymore. Now i know it was hard for them to do that, but they did it because they loved me.

Answer 7

well i don't have any kids but sure have a sister,, she was in that same stage,, it was so hard for us to make her understand that she was wrong,, and well most of the family members teased her and never expected anything good of her,, it was hatd because she said that noone loved her . believe change wont happenden automatically it takes time and caring. never ever compare her with anyone, that realli hurts and brings down her self-steem. and well for us work constaly telling her we love her. and that we will always be there for her no matter what. also try spending time with her, take her to teh mall, anything that involves you guys spending time toguether.also hug her kiss her as much as possible sometimes that all they need... believe me it works,, my sister is now 18 and she is soo self confident and beautiful... i sure hope for the best,,, remember it takes patience!!!!

Answer 8

Yes I got 1 who's just like that & to make it worse he's a trainee man version too
My advise is try to stay calm, I know that's easier said than done, & hopefully the good days will out weigh the bad.
ALL teenagers are a handful!
BUT he/she will grow out've it - eventually. & become a lovely adult.
I used a local support group when things got too much, they were very supportive

Answer 9

I was the same way..I now apologize to my parents for the wrong things I have done to them over and over again. They will grow out of that stage and realize all there wrong doing. I know I did and I am now 25 going to be 26..

Answer 10

have two boys a 19 year old who I seems to be growing out off the mood swings & a 17 year old who is starting to realise life in the big world is tough
I had the coming in late ,the drunk ,the car crash ,the trying hash,
now I have my partners 2 daughters 15 &12 years too cope with wish me luck
try to remain calm ,don't let them set the rules,talk to them point out you still love them dispite their mistakes & let them know you will always be there for them