but i have a baby and a husband i work in the morning and plan to go to school by night am i wrong for wanting to do this because i wont spend that much time with them I NEED ADVICE????
2007-01-15 06:35:44 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It's not like you're going to be in class all night long. Go for it, in the long run bettering your education will pay off.
2007-01-15 06:40:00 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think your on the right track.But for you to do both is going to be to much. There are a lot of women who do. Already someone in the morning is watching your baby.Think of it. If you go to school at night and working in the morning that means someone or daycare is raising your child. And to leave a husband that long can be dangers.On the weekends your going to be to tried or doing homework to do anything with your family. You still got household chores, food shopping to do, etc.....Maybe if you can stop working in go to school in the morning. If can't afford to stop working maybe you going to lower your life style just until you finish school. If your think of a 4yr college your thinking of a career.And at the end of 4yrs its going to pay. You should do one or other.I think school will be better because at the end school will benefit you in your family. At 20 I also had a baby in a husband. My dream was to go to college too. But I didn't. And I regret that. Your best bet is go to school, quilt the job. Because the time your 25 you will be able to afford the life style you want. And if your marriage don't work you have something, your career.And you can't go wrong with that.I hope it works out for you. Take care. And God Bless.
2007-01-15 15:01:55 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are certainly not wrong to want to do this. Just realize that there is a cost associate with doing this that isn't monetary. It's time.
You will have less time to spend with your baby, and less time to spend with your husband. Babies take up a boatload of time, and your husband is going to have to be prepared to take up what may be more than his fair share of the load. Your social and sex life is also going to take a turn for the worse unless you make time for it.
Just remember to not forget those little things that make a marriage and being a parent work. It won't be easy, but if you remember that your family should come first, and they remember that school is important to you, you can make it work.
2007-01-15 14:42:29 · answer #3 · answered by Garylian 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have to look at all aspects of this. Is your husband willing and able to care for your child while you are away? If he is able but not willing this will cause a serious strain on your marriage and your baby will suffer the natural consequences of the 2 of you being angry or distant with each other. Does your husband think it's a good idea? Someone else said if he loves you he will want you to do this- I don't necessarily agree. Yes it is good to better one's education level but will this be detrimental to your family- you have to discuss it with them. Will the degree you are seeking actually improve your quality of life or will it just look good on paper? What kind of job will you get with this degree? Is it a job that is appropriate for a young mother and wife? Will the cost of school make things too tight in other financial areas? All kinds of questions to look at with your husband. Make a pro's and con's list and include your desires and feelings as well as financial pros and cons, emotional (for everyone involved)pros and cons, etc. Think this through because yes it is good to improve one's self but if getting a degree makes everything else in your life worse by being away from home, stress, studies, etc. You do not want to waste all that money on courses if you won't be able to complete your degree. Give it some thought - I do wish the best for you!
2007-01-15 14:51:28 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
In your particular situation, going to a 4-year college IS possible. You will have to adjust your schedule, but its well worth it. If you want to spend an adequate amount of time with your family, just go to college for "part-time", which isn't so bad. Its possible you won't have to go to school everyday... yet if you do, it'll only be for a few hours. I think you can definetly do it. Good Luck!!!
2007-01-15 14:41:34 · answer #5 · answered by CUTIE 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Can you wait until your child is in kindergarten. Then you can go part-time while your child is in school. The early years are very important ones for your child to be with their mom and dad. Don't sacrifice this time for college. You'll never get those years back.
2007-01-15 14:51:03 · answer #6 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am 29 and just started college. Go to college now. It won't get any easier as you get older and your baby grows. This is important for the health and happiness of your family.
2007-01-15 14:38:55 · answer #7 · answered by Poppet 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
that is a good idea once u done you'll be able to spend as much time u want with them .good luck
2007-01-15 14:41:20 · answer #8 · answered by kency 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take a lot of online classes, you can do your class work when you have time.
2007-01-15 14:44:11 · answer #9 · answered by veronica 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well take it as a sacrifice for now, and then when u r done u will have more time and better job and better future with ur family.
DO IT!
2007-01-15 14:40:07 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋