what are some ways to teach him romance. is there something i can do?
2007-01-15 06:33:00 · 22 answers · asked by it's me, julie 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
sorry it is hopeless!! I have a List of things that i want to do posted in BOLD on the refridgerator and still nothin!!
2007-01-15 09:15:43 · answer #1 · answered by GIRL 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Romance is more of an attitude thing than anything else. It isn't something you can teach someone. The real hope is in you being as romantic as you can when around him and hope he would begin to respond to you in a romantic way.
Dressing sensually, sometimes even in a naughty way. Teasing and being playful with him and not give in too soon. Making sure you arouse him slowly. And while arousing him, you have your best chance of making him respond in a romantic way.
Over time, you'd hope that these little things you do differently to make romance more explicit between the two of you, would become more of a "habit" for him. He should begin to like it so much that he thinks about it even when you aren't around.
He'll also realize the pleasure is far greater when he tends to be more romantic because you respond better to romance. Sometimes, to that end, it'll be very helpful if you can take charge and show him the way :-) Feel free to IM/email me if you'd like to share your thoughts or talk more on this.
Good luck.
2007-01-15 06:47:03 · answer #2 · answered by houstonian352000 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hehe..... well, now! i think there is definetely some solutions here. lets just leave out the talking... communication is important, but best to start with ACTION in this case.
do unto him as you would have him do to you!
i think that is the key here. show him some of the things that you think is romantic... if it is a tub filled with rose petals and tea light candles all around, then set that up for HIM. if it is getting new toys or outfits and surprising him then do that, if it is making dinner and eating with candelight and soft music then do that... if it is buying flowers or chocolates then do that...
my point is, that after you do something super sweet and romantic for him, he may wonder and ask why you did it. then you can let him know (the communication part) that you wanted to be romantic and you wanted him to know that you care through actions. then tell him you would like for him to show you how he loves you sometimes, and not just saying it. saying "i love you" doesn't have as much meaning if there isn't romance to back it up.
give it a try
good luck
♥
2007-01-15 06:40:47 · answer #3 · answered by don't be rude. 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There is a lot to said about a wet rag..I think that a wet rag has more uses than a dry one,actually.
Look at the bright side of things and go from there.
2007-01-15 06:37:11 · answer #4 · answered by Dfirefox 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
NEWS FLASH>>>That is the norm! Romance is not something most guys want to mess with. They want to 'hit it' and get back to the game as soon as possible!
You just need to talk to him. Help him understand what you mean by romance, because chances are he has NO idea! It is like potty training a child. It takes time, but eventually they will get it - expect accidents though! However, don't always insist on romance! Give it to him his way sometimes too! Compromise is the key!! Good luck!
2007-01-15 07:12:46 · answer #5 · answered by Kailey 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I always think of being romantic as a talent or a trait, not a skill. In other words, can you teach someone who lacks creativity to write poetry? Can you teach someone with no vocal ability to be a great singer? I am not romantic, never have been and never will be. It's just not in my genes. But maybe you could get your husband to do for you what I occasionally do for my wife: I sometimes pretend to be romantic. Once in awhile, for her benefit, I imitate things I see on tv or in movies, things that I know carry the label of "romantic". I don't know what I'm doing, but she seems to appreciate the effort.
2007-01-15 06:41:09 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you want him to be romantic try teaching him romance.
-Leave him sweet little love notes in his pockets or briefcase
- Have dinner ready for him picnic style (blankets on the living room floor etc.) with candles and everything some evening when he comes home for dinner
-buy some exotic massage oil and give him a full body massage
There is also a yahoo groups you could join called romancing your husband
2007-01-15 06:39:29 · answer #7 · answered by The OTHER Boelyn Chic 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Was he always this way? If not maybe he is just stressed out.
Go away together on a romantic vacation. One where you can
relax, sleep, snorkel, etc, Sounds like Hawaii or Mexico to me.
If you can't do that, have a nice romantic weekend at home. Light
some candles, take a bath or shower together, plan and cook a
meal together. Anything fun you do together can lead to romance.
Another thing you might want to do is massage each other. If you
don't know how, take a class. Anything you do together can lead
to being closer together. Also it might help to talk to him, and
tell him how you feel. I
2007-01-15 06:49:01 · answer #8 · answered by judywalker23 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
eww,a wet rag?! I'm wondering how he managed to snag you in the first place?! Surely he must have some skills...rent a few lovey movies or drop a line like "so and so just did the sweetest thing for so and so". Maybe he just needs some ideas or the encouragement from you to get a little frisky...Valentines day is right around the corner....hoping he opens his eyes (and dries off!)
2007-01-15 06:42:17 · answer #9 · answered by justsayin... 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whenever he does something good or right, let him know - positive reinforcement. Tell him, "honey, ooh I love it when you do that" etc. Also, when we're watching tv, I'll point out to my husband when there is something romantic or sentimental - like, "isn't that so romantic, honey? I'd love to try that." Sometimes, I leave secret notes hidden throughout the house that my husband will find at random times, like a little post it hidden in his socks that says, "I love it when you kiss the back of my neck!"
2007-01-15 06:38:26 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
I guess by "wet rag" you mean " not paying you enough attention. The answer is to dress up, look as hot as you can! BUT DON'T COME ON TO HIM!! Make him look! Make him ask"Your looking good, going some where?" Make him remember,YOUR HIS WOMAN ! And then, make him glad you are!
2007-01-15 06:57:57 · answer #11 · answered by mike f 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋