2007-01-15 06:32:59 · 25 answers · asked by Bonnie J 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Suspicion without good proof breeds reptiles of the mind.
Grab the bull by the horns and ask the questions that are bothering you
2007-01-18 21:37:50 · answer #1 · answered by tillermantony 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The first thing you have to do is stop making him your whole life. You need to get and have a life of your own. If he is your whole life then anytime there is a conflict your life will be turned up side down. That is not good for either of you. The other thing is if you have proof confront him with your proof. If you dont have proof, get the proof, and then confront him. What you can do is make sure the im is set to save the chat logs. You can then go and look at them. The other thing is, on your computer, click on the my computer icon (found from the start menu). Go under C drive. Search for temp files, history, etc....Take it from expirence. You can find a ton of stuff there. That is...if there is anything to find. When you do confront him, NO MATTER WHAT do not tell him where you gathered your info. Yes, he will know the computer, but you don't want him to start covering his tracks better. Take care and good luck.
2007-01-15 06:43:50 · answer #2 · answered by mccmb02 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off, he is NOT your life. He's a part of your life, but not all of it. Get it through your head before you do anything else, then you will have more of a level playing field, instead of him taking advantage of you easily. You lived without him before, you can live without him again, he's not some rare treasure. If you have a hunch that he is not faithful, start taking notes. He'll slip sooner or later. If you have money to burn, you can hire a PI, then you might come up with more solid proof. Talk to a trusted friend, ask for some advice and help in the matter.
2007-01-15 06:41:55 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I always heard where there is smoke there is fire. If you suspect than most likely you have found something or he is hiding something from you. Always, always go with your gut feeling when you suspect, but before acting on an impulse find some truths in your suspicions. You can confront him with facts, not hearsay or suspicions. Ask him outright about his online activities, if he is your whole life, as you claim, then you will know if he is lying to you or covering up something.
2007-01-15 06:44:02 · answer #4 · answered by sassywv 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm very sorry to hear this. The only way you can confront him is by sitting him down and talking to him like a mature adult. Do not become moody or threatening. Just tell him you are worried about him cheating on you. If he has your best interests at heart and truly loves you...things will change immediately because he won't want to lose you!
2007-01-15 06:42:23 · answer #5 · answered by Ghost 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell the truth tell him you were looking around on the computer. Notice this person and you are chatting a lot. What is going on and why if it is friendly or harmless you never told me about it. I'm starting to think you are cheating on me and don't think that chatting secretly isn't cheating because it is. Anything your partner does to deceive your from the truth is suspicious.
2007-01-15 06:45:04 · answer #6 · answered by GoldenGirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
From someone that has been on both sides of this equation, first I am sorry you are having to go through this. Trust is a hard thing to not have in any relationship. My recomendation goes back to Biblical wisdom. Be so good to the man that it "heaps burning coals on his head" in other words respond to his issues with 10X the love and kindness that you normally show and believe me I know that is hard. When you answer evil with good, the man's sense of consious can kick in and if he is doing this sort of thing, he may tell you himself and want to reconcile.
2007-01-15 06:40:56 · answer #7 · answered by Rob 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you need to find out for sure, then confront him. Don't come at him with allegations cause he'll deny it, but if you can print something proving it, he can't say anything. If he is cheating online, he'd probably do it in person too.
2007-01-15 06:38:22 · answer #8 · answered by jennifer d 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Start making him think that you're cheating online, then the two of you will have to talk. If he asks why, then you say 'because I think that you are' if he deserves to be your 'whole life', then you two can work this out.
2007-01-15 06:38:11 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i am truly sorry you feel that way but the only way you will know is ask, just say "you know i have been wondering lately and it is not that i am accusing you but are you seeing someone else on line?" if he says no let it go because what you do in the dark, soon comes out in the light...... if he is, the secret will ooze out someway somehow. and if he isn't let him know you just felt a little insecure at that time
2007-01-15 07:14:12 · answer #10 · answered by D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋