help! i hate the way i look, feel, parent, and im a lame wife. I work my butt off and still barely make it.?

Question

how do i get rid of these feelings and straighten up? im ugly and fat. i can change the fat but dont know how. im never horney and i am sick of my life. dont know what to do. my crisis

Answer 1

Go to a doctor. Make sure that hormones aren't causing both the weight and the depression. And DON"T settle for whatever a doctor throws at you- make sure tests are taken, etc. If you got a bad doctor, get a referral to a psychiatrist who will do the tests plus be more informed about any anti-depressants you may be willing to take.
Good luck.

Answer 2

It sounds like you forgot to take care of yourself. Life is fast, hard and can really take a toll on you. Each week get rid of something that makes you feel bad. Get up an hour earlier, read a good book. Take a walk on your lunch break, the pounds will drip off. Get a new hair style or color. Take a chance. I am sure you still are a beautiful and sexy women you just haven't heard it in a awhile. Arrange for quite night of dinner and dancing at home without the kids. You deserve to look and feel great. Try paying your spouse a nice word I bet you'll get one in return. If your having trouble in the love department. You take charge tell him what you want. There is nothing hotter than a woman who knows what she wants.

Answer 3

Very much sounds like depression, but you ARE smart enough to realize your feelings, which is a great first step. Can you make an appt. with a therapist who can help you discover more about the root causes here while providing a suggestion or two toward better parenting & relationship building to replace the ones that create a downward spiral? Step #2, honestly, would be an elementary exercise program--nothing harsh! Have you listened to any Wayne Dyer tapes? Is there something you can do---even in your present situation--to make things better around you--like spend an extra moment or two to assist a struggling co-worker or lift their spirits--just like you'd want done to you?

Answer 4

the first thing you have to do is change the way you think. If you think negatively then negative things will happen. If you think positively then positive things happen. You're obviously fed up and want to make a change and that's hardest part to admit. Start with yourself and make the necessary changes that will change you physically. It starts with eating correctly, physical fitness, drink tons of water, write down 10 goals for the next year and focus on those. Put in down on paper and tape to your mirrow so you can see it everyday. Start with forgiving yourself for past mistakes and learn a lesson from each one you've made. Everything negative in the past is behind you, so now you can do positive things that will bring positive results. Encourage yourself everyday. Appreciate yourself everyday. Love yourself everyday. Write down 10 things you want to do before you die. Write down 10 things you want to do in the next year. Spend each day working towards them and your life will change. Good Luck and remember you have the power to make this happen. You have the power to make a change. You have the power to choose a better life. Make the choice to live better everyday and pretty soon it will become your new way of life instinctively!!!!! Before you know it you will come to realize that you've always had this gift to create the future you've always wanted you just didn't see it.....

Answer 5

Hey calm down.You are not ugly and fat. everybody is beautiful in their own way. look at it in this way if we see someone too thin we say she is frail and sickly .Look at you are fat means you are healthy and normal human being.First of all try to look for better paying job and get a makeover. With exercise and right diet anybody can become moderate weight and with facial makeovers u will look good.
if you try to be cheerful and make new friends and have a hobby or relax in a way u want .See its only in your thoughts that u dont look good if u remove that thought everything will fall into place.relax and think about it.

Answer 6

Go see a doctor. You sound depressed. It is possible you have a chemical imbalance causing the depression and a prescription of the right anti-depressant will help. However, most anti-depressants do cause you to not want sex, but you already don't want sex, so maybe it could help the other things. And it could be you wouldn't have to take it all that long before you could get back on track. But definitely, GO SEE A DOCTOR.

Answer 7

Grab the bull by the horns and get some help. Things are not going to get better, you will just keep spiraling down. Your husband will leave you, your kids will suffer, your health will continue to fail, need I go on. Please get help. Open your eyes and try to find the beauty in life, you don't need to be beautiful. You will feel better if you can look at the positive things in your life. You have kids - they are wonderful gifts from God, be happy you have them. Let them show you how to have fun. LIfe has

Answer 8

Sure, if you try to straighten up everything at the same time: it's impossible.
You'll have to start, where it really counts. And that is by telling yourself that no one is capable of all these things. They just let us think they are!!!
Then you have to take a very deep breath. Perhaps many breaths.
Tell yourself you can perform better than now, IF you choose where it really counts!!!
You work hard at it; but maybe you should be more specific about where you really WANT to make out of your life!
You MUST ask yourself WHAT really matters. When you have decided what really matters you go after one or two things you want to do (better). Have you ever tried to ask YOURSELF what matters MOST?
You are the only one who can answer that! And please don't let anyone answer this question for you. Not tv-series, not your family (parents), not children or husbond. BUT you!!
When you have found out what matters most you go for it, woman!
So you have every day to work on your selfesteem, your selfconfidence. But in small and slow steps.
Fat is a cry for help! Don't start by trying to diet. But as you get more satisfied with yourself, by yourself, you'll discover that you don't have to put fat around you to protect you from the world and all its demands.
SO: I want you to listen to yourself, find your deepest gut-feeling and go on from there. Find out who you are and where you want to go. Just remember to make it simple, and SMALL steps.
When you allow yourself to find out that you are o.k., remember to reward yourself!!! And remember that this reward shouldn't be fast food or junkfood. But a delicious salad, or perhaps something you have wanted to do all your life. You name it!

I have been there myself, but I have worked my way back to a life, where I do everything out of love for my life. I have had to make some changes, including getting away from someone who kept me in a low esteem of myself.

Answer 9

you are working your butt off, you are not a bad person, and you are far from lazy. Give yourself a pat on the back. There are a lot of us that are working our butts off, parenting, have spouses, and going to school. Don't be so hard on yourself, for you are your own worst enemy. You have quite a load there, and I know it's hard. Give yourself some credit. And you probably look great.
These days are so hard anymore. Just remember this...JUST DO YOUR BEST!

Answer 10

Get a makeover.

Go to a salon and just go for a change!

Start eating healthy, exercise, put make up on every day...

If you still don't feel any better. Make an appointment to see a counselor/doctor. That's not healthy thinking and you're going to pass it on to your kids! Do it for your kids.