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Question

I am reading on the yahoo Q anA and cannot belive that you let your kids have so much freedom, espcaily with boy friends and sex babaies.. I have 3 kids 2 bys and one girl and my daughter still a virgin and she is 27 years old because we brought her up that way..I was raised also like that..there was 12 year on wanted to know how to kiss, onther one wanted to meet a boy from the net..what is happing to paranting and our schools?

Answer 1

yeah right a 27 yr old virgin ....maybe you need to open your eyes to the real world

Answer 2

The bible says do not be conformed to this world. Thank God you are not raising your children in such a vile manner. The world has become a much more sex-dependent environment and does not promote virginity as a good thing. As a teen, if you haven't been "laid" you are stupid, or weak, or wierd. Parents want their children to be normal and to make friends. Good ideas to help keep your kids on the right path are to start an FCA (fellowship for christian athletes) at your children's high school, if there isn't one already. You don't have to be an athelete to join, but they get together and talk about issues that matter to teens, such as sex, and virginity, and moral issues, like sharing answers for homework. You could homeschool your kids. As teenagers, you should be able to leave them home and have them teach themselves their schoolwork. Also, channels such as MTV and VH1 should be avoided, as well as many or all R rated movies. Remember that homeschooling is not just for "religious people" so you shouldn't be judged for doing it. good luck with your boys

Answer 3

i'm 15 and i know what you're saying and you sound like an amazing parent i too plan on keeping my virginity till i am married even if i get married when i'm 40. i had my first kiss when i was 11 and my parents were always around i'm glad they are who they are or i would be in more trouble and you really have no clue what your daughter does. i think it's perfectly okay to kiss someone i go out with, but sex is out of the question. maybe well it depends. it's not really the parents fault i got felt up at church yesterday by an 18 yr.old it's not the parents trust me.

Answer 4

I have to agree, what is happening to parents in this day and age. I have 2 daughters 12 and 13, they tell me what their friends r allowed to do and wear. Can u believe that a mom would let her 12yr old daughter wear thong panties??? That in my opinion is just WRONG! I have also heard through my daughters that their friends r allowed to drink coffee.. again in my opinion children the age of 12 and 13 r a bit too young yet for that. I am very open with my kids and pretty well let them do whatever they like within reason. They know the boundaries of the house rules and they r respectful of them, as i am very respectful of my daughters. I do not allow my daughters to wear thong panties at this age, and i do not let them drink coffee.. when they're older well thats their choice. I wonder what the parents of these kids r teaching them? In my opinion letting ur 12 yr old daughter wear thong panties is already creating a problem. What will come of that situation in a couple of years if not sooner. It blows me away to be honest. Seems kids these days know more at this young age than i did when i was 16. I know my kids dont feel like im a strict parent, i dont feel i am either. But letting ur kids rule u instead of u (as the parent) rule them spells trouble in the future. As for what u wrote in ur statement about a child wanting to meet someone they know on the net.. bad news! Parents these days seem too busy in their own lives to really look at what their kids r doing, scary stuff. I believe its very important to be very involved in ur childrens lives, know what they're doing, who they're seeing, who their friends r. It only gives u a better perspective on who ur kids r.

Answer 5

This is nothing new. The internet has just opened up a world wide forum for children rather than within their circle of friends. Children always have and always will be curious about sex especially with T.V. Heck I was taught sex education in the 7th grade, which put me at around 13 years old. Not to mention that at one time in history young girls were married by the age of 13. Society has everything to do with it. It is great that you've raised your children with values. But not all parents have values. Not all parents are as involved with their children's lives either. Sadly many parents today aren't raising their children. Television and playstation take up more of our childrens time than family or outdoor activities. And there is no one to blame except for the parents. Grandparents raising their grandchildren is an ever growing trend that is affecting our youth. We are teaching our kids to push their responsiblity elsewhere.
Our society has set the tone for this up bringing. Every generation of parent throughout the last 100 years or so has done everything possible to make life better and easier on their children. Each generation of parent has swore to give their children more than they had. Promoting a society of people who only want the easy way as that has been given to them. Creating a people who expect more for less. With each generation we've made life easier. We need a million dollars worth of equipment to farm nowadays instead of a hard working family. We buy horses for pets rather than transportation. We have become so spoiled that we pay a business to mow our lawn or to clean our house. Rather than teaching our children the value of hard work. Why you ask, because we want our babies to have a better life than we did. These are the values that parents are teaching nowadays. Parents aren't teaching but rather spoiling. Obviously not all parents are like this but sadly alot are. I actually know parents who were looking into getting their 16 year old daughter breast implants because she gets teased about her flat chest. Instead of teaching her to be happy with herself they nurture her every whim by fixing it for her. It's crazy that parents are willing to go this far to protect their children's feelings. I was always taught that the problems we overcome only make us stronger and better people. But if we are sheltered from problems we will not grow as people. So to answer your question, we the adults are the problem. Usually children are a reflection of their parents and too many parents just aren't stepping up to the plate.

Answer 6

I think your daughter waiting is a great idea, unless you're suffocating her and she feels like she can't meet anyone. By the way, for young people and obviously older people, spelling and grammar are a huge deal.

Answer 7

Right down the drain.