im in love with someone and i wont to move in with her and we hav only been goin out 4 months but i went 2 school with her so i have knon her about 5 years and i no evey thing about her and i really do love her shall i move in with her
2007-01-15 06:18:00 · 14 answers · asked by i_love_luceanne 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I think that if you love her, and she feels the same way, you should do it. My husband and I moved in together quickly. It can be done. It is different than living with a roomate, remember that. Make sure that you are really committed. It is kind of like half marrying someone. I would recommend, however, keeping your finances seperate. Couples tend to fight over money alot. Work on a system for paying the bills that would allow you to also keep your own money. (We have 3 accounts. 1 is mine, 1 is his, and 1 is ours.)
I think that you should definitely live together before you get married. I did it, and it was the best thing I ever did.
2007-01-15 06:33:45 · answer #1 · answered by Mandy H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you say no to someone it is spelled "no" if you Know something it is spelled...... "know". so now that we covered that,
just keep in mind that moving in together is just like marriage. you might as well visit the justice of the peace on your way to get the keys made, cuz that is what you are doing--living as a married couple.
even though you have known her for 5 years, that doesn't mean that you two are ready for the type of commitment that you are talking about. you both need to be ready, and you both need to be willing to sacrifice.
just take it slow and don't rush the decision. if you want to be with her for the rest of your life then go for it. if you don't know where the relationship will go, then save yourself the hassle cuz moving sucks!
2007-01-15 06:32:43 · answer #2 · answered by don't be rude. 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I do not think people should live together. Aside from my religious beliefs about it, statistically most people that live together end the relationship in a split not a marriage.
Having said that I did live with my now Husband for 3 years before we got married, but it was a HUGE mistake. And we have suffered problems for it then and now. If I could get a do over, I would NOT do it again. If you love her so much why not court her, treat her like the precious lady she is to you and then propose marriage?
If you say you aren't ready to get married then you aren't ready to live with someone.
2007-01-15 06:24:03 · answer #3 · answered by The OTHER Boelyn Chic 5 · 4⤊ 0⤋
you've both been via divorces. undergo in ideas he's had 2, one better than yours and that is comprehensible for him to be sceptical about yet another dedication. his living house is his convenience zone and his childrens were via his 2 divorces with him so that you'll imagine the kind of trauma they have been via. placed your self of their shoes. i imagine you should describe your perspectives and emotions to him and if he nonetheless refuses to flow in with you....you should elect what you want to do. do you want to proceed with the present affiliation and desire he will ultimately replace his ideas or do you imagine you should end it and discover someones else who'll be keen to flow in with you? it truly is a decision you should make your self.
2016-11-24 19:28:55 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she feels the same way then I think you should move in with her. Living with someone is a lot harder then just dating someone. If you two are thinking about being together in the long run then I think it is a good idea to make sure you can live together first. Hope everything works out!
2007-01-15 06:23:16 · answer #5 · answered by ChristinaN 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
no when you live with someone they tend to change. and you might over crowd her take it from old school keep dating don't shack cause that really can cause BIG PROBLEMS see how she really feels about living together and if you to are on the same page before you make that BIG CHANGE. GOOD LUCK TO YOU
2007-01-15 07:34:55 · answer #6 · answered by deezbrats 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First get married, THEN move in together, and then have children (if you want them). Handling things in this order can save people a lot of heartache and grief.
2007-01-15 06:34:15 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't do it.
It's a lifestyle that can really put a lot of pressure on you when you're not ready for a committed relationship.
2007-01-15 06:29:14 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, moving in will change everything for the worse. Except for your spelling skills.
2007-01-15 08:13:11 · answer #9 · answered by michigan guy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You never truly know someone until you live with them.
I'd say do it but make sure you have a healthy savings account just incase things do not work!!!
2007-01-15 06:22:35 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋