lost my heart and soul, what to do now?

Question

I married the complete love of my life 15mo ago, needless to say it did'nt go so well, we've been splitr for 7months and its like im totaly dead inside, i feel the need for nothing, i don't care or even feel like moving on of finding somebody else. All I want is my family back, for my daughter, my two step boys and husband to be the happy family we use to be. But do to all that had happened, side of the family, and friends would probley disown me and have nothing to do with me w/ we got back together, his feels the same. But, what nobody seems to under stand is that we love each other so much and want nothing more in this world then to be together. I lost my heart, my soul, dreams , since i lost my husband. What to do?????????????/

Answer 1

If you still love each other, try counseling. There is marriage, couples, familiy counseling. Tell your families what you are going through when you see their disapproval. If you still love each other, there should be no reason for you not to be together. Good luck!

Answer 2

Hi D lux,
It's never easy to lose someone you love, and without knowing the whys and hows, it's impossible to even speculate about the possibility of saving your marriage.
There are a couple of things I will say that I hope will help.
If this isn't because of physical abuse, relying or being guided by the opinions of others isn't always what you should do. It's YOUR marriage, noone else's, and as often as not, happy marriages don't have the approval of one's friends and family as to who you chose.
No matter what, the way you feel is not unusual, and can be as bad or worse than losing someone you love to death. One of the biggest things that keep us down when it's what you're going through, is the stuck not knowing how to go on.
Eventually, you will have to decide how you want to do that, because you will move on in some way. It takes time, but without being willing to try to look towards life yet to be, you stay in nowhere land like you are now. For me, I started out ,(when I was ready and able) with just trying to do one thing each day for me, because I liked it. Little things to remind me life was going to go on if I wanted it to or not. But if you don't come to a decision, you'l stay in pain, and your daughter will pay, too.
It's all scarey, I know, but it does get better, even if it seems like forever and you don't care if it does or not.

Answer 3

I don't know the cause of the divorce, but if he didn't abuse u physically or mentally, then I say to heck with your family and his, and do what makes the both of u happy. Thank God u have a man that is willing to work it out. Mine wouldn't, and I still haven't gotten over it after a year. If he is your heart, soul, and dreams then I say go for it and hope for the best. If he decides not to work it out u have to get it together for your kids. U will heal it just takes time. I hope u the best and good luck.

Answer 4

So if you got married 15 months ago and been split for 7 month that means you were only married 8 months! Let's be real here you don't have much time invested in this relationship! If he was really the love of your life I'd think he'd have been around more then 8 months!! Hell a baby takes 9 months and you weren't even with him that long!!!

I think you're blowing things way out of proportion!
Let it go and move on.
You'll find a new love of your life before to long!!

Answer 5

Hold on. You are being negative,HE IS NOT THE ONLY MAN YOU CAN FALL IN LOVE WITH.It for some reason didn't work.Face it . Please listen .This experience has taught you so much.You know what I've learned? Of all the terrible things that have happened in my life I've learned from it and actually gained from it.An example. We can't ALWAYS have what we want. I am saying a prayer for you. You may not believe but it can't hurt.
NO he is not the complete love of your life. Love is not a one shot deal.We are not matched to one single person.

Think about it . there are ,what billions of people in the world?

Answer 6

I think you should just start over. This guy obviously wasn't the love of your life if he did that to you. Forget about him, move on in life, some guy will sweep you off your feet soon enough. Live for your daughter and the future. A guy like that isn't worth this much time on your part.

Answer 7

u cant live by other peoples opinions just b/cause your family/friends wouldnt like it???however u dont say why they wouldnt like it if u got back 2gether maybe it was a volitile realationship that affected the children??in which case i can see where they r coming from...however if u feel that strong about him and feels the same way 2 then nobody elses thoughts or feelings should matter...

Answer 8

I think you need to make a final decision and move on. It would help if you told us the reason you broke up? Is this a relationship that can be repaired in your opinion? Do care more about his love or your friends opinions?

Answer 9

Nobody would stand between me and my family. My parents, brothers, sisters, and everyone else, I love them, but nothing would stop me from keeping my family. Sometimes you just have to do what is right for you, and never mind what everyone else thinks.

Answer 10

Start over..
Don't make the same mistakes again..
The best way to mend a broken heart is with a new love..