I'm so set in my ways and probably will never marry, but it amazes me how so many women don't mind my set ways...I believe it is all about fixing them later on. your thoughts?
2007-01-15 06:10:43 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Yep, that hero complex is non-gender specific.
2007-01-15 06:14:33 · answer #1 · answered by LoneStarLou 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
are you crazy. my husband before i married i never knew he had so many problems. not only is he an alcoholic, but is very slow and simple minded. I have been with him for 13 years now and i keep thinking the man i married will finally come back to me. You can not change someone that has changed on their own I have learned. So divorce may be in my future. and that is something i never thought would happen to me. I got married when i was in my 30's thinking i would never have to worry. Stupid Me!!
2007-01-15 14:16:26 · answer #2 · answered by mymontanagirl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not really, but I guess it depends on the extent of the problems but usually I stay away from men that have a lot of problems. Some i can coupe with, others are just too out there to try and fix. Patience is a MUST!...something I tend to lack.
2007-01-15 14:18:14 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
While it's true that many women are prone to be what I term as 'co-dependent', I personally have no desire to 'fix anybody.' And it's your option to never marry....never married bachelors are actually pretty cool. You have so much more freedom to do as you please, you can enjoy solitude, choose your own friends, set your own goals, travel whenever you please....it's all good. Maybe the women you're interacting with aren't as independent as you would like--not all women are the same.
2007-01-15 14:17:17 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe that some people do like to be with people with problems so that they an fix them. I know people of both sexes who seem to be this way. I dont think it is just a female thing.
2007-01-15 14:14:56 · answer #5 · answered by shelle007 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Women are conditioned to try to solve problems and I believe that many women look at men as a project. I learned my lesson and I know that MEN DON'T CHANGE. My new one is perfect just the way he is.
2007-01-15 14:22:39 · answer #6 · answered by Dovie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think some women are like that....I know I used to be. Then I realized that something wasn't right.....went to therapy and realized I needed to do some work on myself. Now I am getting married to a man that has problems, as we all do, but I don't need to "fix" him.
2007-01-15 14:14:35 · answer #7 · answered by AmyB 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that is true for some women. Like men who have "white knight" syndrome. Its much easier not to look at your own life if you are too busy fixing someone elses. Then again, it's in our nature to be compassionate and nurturing. So maybe its just a mix of nature and nurture?
2007-01-15 14:15:04 · answer #8 · answered by Semi-charmed 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The idea that a woman can fix a man is foolish!
No one can fix or change anyone!
Each person must make up their own mind and make their own choices in life! Because we must all live with the consequences of our choices!
2007-01-15 14:16:30 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, I learned the hard way that you can't MAKE someone happy. The love of a good woman and all that.... anyway, I prefer someone who is capable of fixing his own problems. I am here to be a helpmate, but not a personal shrink.
2007-01-15 14:16:18 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No not at all, maybe its the mother in us, but apart from that, we like a man who will be strong enough to take care of us, we don't always want to play the nurse and mother
Maybe your just a really nice person, someone the woman feel safe with, hope you find your miss right
2007-01-15 14:15:10 · answer #11 · answered by tara 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋