What do I do if I think I'm gay?

Question

I'm 15 and I am pretty sure that I am gay. I keep trying to not think of it and I'm trying to ignore it but I can't help it. I used to like girls, but now I'm turned on by men aswell. I think some people will tell me it's one of those teenage things but I don't think it is, because I have ... looked at stuff on the internet and I'm pretty sure I know what turns me on now.

But the thing is I can't imagine myself being with a man for the rest of my life when I'm older. I want to marry a woman and have our own children, but I have these sexual feelings towards men so I don't know what to do. I still like girls but not as much as men. Maybe I'm bisexual. I haven't really figured that out yet. I don't act like a girl, I don't have one of those voices and I don't dress in pink like they show gay people do on tv.

So what do I do? How do I decide what to do with my life?

Answer 1

Then it's time for you to stop paying attention to all the guys.
And get to the straight scene,
Go find yourself a nice girl:see if she does the same for you as when you see a dude.
Soon you will have figured what is your choice,if you can talk about a choice.
But:whatever the outcome:live a happy life:
And think of the fact that you are very young:you can always change your mind being in a gay relationship.
Wait with labeling yourself as gay,since so far you had no sex with a guy at all.
See what can attract your attention to girls?
Greetings:Rob.xxx
But be content with who you are.

Answer 2

The last question is most telling: "How do I decide what to do with my life?"

Listen - your feelings (desires) follow what you give your attention to. Medical science and psychologists and many gay people think just the opposite....that you give your attention to what you naturally desire. (Hence the assumption that people are "born" gay or they are that way "naturally" and can't help it.)

Horsehocky! If you want to be straight, start thinking about girls and give them your attention.....if you want to be gay, then think about men in a sexual way. (Thinking about having sex with other men doesn't come as naturally as you think though....why is pornography such a "norm" in gay circles? Because people have to literally PROGRAM themselves to be gay!)

However, being homosexual is a highly risk lifestyle that usually leads to early demise....(think AIDS here). There is also a lot of social stigma even now....although the greatest conflict you'll have won't be from the people around you who can't accept you "being gay"...it will be the conflict within yourself since you're basically having to deaden yourself to the way God created you naturally....to be attracted to the opposite sex!

People get really mad when I tell them they have the freedom to choose and how easy it is to change their desires. But that sounds very freeing to me, and I would much rather realize that I truly DO have freedom and choices in my life....including sexual orientation, rather than having those things imposed upon me and then told I have no other choices. In other words, I'm saying you can be the victor, or the victim in your life. BUT YOU GET TO CHOOSE!

SO, to answer your original question: How do I decide? You just give your attention in the direction you want your life to go in. The desires will follow. Choose wisely, it's the only life you got! But isn't it great to know you can truly make it WHATEVER YOU WANT IT TO BE???????????????/

Wishing you all the best -

Answer 3

you at the instant are not born gay, so as that meana you could decide on no remember if or not you could prefer to be gay. there is isn't a different answer. If that's what you prefer then decide for it, if not, then do not hardship approximately it.

Answer 4

Make some gay friends... believe me, there are plenty out there who don't dress in pink and act like the people you see on TV... but meeting some other people with the same feelings can be the best way to figure out exactly who you are and how you fit in :)

Answer 5

I think most gay guys like the company of women as friends and men as relationship partners. Who says you have to be in a long-term relationship with someone of the same sex. If I were you, I'd just be honest with myself and do whatever feels right; don't worry about assigning a label like "gay" or "bisexual"

Answer 6

"(Thinking about having sex with other men doesn't come as naturally as you think though....why is pornography such a "norm" in gay circles? Because people have to literally PROGRAM themselves to be gay!)"

Not true. I find it easier to fantasise about guys that girls. Fantasising about men comes naturally as heterosexual fantasising. Where the hell are you getting your ideas from?

Why do you think porn is such a norm for heterosexual men?



And markie darl. Get a good job and go from there- as you grow up, you'll understand yourself better and be able to make more informed choices.

Answer 7

kid, stop posting so many times!
u can decide what 2 do with ur life by urself
i have already answered 2 of ur questions d'oh
and i think u posted like... 4 times?! askin' the same things

i understand u r confused and i'm really trying 2 be nice but stop saying the same thinks on and on and on pls!!!

Answer 8

Turn and run from these feelings. They are not true. I fell for the lie myself and spent 8 years being miserable and hating life. You are not gay. You must speak this truth over yourself every time these feelings surface. I have come through it and my attractions toward men have returned and I'm so much happier. It is overwhelming to feel that way, but you have to fight it. Don't let yourself believe the lie or it will eat you alive.

Answer 9

your confused by your sexuality the best thing is to experiment with a man and find out for sure and you my never stick to one sex but at least you'll no for sure and remember not all gay men talk like girls that just means they have more female hormones then male hormones I believe that someone is born gay not just become gay

Answer 10

maybe ur bisexual. ever think u like girls and guys. but if u only like guys then ur gay. im straight but sometimes think im bi. its normal but if ur gay ur gay who cares. its ur life do not let any1 EVER tell u u have to be straight like the moron that answered a couple of questions up. its like u telling me to be gay i cant. and its not ur fault u were born that way or u have more estrogen than testosterone. no big deal. people are stupid.