I'm 15, and I always thought I was straight and liked girls and I do like girls, but I have started being attracted to guys. I like to workout alot so I sometimes look at those fitness magazines, and I think maybe because of that It's making me like guys or something? Because whenever I'm in the change room after gym class I get turned on when the other guys take off their shirts. I find myself always looking at men now and not girls. I was at the mall with my friends on the weekend and we went into Abercrombie, and they had one of the staff standing at the front with his shirt half open and I wanted to look at him but didn't want my friends to get suspicious. Even when I masturbate I think of guys, and I only used to think of girls.
I want it to STOP because I dont want to be gay. I want to me normal and I can't get these thoughts out of my head!! What do I do to stop this? PLZ help me.
2007-01-15 05:39:22 · 16 answers · asked by danhh 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
oh please ... don't tell me this "it's a teenage thing" ... no it's not, this is different. I am attracted to men, and I actually think about it all the time. Girls almost turn me off now, that's not just some sort of teenage growing up thing.
2007-01-15 05:50:59 · update #1
mark, you ARE normal.. some of us are born straight, some are born gay, some are born bi. some are born left handed, some are born right handed, some of us have a small penis, some of us have a big penis.. this is all normal and all part of the natural process of being human.
society roles and norms are the only things that want to give a perception that being these things aren't normal.
if you like girls, then you are not gay.. sounds like you are mostly bisexual. there is nothing wrong with looking at guys and getting turned on by guys.. if you really do love girls, then you can still live what society would consider a "normal" life as it sounds like you could be happy with a girl.
2007-01-15 05:46:52 · answer #1 · answered by Jeff 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
It's totally normal for someone who is straight to feel attraction to people of the same sex sometimes, especially at your age. At the same time, it is totally normal to be gay or bisexual too. Nobody can help what they are attracted to. Looking at magazines doesn't make you gay. You just are what you are.
At the age of 15 you are still figuring things out. You don't have to label yourself yet. You also don't have to be ashamed. When you are a little bit older you will start making decisions about who you want to date. Maybe you will stick with girls, or maybe you will be bisexual. Or maybe you will find that you prefer guys. Many people experiment a little bit before they figure out who they're really attracted to. Some people have gay feelings, but they are still straight so they never act on them, they just have fantasies. The important things to remember are that being gay is not wrong or abnormal, and that having gay thoughts doesn't necessarily make you gay. Just be yourself.
2007-01-15 05:56:49 · answer #2 · answered by dark_phoenix 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Miguel:
Of course you always thought you were straight you grew up seeing men and women kiss and weddings and soap operas. How old were you before you knew a homosexual who was out?
No one told you, that you may be one, so you initially were like okay I'm straight and I'm supposed to grow up and like girls, have kids and get old.
I only heard of bisexuals that became "gay" after having sex. Looking at photos won't do anything. I thought for a while that I would out grow it. I looked at girls tried to tell myself I wasn't a queer, but you know reality and the desire for a true loving relationship won out. Now I'm so happy with a boy that really cares for me.
You may cry and have a fit, but please don't marry to make it go away, because it won't. In high school one of the most buffed up guys I found out senior year he was gay =D, so don't be taking stereotypes they really hurt us find our selves. Everyone thinks... oh I don't wear a pink dress so I'm not queer, what makes you gay is same sex attraction nothing else. Everything else is what makes you different and unique and that maybe cross dressing, make up, or working out, sports whatever is your passion it doesn't affect your orientation (yes heterosexuals cross-dress believe it!).
Good luck finding yourself.
2007-01-18 11:47:29 · answer #3 · answered by Alim 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should not try to stop it if you are gay then you are. There is nothing wrong with being gay. You are young yet you can still end up straight. Why don't you just focus on just being yourself and let everything just fall into place. Later when you are older then try some experimenting with someone you trust very much. However for now don't worry about it. The gay lifestyle is not all that bad.
2007-01-15 06:40:28 · answer #4 · answered by kbrearley2001 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You wanted to have a body like those guys in the magazines and some of those guys are very handsome
Some look a lots like young girls if you think about it
So you not guy just attracted to something or someone that is beautiful.
2007-01-15 05:45:23 · answer #5 · answered by Linda 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I seriously advise you too completely ignore any christian telling you your very existence is wrong. They are liars.
You can only be happy by accepting yourself- You have to realize that attraction is not a choice. If you like guys, thats fine. (So do I, lol.) I'm lucky enough to come from a college where people are openly gay, and its accepted as normality. I wish you the best of luck in coming to terms with yourself and being accepted. x
-Slotracing.
2007-01-15 05:51:23 · answer #6 · answered by Dr. Socks 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Normal is a state of mind and therefore relative.
Being attracted to the same sex is a part of "normal" adolescence. It's a growing process. You are also experiencing hormone fluctualtions which may be causing your feelings to change.
Today's society tells us we need to be one way or another. I feel that your sexual preference is what is right for you. If you continue to have thoughts and feelings for the same sex, maybe it is normal for you. Don't get down on yourself because you think you might be gay. You never know, in a year you might be back to girls. If not, it is your business and what you feel most comfortable with that matters. No one els should tell you how to feel or who to love.
Good luck!
2007-01-15 05:47:09 · answer #7 · answered by Nepetarias 6 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Don't be afraid of what is considered normal or upnormal by other people. Follow your heart.If you wanna hock up with girls, then stop exposing yourself to the sexy guys. If you still feel turned off by girls, then there's nothing wrong with being happy the way you and only you wanna be.
2007-01-19 05:31:20 · answer #8 · answered by gay but I can't say ! 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im fifteen.
This is exactly what happened to me.
I used to like girls until i was like 12 and a half.
Then i started to you know like guys and all those sexual dessires.
I didn't wanna be.
But i laid on my bed and thought about it.
And it sunked in.
I use to think i was bisexual.
but i didnt feel attracted to girls anymore.
I used to, until like 1 year ago.
Now Im out to my friends and school but not at home.
I say im bi.
but i think im gay.
No offense to the lesbians, i lova yall to death,
But guys are hot!
Oh god the thought of a guys touch... caress... kiss... its hot!
dont worry it will be ok
if you need to talk to someone im here
im ur age and i wont tell you its a face
its the exact same story i had
im happier than ive ever been
msg me in yahoo messenger at lupi_0525 if u want
hang in there
2007-01-15 06:02:11 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
do not let anyone put a label on you, you are what you are. honestly at your age, you probably have no idea who you are yet. don't be in a hurry to say you are this way or that way. worry about school work and getting to university.
there is nothing wrong with being gay. there is alot wrong with telling yourself lies. you are at the age where you are going through alot of changes. give yourself time to grow and settle down. but most importantly, do not try to be something you are not.
2007-01-15 05:50:20 · answer #10 · answered by Tegarst 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋