after 17 years and countless turmoils he says he doesnt love dont know if he ever did hes been cheating on me and now he wants a divoce and for me to move to another state with my kids taking only the 2 suitcases im allowed on the plane. im afraid hell get rid of my stuff and believe hes going to regret taking such extreme measures and will want me back my heart hurts and im mad but i dont feel like fighting to keep him how do i save face and find a new relationship where i dont know anybody and how do i make sure i get the compensation i deserve hes maxed out all our credit on his show car and says he cant help me financially right now do i accept that and ask for more later
2007-01-15 05:35:24 · 16 answers · asked by sniffles2008 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
all our kids are grown
2007-01-15 05:50:24 · update #1
Sorry to hear what you're going through. Unfortunately, your story is all to familiar to many including myself.
He's already made his decision so I suggest you just pack your bags and go. He's the one that's loosing here and maybe one day he'll realize the mistake he's made and it's going to be too late. You and your children deserve better.
Do you have any family or friends you can stay with for just a little while? At least until you can get back on your feet. I know life is hard right now and it's difficult to see a brighter tomorrow. But I promise you you'll get through this. This experience will only make you stronger and wiser. Get as much help and support as you can. There are many churches and non profit organizations that can help you with fiances, food, clothing, furniture, etc. Also, don't let him tell you that he cannot pay child support right now. That's not your problem. It's his obligation. Go to your local City Hall or Town Hall and file for child support. Let them deal with him.
Hang in there. Things will get better and there is light at the end of the tunnel. Stay strong for you and for your kids. Take care of yourself!!
2007-01-15 05:58:27 · answer #1 · answered by jazz_lover_25 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know your heart is broken and it seems like the end, but it's not. Your propably going to think 17 yrs. of your life is wasted, but it wasn't. You have (not sure how many) wonderful kids that love you. This, believe it or not, can make your relationship with them stronger. You will have to band together. Let him want you back, but don't take him back. Be sure you get a good attorney so you are able to get alimony. Lets face it...after seventeen years you deserve it. When you think on this be glad it happened now and your not stuck in this relationship for another 17 yrs. before he pulls this crap. You'll be fine. Just hang in there. If you ask for guidance God will give it.
2007-01-15 07:36:23 · answer #2 · answered by mccmb02 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK I've been through countless divorces with my ex's and even one of my own get a good attorney and go after him for everything you can get girl he sounds like a total loser and you deserve better don't let him get to you he has to support his kids and if he don't they will lock him up so move on girlfriend no man deserves a good woman if hes going to cheat on her and want everything expecting to do nothing himself kick his butt to the curb make him pay hes cheated and that's the worse thing he could do but wanting you to leave with nothing and with kids hes messed in the head be strong girlfriend don't bow down to him, hope this helps....
2007-01-15 05:44:09 · answer #3 · answered by sexyone 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh hell no
1 call a lawyer that is adultery
2 you have kids he cant kick you out he has to leave the house
3 no matter how much he saids he doesnt have any money by law he has to support you and your children
if i was you i would be calling a lawyer right now dont give him the pleasure of keeping all and bringing a new women to your house****
2007-01-15 05:41:07 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't accept that, if a judge says for him to pay a certain amount then he will do so or go to jail, period. That is no longer a concern of yours. There are all kinds of jerks out there but there are all kinds of good guy's out there too! Give yourself a chance and live a little. Good luck.
2007-01-15 05:41:39 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes there is!
The quickest way to find it is with a few dozen beers.
Get back on that horse. Well perhaps a different one. Hey why not up grade to a younger version. There are plenty of them out there!
2007-01-15 06:25:26 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him to kiss your ***, you're not going anywhere. Suggest he leave and take 2 suitcases and you cannot and will not help him out so don't get any funny ideas about asking you now or later.
2007-01-15 06:21:17 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, there IS life after anything (well, except death). Call an attorney a.s.a.p., find a friend to help you, you're not thinking clearly now, but it'll pass. No, he will not want you back, but it's ok - you can fight it out. Good luck. TALK TO A GOOD FRIEND.
2007-01-15 06:03:21 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move on if he's been cheating on you you and your children don't need that crap!!! It's painful but in time all will be healed and move on. Take him to court and get alimony and child support. If he is ordered to pay it and doesn't then they will take him to jail. Go for everything you can. Good luck!!
2007-01-15 05:41:42 · answer #9 · answered by lem 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course there is life after heartache. You must protect yourself though. Get a lawyer and get what is do you, if that means he has to sell his "Show Car", oh well!!!!
2007-01-15 05:42:24 · answer #10 · answered by kitkat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋