Do counselors work??

Question

Do counselors work??
I have been with my boyfriend for coming on a year. A few weeks ago I decided that we fight way to much and that he should move out...so he did. He wants me to go see a counselor with him. What are some experinces??? Good or bad

Answer 1

If you have good counselor you will find them asking some very hard questions that you may not want to answer but It only makes you take a harder look at yourself and your relationship. If you are willing to put in the hard work good or bad you will come out for the better.Even if it means that you and your boyfriend are not going to get back together as a couple.
I have seen counselors many times in my life and it has always been a growing experience good with the bad. Wish you well!!!

Answer 2

I always went to a counselor when I was younger. My counselor really helped me through things.

I think your boyfriend is showing a lot of effort in asking to go see a counselor with him. He really wants the relationship to work out.

I say go for it. It's worth a try. Atleast you won't look back and wonder what would've happened if you atleast gave the counseling idea a try.

Answer 3

My husband and I went to a counsellor a few years ago, and the counsellor idea only works if you are willing to sit there and listen and not try to prove your point and put all the blame on the other person. I personally think that if you are going to see a counsellor after only a year, maybe the relationship isn't all it is cracked up to be. The counsellor helped us, but i must stress the fact of listening to her or him and not freaking out if you hear something you don't want to hear.

Answer 4

Sometimes you have to shop around for one that fits both your needs and one in which you really feel CARES!!

I've had mostly BAD experiences.
They either couldn't keep personal info. from other clients ( was in a very small town).
I had one too, which was self hypnoseing me for sever anxiety, and it just wasn't working one day, and I turn around and he was masterbating to a hustler magazine.....no kidding!! needless to say, I never returned.

Just make sure your comfortable with who you see,

Answer 5

Sounds like you both need to move on, you are barely one year into the relationship and already need counseling??? I dont want to imagine what your relationship would be like, 3 years into it.

Answer 6

As a therapist i recommend you see a real marriage therapist...ask to see credentials...but the big question would be why? What is your motivation?

Answer 7

I think most councelor's goals are not to solve you problems but to get you to come to as many sessions as possible. So I would not waste time or money.

Answer 8

yes they do

Answer 9

too much