On new years eve my partner was very drunk, when he is like this he never remebers anything he has said. How ever we are engaged and living together (for 4 years) and he told me in his drunken stupor that he had been unfaitfull 4 times but it only counts as once as it was with the same person. I took a deep breath and ignored it then as I did not want it to spoil new year. He has never mentioned it since. What do I do????????????? Do I confront him and lose my home or ignor it like he has not said anything?
2007-01-15 05:29:19 · 30 answers · asked by kay s 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
stop being weak and stand up for yourself.
2007-01-15 22:50:23 · answer #1 · answered by fajita 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you ok with knowing that he will never be faithful to you? Are you all right with not being the only person in your man's life? If so, then feel free to ignore the situation. If you are willing to be the security relationship at home while he goes off and screws whenever he feels like it, go ahead. Otherwise you need to confront him. Maybe with counseling, he can change his ways. But as it is, he obviously feels he has free rein to do whatever he wants.
2007-01-15 05:35:41 · answer #2 · answered by Beth B 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
1. Does it hurt?
If the answer is yes and you say nothing., you are living a lie and being untrue to yourself.
2. Does it bother you?
If yes, see above. If no, then continue to carry on as you are.
Your home can be replaced. You are a lapdog at the moment and I don't know you but I think everyone on this earth deserves to be respected as a human being. Your partner does not respect himself, therefore, he cannot extend respect to you.
Find out for certain and if the answer breaks your heart, then YOU know what you must do.
2007-01-15 05:35:59 · answer #3 · answered by KD 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
If he's cheated once he'll probably do it again can you live with that? I couldn't. Sort your finances out before confronting so you know you have somewhere to go if it all goes wrong, get checked out at the clinic whatever he says (its free and relieves doubts) and best of luck whatever you do!
2007-01-16 03:29:19 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can't see how you could lose your home over this!
The best thing for you to do is to ask him outright- when this happened and why?
If it was me, then there is no way I could ignore it and act as if it never happened- it would just eat away at you and lets face it...the next time he goes out on his own then will you trust him 100%?
A good relationship is based on trust so if you don't clear this up then you are on a downward slope!
Good Luck!
2007-01-15 06:15:52 · answer #5 · answered by funky mama 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I agree with Chewychum? Get him very drunk and ask
the same question again. Then you got proof.
If you don,t want to do that just ask him. Why should
you have to live with the worry? Either way you want to
know!
2007-01-19 01:54:37 · answer #6 · answered by Minxy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, I know you love him.But, do you really want to be with someone that cheated on you. Good luck on the rest of your life your in for a bumpy ride.Get him drunk again and write down all the info so when you confront him he can say its not true.
2007-01-15 05:45:05 · answer #7 · answered by melly 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Oooo
Normally the truth comes out when someone is drunk, so its not nice for you, i'm sure.
If you keep it bottled up, it could be on your mind forever.
I guess you have to bite the bullet and confront him about it.
Be calm and decide what you want to do once he's admitted what hes done while hes sober.
If you can't forgive him, then you know what you need to do.
2007-01-15 05:34:18 · answer #8 · answered by Nathan 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You should sit him down and confront him, talk about it. If you are engaged and living together you have a right to know wether you want to continue with the relationship or not.
2007-01-15 05:37:58 · answer #9 · answered by marisanj 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I feel for you hun,,it's sad because you want to know but then you are tied because your home is on the line aswell, but it might build up inside then all of a sudden it will all come out,i hope you get to the bottom of it all and i wish you all the luck.xx
2007-01-15 05:42:26 · answer #10 · answered by kimble 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I would think if it was me, i would have to say something,if only in passing, should this happen again, i would carry some sort of tape, can a mobile be used that way? then you can play it back to him, just a thought.
2007-01-15 08:35:19 · answer #11 · answered by nessie 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋