I am 13 and lately I am thinking that i want a baby! I hate thinking about that, because I don't want to go through telling my parents and friends and getting pregnant. And I want to save my self until marriage too, but i want a baby now?? I don't even know why I want a baby or why I want to be pregnant! Ahhh.... How can I make myself realize that my life will go down the drain now if I have a baby? HELP ME! Please no rude or sarcastic answers! Thanks!
2007-01-15 05:27:54 · 26 answers · asked by H A N N A H(: 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
Get a baby sitting job. You won't want any babies for a long time.
But, your probley just going through a phase right now. Don't worry about it too much. Try taking your mind off of it.
2007-01-15 05:32:31 · answer #1 · answered by Ashley 4 · 12⤊ 0⤋
It's normal for you to feel like you want a baby if you're a female. I feel the same way and I'm 20. Whatever you do, don't get pregnant. You can close the void in your heart very easily by finding something to replace the baby in your mind. Get a pet. If your parents will let you, get a dog or a cat, and if they wont, get a smaller pet like a beta fish or a turtle, maybe a hampster. This way you will have something of your own that you can take care of and give your love to, and you will forget about having a baby. You are too young, and you know that you aren't ready. This should work for you but if it doesn't you may want to talk to your parents or go to planned parenthood and talk to someone there.
2007-01-15 06:29:28 · answer #2 · answered by L 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not unusual to feel like that at your age. Your body is capable of producing a baby so your hormones are making you feel like that. Also babies are lovely. They are designed to be appealing, believe me they wouldn't survive long if they weren't. However you are clearly clever enough to know that this is not the really the stage in life that you would want to have a baby. You have plenty of time to do that. You do not have plenty of time to enjoy being a teenager, that doesn't last long.
The best way of truly appreciating what having a baby would me is to spend a bit of time caring for one. See if you can babysit for any friends and neighbours. Once you discover for yourself that, whilst babies are delightful, looking after them is often hard work, lonely, boring, and monotonous, you might not be so ready to take one on. Being a mother is one of the most fantastic and amazing things you can do but you want to enjoy the experience as much as possible. How much will you enjoy it if you are still trying to fit in your studies, if you are missing your friends, wishing you could pop out to the cinema or to the shops, it baby hasn't stopped screaming for 4 hours and you have no idea why.
Also you would have no option but to become a single parent, ask any single parent, that is extremely hard work, it's bad enough being one of 2 parents. And finally all the joy of having a little baby will be over before you are old enough to do A levels. Babyhood is a very short lived phase and one of the most special, do you really want to have that part of your life over so quick? Sure you can have more babies but then you have year and years of nappy changing and school runs, or maybe a big gap between your children so you don't have the fun of watching them grow up together.
You have a right to live your life whatever way you choose, but you are considering a choice which is going to have a massive impact not just on you, but on everybody who cares about you and you child who you will quickly learn once you do become a parent is the single most important person in the world. Consider that choice with great care.
good luck
2007-01-15 06:24:10 · answer #3 · answered by gerrifriend 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ashley is right. Babysit for 3 hours and you'll be cured. Plus at 13 if you get pregnant you will mess up your life and your boyfriend's life. Thirteen is way too young to have children because often the female organs are not fully developed and you can have trouble further along in life. How can you support this baby? Welfare doesn't pay enough to take good care of babies. Your mother has raised her children or at least to age 13 and she doesn't need 2 babies - you and your baby.
2007-01-15 06:24:26 · answer #4 · answered by Jeancommunicates 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't see why you would want a baby either. A baby is the type of responsibility that girls your age aren't ready for. At 13, you prolly hadn't begun high school yet and you're not old enough to work, so there ain't no way in hell you could support a child. In other words, if your mom refuses to help with the baby, you're totally screwed. Wait till after college and then you'll be ready for a child. You got a whole lifetime ahead of you. Don't throw ur lfe away.
2007-01-15 08:31:54 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Think of it this way. If you have a baby at 13/14, you will miss high school, college, university, parties, bars, and you will not do anything with your life. You will have to work minimum wage jobs just to try and survive. Does that sound horrible enough? I can go on about what it's like to be a teen mom. Make a life for yourself first, then you can have a good life for both you and your baby.
2007-01-15 05:38:23 · answer #6 · answered by offroadmolly 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I am going to say that is just hormones talking. I wanted a baby a few years back at the worst time, unemployed, just moved cross county, had no friends close to me and we were running out of money. To easy my urges my husband bought me a puppy so I could baby it and it helped. For you I would speak to your mom about your hormones raging and see if she can get you an appt with a psychologist to deal with your issues and feelings and most importantly keep your legs together. Having a child now would be very tramatic to your body, I was 28 when I had my first and it was still very hard on me with multiple trips to the hospital with risks to my own health as well as the babies.
2007-01-15 05:34:45 · answer #7 · answered by appylover 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Have try to talk to a counselor? Do you have lil sis/brothers? May be you need to spend more time around lillte ones! Try to baby-sit, having a baby is not like having a doll. Get into sports or any other activities to keep yourself busy. Think about what you want for yourself in the future and how you can accomplish it. Remember that what ever you do today will affect you tomorrow! Be smart...and take the right choices! :0)
2007-01-15 05:44:33 · answer #8 · answered by Nena S 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Ya know, I kind thought that myself at 14 and I was pregnant at 15. Find a nice family to babysit for and you'll see how much work babies are! You can get some of that baby love out that way too.
2007-01-15 05:33:56 · answer #9 · answered by just me 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie, if you want a baby at 13 you seriously have some issues that need to be resolved. You need to speak to a trusted adult, whether or not that adult is a parent, and tell them what you're feeling. Maybe if you hear someone tell you in "real life" that having a baby at 13 is a bad idea, then you will believe it.
Maybe you have some kind of maternal instinct going on right now. Nurture it by babysitting or getting a puppy. But don't get pregnant. You have your whole life ahead of you and plenty of time to get pregnant 20 years from now!
2007-01-15 06:45:55 · answer #10 · answered by Am I. Incognito 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I know exactly how you feel. I went through that stage when I first got my period. I had just turned 13 and I felt like a woman and I could have a baby and such. But, having always wanted to save myself for marriage, I decided to keep on waiting. I did not want to disappoint my parents, my family, or even myself. I just wrote down my feelings every night before going to bed. It gave me a release and after about a month total, I was completely rid of the idea. lol.
Now whenever I'm like, "Awww, what an adorable baby, I wish I had one", I'll go back and read those entries, laugh, and move on. lol. But, just stick to your guns and I applaud you for saving yourself for marriage. (Also, remember, pregnancy obviously comes from sex. Sex is not safe...STDs, bad reputations, players, etc. Stay away from highschool drama. =])
2007-01-15 06:21:16 · answer #11 · answered by purplmonkeez 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋