Okay, I'm almost 25 years old, I have been with my ex husband since I was 18. We married when I was 18 and divorced when I was 20 for reasons other then seperating. I have always lived with him since the age of 18 and have 2 children, 5 and 3. Things have not been going well for about 9 months, but we are trying to work it out for the children. My ex husband and I only see each other, and still call each other husband and wife. I have never worked since I've been with him and I'm going to school right now. I heard him on the phone the other day and he was saying something about trying to end our situation before June, since that will be 7 years that we've been together. He has been asking me to move, even though we were married when we aquired the house, its in his grandmothers name, so he feels that he can make leave. So I'm wondering if I'm entitled to any sort of support even after a divorce never actually seperating till now?
2007-01-15 05:27:26 · 17 answers · asked by Tara 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You have a really messed up situation, maybe you should try getting a job!!
2007-01-15 05:31:09 · answer #1 · answered by The_Game 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
This is a bad situation all the way around. Call a lawyer pronto! Do it now! He took advantage of your youth that is the fact, but there is nothing you can do about the past. Now you MUST consider your children and make sure that the are financial protected. Call all of your friends and family and ask them for a divorce attorney referral. If they know of no one contact the Bar Association. You obviously have a computer, do some research and GET THEE TO A LAWYER!!!!
And stop seeing the puss! Good God you're 25 stop wasting your time on this man who wants to kick you to the streets.
Oh, but to specifically answer your question: YES!!! Go see a lawyer and get it.
2007-01-15 05:38:26 · answer #2 · answered by amyaliceco 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some states have alomony but all states have child support. That should have been set up at the time of divorce. And it was if you have any kind of lawyer at all. I would not stay around if he didn't want me. Where are your parents? My ex tried to take the house that my daddy left to me. If it was left to him in the Will, it may be impossible for you to have any part of it. Hopefully you're getting at least $300 a month per child if you won custody. At your age you should be able to get a job easily. Your 5 year old will be in school, so you should only have to pay for daycare for one child. Depending on how long you have left to finish school you may have to take a break from it and take it back up when you get on your feet.
I thought that I couldn't make it on my own with two children. I was homeschooling and had to leave the house that my daddy left to me because my ex is bipolar and became life threatening to us. The police wouldn't make him leave my house, so I had to leave for safety sake. I moved in with my mother and soon realized that I had to stop homeschooling my children so that I could support them. I first went to work at a fast food place at the age of 40. I had been a Full-charge Bookkeeper before I had children, but it had been 12 years since I had worked. So I had to take what I could. It made ends meet well enough that I was able to go through the USDA Rural Housing Developement to buy a house. You have no idea how wonderful it is to know that you're able to make it on your own until you've succeeded. I was able to afford a NICE 3 bedroom 2 bath home, by myself, and make a safe, happy life for my children.
Don't give up, but don't let yourself be dependent on a man who doesn't want you. You are young. If you want a man, there's going to be one out there for you that actually wants you. I didn't find mine until I fully decided that I was just fine on my own. I never wanted to even date again. You'll make it and you'll be fine. Just don't let him feel like he's the reason that you make it. What ever money that the attorney general, child support division, demands the he gives you, is what he SHOULD give. Their HIS children too. He should have to support them. When you begin to make it on your own, don't forget that. Don't ever let him make you feel guilty for "making" him give "you" money. Sure the money will go to the bills, but that's supporting the children. Good Luck and don't let life get you down.
2007-01-15 06:03:47 · answer #3 · answered by Angel L 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No...you need to be able to move on and leave him. There are women who are in worse situations than you are, and make do with no man, and twice as many kids. Just start fresh, get your degree from school, get a good job, take care of YOUR kids, and do you, because you can do bad all by yourself. You can stand tall and live life without that man, although it is easier said than done, it will work out for you in the long run!!
2007-01-15 05:32:58 · answer #4 · answered by kid09 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Start divorce proceedings and ask the courts for child support and ALIMONEY!!
It's NOT right that you have to leave because the house is in his family's name! BUT the courts may feel different about it.
Get all you can from this man.
He should have to find a new place to live, if the kids are with YOU.
2007-01-15 05:32:07 · answer #5 · answered by peggin_beast 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Too bad about the house situation. But yes you can certainly get spousal support, the amount will be according to how much he makes. He also has to pay child support for the two children. Don't worry you will be okay.
2007-01-15 05:36:48 · answer #6 · answered by sweetpea 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to talk to a lawyer to find out what your legal rights are.
You divorced, but didn't separate.
Your ex just might of played you big time, however that really depends on how you can manage the child support which he will still have to pay.
2007-01-15 06:15:01 · answer #7 · answered by snack_daddy10 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Spousal support is rarely granted anymore. That's one of the things that went out with the concept of equal rights for women.
A man is no longer expected to take care of his ex-wife - she is expected to be self-sufficient. He is only responsible for supporting his children.
2007-01-15 05:32:51 · answer #8 · answered by Meg M 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
depends on your state... I live in TEXAS and u cannot even attempt to acquire spousal support until u have been married for 10 years or more....so from TEXAS no---u are not entitled to spousal support...better get a job now
2007-01-15 05:31:52 · answer #9 · answered by sunbun 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why after getting divorced did you remain together and why haven't you worked in in your adult life? Go talk to a Lawyer if you want your question answered correctly.
2007-01-15 05:41:23 · answer #10 · answered by Gremlin 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not likely but he will be responsible for child support which may be of some help to you .
2007-01-15 05:31:17 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋