Can you help me please with this anxiety? I have this unusual problem?
I get sooooo anxious sometimes with some men. But its not what you think. I don't like them AT ALL. I get some of the symptoms of anxiety that they interpret as "I like them" but I DON'T I swear to God!!! Its a phobia but it is worse because of my interpretation of what they think of me (Its wrong) And I get embarrassed. Please please help...this has been going on for years...
2007-01-15 05:27:03 · 6 answers · asked by Rachel T. 2 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Hi. This sounds like the obvious 'couch question' but what is your relationship like with your father?
It sounds as if you grew up with men who were critical of you and you have based your self-worth, self-esteem on that. Why else would you care enough to 'panic' around people you don't care for?
I would hope that you did not suffer from sexual abuse as a child as that is a common response from that curse.
Give me more feedback to see if we can nail the root of your fears.
2007-01-15 05:32:14 · answer #1 · answered by Darbo 3 · 5⤊ 0⤋
You really need to be more explicit! If I understand correctly, you think you suffer from anxiety because you think you make men feel that you are attracted to them when in fact you're not? If that's the case, look in the mirror and do the best acting you've ever done. Imagine yourself in front of a guy. Think of what you would say, and say it out loud. See which reactions could be interpreted as "attraction", and try your best to replace them with more neutral behaviours.
The idea of "phobia" has a lot of meanings nowadays, same like with most of the psychological diagnoses, but psychologically speaking what you are going through is not a phobia, and - please, trust me - you wouldn't want to have a phobia!
My unprofessional opinion as an outsider who only knows you from this short description, is that you would actually want men, or certain men to be attracted to you, and this mechanism backfires, causing you to believe that it is you transmitting the wrong messages. Think of it! It might be this, it might be something else, what I can tell you though is that you should start looking at yourself, and start realizing that you are a strong, beautiful and young person, and start worrying less about how others feel about you, and more about how You feel about others!
2007-01-15 05:41:43 · answer #2 · answered by LoreCore 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
What are you doing to make them feel this way? Flirting or acting too concerned or talking with them too much? Or are you one of these people who has an ora about you, that you are just so likable? Most men think you like them, when you are attentive to them and listen and remember body language says a lot too. We have to watch that as well. If there's a misunderstanding, you might want to just tell them upfront, "This is my personality and I think you are taking me the wrong way". ~~What ever you do, don't lead him on.
2007-01-15 05:35:05 · answer #3 · answered by Julie M 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
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2016-09-08 02:01:50 · answer #4 · answered by huenke 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
gain a lil bit of self confidence through positive talk. when you are around them try to relax. breath. and try not too think too much about your anxiety. i'm not a professional so im not sure why
2007-01-15 05:39:22 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe it's your body telling you that you shouldn't hang out with these guys that you don't like. Listen to you intuition.
2007-01-15 05:41:55 · answer #6 · answered by kisses 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋