I am an 18 yr. old guy that knows a 23 yr. old girl. She is pretty and I have told her that. I have known this girl for a VERY long time now. She has been like a sister to me. I told her that I would like it if we went out on a date. She said she looks at me like I'm her little brother and thought we should just be friends. Well, people kept telling me I had a chance with her so I kept trying. Eventually, she got so pissed off that she told me to stay away. Well, we got that worked out. I found out that she had a girlfriend in Texas. She's moving from Indiana to Texas for awhile but she said she'll be back. Her girlfriend, who knew about our little argument, told my best friend to stay away from me and never talk to me again. I was just starting to change my ways and my best friend seen that. But it didn't matter bc she's going to listen to her girlfriend. Now my best friend wants nothing to do with me anymore. What can I do now and how can I keep my mind off of this? It really hurts.
2007-01-15 05:13:12 · 11 answers · asked by Brandon G 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
For right now; don't do anything. The situaton is fueld right now with emotions riding high. Let things cool off a bit. Don't ask or say anything about anyone and just do your own thing. I know it hurts, and you're anxious to talk with her again; but that will make her more mad and maybe freak her out. Just wait things out =)
2007-01-15 06:07:40 · answer #1 · answered by suzlaa1971 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry for you... This often happens with opposite sex friends.. One of you eventually start liking the other for more than a friend.. And when it is not a mutual attraction, it becomes a very awkward situation... You could talk to her and tell her that you want to be friends and only friends but you know that's not really the truth and so does she since you have already crossed the line into wanting more and told her so.. So in all honesty if you did decide to remain friends it would never be the same, she would know you want more and you would still want more cause you cant just wash your feeling under a rug somewhere..Personally I believe you can remain distant friends and maybe as time passes and you find someone else that you want to have a relationship with you and your old friend will look back on it all and be ok with what had happened.. I say let it go and give her some space.. cause essentially you are badgering her about it which makes you look desperate and she will retreat even farther away.. I know it hurts but try to understand that she doesn't share the same feelings toward you as you do for her...Good luck, and stay strong you will be OK in time..
2007-01-15 05:42:36 · answer #2 · answered by ♥ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Awww. poor guy. Talk to your parents. Let them know what's going on in your life and hang out with them, family is always there for you. Hang out with your guys and maybe play pool to keep a clear head. The world is full of people, you will meet new people. Go for a walk or jog. Stay active. Good Luck, Sweetie.
2007-01-15 05:25:03 · answer #3 · answered by rspheart 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let her go. I'm sure her girlfriend feels uncomfortable because you kept pushing the issue of going out with her even after she said "No." Just don't talk to her for several months, don't call, write, etc... If she calls you to chat, then she is your friend. If she doesn't, then you need to get over her anyway.
2007-01-15 05:32:51 · answer #4 · answered by Beth B 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you just got to talk to her one more time no matter if her girlfriend said stay away, you have to talk to her and tell her how much she means to you..(as a friend and nothing else) then maybe something can be worked out. Good luck
2007-01-15 05:18:50 · answer #5 · answered by felicialovesjoshua 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe you should get a girlfriend to get you mind off things or you can talk to one of you close friends, it'll make you feel better
2007-01-15 05:19:29 · answer #6 · answered by starbrigth001 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Apologize to her and everyone around her and ask her to accept your apology and tell her that it was just a misunderstanding.
2007-01-15 05:22:35 · answer #7 · answered by Gabby 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't push it. stay out of contact with her for awhile.
2007-01-15 05:20:36 · answer #8 · answered by S 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what made you think you had a chance with an older lesbian?
2007-01-15 05:41:15 · answer #9 · answered by wonder woman 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
apologize and say u will not ask anymore
2007-01-15 05:27:35 · answer #10 · answered by Zack 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋