The situation is that *somebody's* wife has been busted cheating like 2-3 times talking on the internet with guys and having web/phone sex but insists that it is innocent because she loves her husband and he should know that she would *never* meet any of these guys it is just for fun. She got busted the first time and swore off of it. A year later the husband sees an e-mail sent to an old flame that is suspicious. He further investigates and she hasn't stopped but only created a new e-mail address to have the mail sent to. She says that his mistrust is forcing her to do it while for a year he hadn't mentioned it once. After getting busted twice and caught in about 15 lies the husband discovers that she has actually called the guy and professes to "care" about him but does not love him. The wife demands to be trusted or the relationship cannot work THE SAME DAY and demands to have total privacy of her e-mail box and intenet time. The husband is thinking of throwing her out at the curb.
2007-01-15 05:03:46 · 38 answers · asked by Magnus01 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
What complicates matters is that the husband and wife have just been reuinted after a long absence and the wife is not working. The husband does not want her and the baby to suffer and sleep on the street but this has to come to some type of resolution. She is demanding trust and screaming and crying for him to trust her but every time the husband turns around she is busted doing something inapropriate (professing love to another guy via e-mail or having sexual convo with another guy not just male friends) and blames the husband for looking. If he had not searched he would not have found it and thus the relationship would not be in trouble. She is also mad at the husband for asking the guy she "cares" about the nature of thier relationship before asking the wife who wound up first lying and fervently denying it and later admitted that the guy was telling the truth. What should a loving husband do? She insists she is happy in the marriage and husband is insecure about flirting.
2007-01-15 05:09:31 · update #1
She also says that since she allegedly had not had sex with any of these guys (or got busted doing it) she cannot be considerered a cheat that cheating is only secual intercourse. Having a "net romance" is not considered cheating. She is on a big kick that the husband is a insecure guy and he is a loser for not trusting her. if he had high self esteem it would not bother him. The husband has good self esteem but knows she will suffer with no money and thousands of miles from home and family. ladies, whats your opinion?
2007-01-15 05:14:45 · update #2
He can love her and stay for more abuse or he can leave her and let her stay in the house so he knows his child is safe but he must set rules...get job...no net acess...move in 90 days or whatever works for him. But this ***** is nuts!
2007-01-21 17:45:39 · answer #1 · answered by I'm her mommy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The curb is looking mighty good for her. Cheating, whether it is physical or cyber, is cheating. As for trust, it is built bit by bit. Just like a house. She has no foundation any more. She should of quit the first time. After that the trust is gone and she has no right demanding it. What does she want? The best of both worlds? Too bad. I feel sorry for your friend. I think his marriage is over. I would tell him to find someone with no interest in the computer. Good luck to him and to you for offering him advice.
2007-01-15 05:13:08 · answer #2 · answered by looloo1122 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This seems like somethhing the wife is totally addicted to and the she will not stop. The only reason why she is making all these things up is to secure her self with a place to live and to keep using her husband for what she wants or needs. I have to say that the only way this can be resolve if she stops lying and become a loyal wife and seek counseling.
2007-01-20 14:21:08 · answer #3 · answered by 2g4u 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok, I think the first thing the husband needs to do is GET RID of the computer and internet! The wife can still go to the libaray I suppose, but with todays electronics, we people have only invited cheating into our homes.
She does deserve to be thrown to the curb.
Make sure the baby is really yours first. IF it is, then go see about full custody before throwing the wife out to all the dawgs she seems to be intertaining while hubby is working.
IT IS CHEATING!! My so called boyfriend likes to argue that it isn't.....hahaha............he'll see once I can afford to NOT put up with it, that it's all he will have left, because I won't be here to be lied and cheated to.
2007-01-15 05:17:03 · answer #4 · answered by peggin_beast 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sugar Daddy's are no longer addictive like heroin. The spouse is mendacity, cheating, conniving wench that must be kicked to the cut back on the instant if the husband has any self-admire. Then he ought to proceed to have a sequence of meaningless one-night stands and understand that ladies folk are the actual gamers in this game. sometime after the age of fifty, he will ought to return and forth in a foreign country and marry a advantageous (no longer hooker) distant places female who will look after him into previous age in substitute for a green card and financial help.
2016-12-12 11:59:35 · answer #5 · answered by fearson 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is a lair and a cheat why waste any more time on her. Trust? She hasn't earned it so she has no right to demand it. Tell her she can have all the privacy she wants because you are through with her, then open the door and throw her to the curb.....
2007-01-15 05:10:23 · answer #6 · answered by kitkat 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Trust is earned, so she has no right to demand it.
Privacy, heck no. I would get a key logger and screen capture system slapped on so fast.
If she is being honest and worthy of trust he will find nothing. Other wise she is betraying him again and not worthy of privacy.
I would kick her out and request full custody of the child. Plus find out if I was even the father.
2007-01-15 06:20:46 · answer #7 · answered by snack_daddy10 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have two comments.
First One.
Flirting and talking on the internet is not cheating. Cheating is having actual sex (the exchange of body fluids) with another person other than your spouse.
Second One.
You do not DEMAND trust.......you EARN IT!
2007-01-21 14:15:18 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO WAY! If either partner cheats either physically or emotionally it takes time to rebuild trust. Regardless, this woman sounds like she is not worthy of trust anyway. I would get rid of her citing adultry as the reason... who cares if she is unemployed!
2007-01-21 07:52:03 · answer #9 · answered by Stephanie B 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like they have way more issues than can be listed in this forum. They should both seek counselling to sort things out.
In the meantime, he can install some sort of spy program on his PC that she uses. He can collect that as evidence if necessary in the unfortunate case of a divorce.
2007-01-15 05:12:43 · answer #10 · answered by Thundercat 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋