does this make me gay? (my story)?

Question

Well, I'm fifteen years old and for the past two years i've been turned on by guys, not that i want to. But before those two years i was completely turned on by girls. I'm thinking about all this crap about being with a man, a marriage and a life together and i just can't see myself being with a man. I don't know, i think its just wrong to be intimate with a man like that (no offence) but thats just my personal information. I mean, it's not like i wanna have sex with them, when ever i jus see a naked guy it just gets "it" up but i dont want a man to get "it" up, i want girls yo get it up. I really don't want to be gay and i don't even want to think that i'm gay, but is there a possibility that its just a phase, since i used to be turned on by girls. Is it a possibility that i will turn back into a normal girl loving guy, becuase i would really like a wife and a family and all that stuff. I need guidance

Yes, i kinda still am attracted to women but that's all i want to be attracted to, just women

If i could change how i feel i would, but its just hard. I never wanted to be this way, not that i have any problem with people who are this way, but its just not the type of life i want. i want the love and touch of a woman and i dont know how i can change it

Answer 1

Uh, at 15, enjoy being a kid and focus on school first. There's plenty of time for you to sort out the boy/girl thing, but you've only got one shot at enjoying being a kid and getting good grades and into a good college.

You know what they say: Youth is temporary, dumb is forever.

Answer 2

I recommend to you to go and have a chat with your school counselor, your father and, if you are religious, with your clergy person or pastor. Ideally, your father should be the one who could try to help you understand this matter. It could be just a phase, which to some people is normal.

Please do not take it too seriously if you find other boys or men attractive. The human race is beautiful (men or women), but we have been told that beauty can only be found in women and only women. If we men surprisingly find that men can also be attractive, that does not mean you want to sleep with them, that means just that you happen to find some men really gorgeous.

Women are not condemned or attacked when they say that another is girl attractive. With us men to find beauty in other men is a taboo. Do not give too much thought to this issue, I am sure you will find a beautiful girl with whom you will raise a family, and at that same time, you will be able to recognize that some men can be gorgeous without making waves, just accepting it as a fact of life.

Answer 3

I'm surprised you were "turned on" by anyone before you were 13 years old.. There's alot of possibilities to a situation like this..
One is that you're struggling with being gay because of your influences in life. Perhaps the people you're around (family, friends) are no accepting of gay people, and you're afraid to be gay because of that.
Two is that you're bisexual, and being a young age, you're unsure what exactly it is or which gender you prefer.. Bisexuality can sometimes take a while to work out, as you can fluctuate back and forth between your attractions.
Three is that you're straight and experiencing a homosexual tendency that I assume most people do at some point in their life. I would consider this one unlikely as it's been happening for three years..

Whatever the case, accept yourself for who you are. Even if you don't feel the need to tell other people about it, don't call yourself a worse person because of your sexuality. "Normal" isn't defined in terms of sexuality, gay, bisexual, and straight people alike are "normal" Following what you know is true, is normal.

In my personal opinion, I would say you are gay, but struggling with it due to your atmosphere.. Or the fear of what will happen if you are, or that you might be missing out on things..

Answer 4

At the moment your very young and your hormones are all over the place. I think that is a natural phase which a lot of teenagers go through. but what ever happens whether you gay or straight be proud of who you are. Don't let anyone put you down hun and don't be afraid of your feelings and certainly don't deny them. You will be fine as long as you follow your heart and not your head :)

Answer 5

Gay means your attracted to members of your own gender and not the opposite.

If your attracted to both, then you're bisexual. Nobody want's to be a member of a hated subgroup, however, not embracing who you are is corrosive, in the long run.

Answer 6

Im fifteen too.
This is exactly what happened to me.
I used to like girls until i was like 12 and a half.
Then i started to you know like guys and all those sexual dessires.
I didn't wanna be.
But i laid on my bed and thought about it.
And it sunked in.
I use to think i was bisexual.
but i didnt feel attracted to girls anymore.
I used to, until like 1 year ago.
Now Im out to my friends and school but not at home.
I say im bi.
but i think im gay.
No offense to the lesbians, i lova yall to death,
But guys are hot!
Oh god the thought of a guys touch... caress... kiss... its hot!

Answer 7

I think you're just going through a normal teen phase.

Answer 8

im 15 aswell, and you are either gay or bisexual, you shouldnt be put down by either, and it is more likely that you are bi, have you acted on it, have you ever had a g/f and, do u want a b/f. dont be ashamed of it nufin rong with u lolz.

Answer 9

your probably gay, because now you're going thru puberty and now you know what you want, what you like. Do you find yourself attracted to women, or just men now?

Answer 10

umm i am not sure i have the same problem except with girls (im a girl) and i think we are just bi or somthing like that so you are not totaly alone