I hate the whole dating scene and would rather stay alone than put up with all the BS. Too many bad relationships with women got me this way. It's been 4 years and still don't really care if I go out or not. Whats your thoughts?
2007-01-15 04:57:18 · 19 answers · asked by TriSec 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
A lot of my family and friends tell me, they would be living it up too....and dont understand why I am not.
2007-01-15 04:58:21 · update #1
If you are happy by yourself, stay that way. Don't let anyone else's opinion force you to do things that you aren't comfortable doing. I was single for a long time before I met my husband and I liked it that way.
2007-01-15 05:00:07 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You may need some time for yourself and a change of venue in which to meet other people, You are probably tired of the bar/club scene, and I don't' blame you.
Try to join a charitable organization, take night classes, join a gym, things that you can do not only to find dates, but also to further yourself. I am not sure about dating sites on the computer, since I heard mixed opinions, but you might as well try those too, just to see what's out there. (Make sure to get a web-cam, you might want to take a look before you go out with a person you meet on-line).
In any case, I wish you luck.
2007-01-15 13:09:36 · answer #2 · answered by artist-oranit.com. 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Be true to yourself. I have been there and think it is a much better reaction than being on the "rebound." Four years does seem like a long time but if you are honestly and truly content, bless your heart. It took me a very long time to find the man I am in a relationship with now...he moved into the same apartment building I lived in and we were friends for a year or two before it became more intimate.
2007-01-15 13:05:56 · answer #3 · answered by smecky809042003 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should do what you feel comfortable with. Not live your life according to what other think you should do. Do you have any other interests? Find some things to do that interest you and you might just meet a woman who is a good companion. What is the rush? The world is full of interesting things, enjoy your solitude. When the time is right you will know. Just try not to be bitter, find your own joy and things will work out for you.
2007-01-15 13:16:24 · answer #4 · answered by plaplant8 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you're happier just being alone and not having to deal with anyone else in your life. Some people are like that. There is nothing wrong with it. Perhaps you are just not ready to date or maybe the right woman hasn't come along yet, but ask yourself...are you the right man? Are the issues you have had with women problems that stem from you? If not, just let nature take it's course. What is meant to be will be. If you are meant to be forever alone...then you shall. If you are meant to be truly loved by one person, you will!
2007-01-15 13:07:30 · answer #5 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe they don't understand, because their not in your shoes!
It is normal!
I can't stand the BS either.
I was single 17 years after 3 failed, abusive marriages.
I just 2 weeks ago moved in with a guy for the first time in this many years. I'm most of the time, wishing I hadn't already!! I was too hasty in thinking I just couldn't handle the loneliness any longer! I am mistaken! :-)
2007-01-15 13:08:41 · answer #6 · answered by peggin_beast 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely normal. Your at the point in your life that life is easier not trying to satisfy someone else. If it's that difficult, why bother. You have to be comfortable in or out of a relationship. When the right one comes along, you will proceed with the relationship hardly with any effort; and probably maintain the relationship with hardly any compromise. If it's right, things will flow pretty easily. (you will have to put some effort, but it will come easy) Hang in there, your normal.
2007-01-15 13:02:56 · answer #7 · answered by Wondrin Dude 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its bound to happen i was like that for awhile after i became single..
i was just getting out of a bad relationship and wasn't really ready to find a new guy.. so i hung out with friends and if that right boy happen to come along that was fine with me
2007-01-15 13:01:33 · answer #8 · answered by steph 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's perfectly normal, you want time to yourself and there's nothing wrong with that. If people badger you about this, direct them to the door and tell them to go for it, the world is waiting on them to live it up.
2007-01-15 13:01:25 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you are still depressed. give it some time. you'll meet the right person when the time is right.
try internet dating: that way you can get to know the person first and not worry about "going out".
2007-01-15 13:09:17 · answer #10 · answered by sweetbabykitty 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋