at 7 1/2 months pregnant, he just vanished.. weve been together about 2yrs.. we have joint accounts, he still pays my bills, but just hasent been around to finish up with the pregnancy.. ive giving up calling and leaving message...cause he does not return em .. i need to stay strong for my unborn child.. im due march 6th, dont plan on calling him.. and just settle everthing thru court ... please help any suggestions will be greatly appreciated...
2007-01-15 04:42:19 · 14 answers · asked by glittergirl1127tx 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
well, the honor system doesnt work, thats for sure... thats why we have such strict state/federal laws for child support.
the government is TIRED of deadbeats.
why are you upsetting yourself by keep calling him? he knows your preggers, and obviously is hoping the 'problem' will go away. well guess what... it wont. dont call him any more or you may end up being charged with stalking, harassment or God knows what.
he is aware of the situtation. you need to not be stressed, and he only stress's you out more. you MUST be strong and stand your ground, avoid stress (as much as possible), because your little one depends on you doing so.
This is basically what will happen:
1) after the baby is born (or before, depending upon your state) you contact the county court and ask how to start child support. if you are on assistance, they should be able to point you in the direction you need to go or do the paperwork for you.
2) a hearing will be set up, and he will be sent a summons to attend. a DNA test may be ordered (most states require it be done), so dont get offended if so.
3) after the DNA results are in, and he is proven the father, they go by how much both parents make.
HERE IS THE CHILD SUPPORT CALCULATOR:
http://www.divorcelawinfo.com/calculators.htm
just click on your state and fill it in. if they require you work (some states dont when babies are very young), then request daycare expenses also.
4) here is TEXAS CHILD SUPPORT SITE:
https://www.oag.state.tx.us/cs/
it has everything you will need to know there. if you still have questions, call the child support office number. if at any time you feel your child support caseworker or office isnt on the ball, contact the Federal Regional Child Support Office. write them; give your contact info, case number, problem and ask what they can do. this ususally puts some heat on the case a bit.
5) it is now a Federal Offense to run across state line to avoid child support.
6) he can not just 'terminate' his parental rights; the courts today wont let him... they make sure someone (besides you) are taking care of the babys needs... NOT the state.
7) here is a list of links to help you; just click on your state and find the section you want (child support, visitation, custody, etc).
the last few are to help you.
http://www.wantedposters.com/deadbeats_usa_a_to_f.htm
http://www.deadbeatjustice.com/list.htm
http://www.divorcelawinfo.com/
http://www.divorcelawinfo.com/calculators.htm
http://www.helpyourselfdivorce.com/child-support-calculators.html
http://www.divorcehq.com/deadbeat.html
http://www.lawchek.com/Library1/_books/domestic/qanda/childsupp.htm
http://www.acf.hhs.gov/programs/cse/newhire/fop/passport.htm
http://www.acf.hhs.gov/programs/cse/newhire/fop/fop.htm
http://www.acf.hhs.gov/programs/oro/regions/acf_regions.html
http://www.acf.dhhs.gov/programs/cse/
http://www.acf.hhs.gov/programs/region2/index.html
http://www.supportkids.com/
http://www.irs.gov/taxtopics/tc422.html
http://www.irs.gov/faqs/faq4-5.html
http://www.irs.gov/localcontacts/index.html
http://www.supportcollectors.com/faq.php
http://www.petitionspot.com/petitions/collectchildsupport
http://www.singlemoms.org/info/main.htm
http://www.singlemotherresources.com/
http://www.angelfire.com/nj4/njcomputerchick
http://www.parentswithoutpartners.org/chapterfind.asp
http://www.mowaa.org/
http://modestneeds.org/
http://freecycle.org/
http://www.salvationarmyusa.org/usn/www_usn.nsf
http://www.redcross.org/where/chapts.asp
2007-01-15 15:54:43 · answer #1 · answered by Yvette B yvetteb 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
From what I know it is legal to give up your rights to your child and not pay child support in the state of texas. But you also have to remember that if you do this, you will have no say at all on what goes on in your childs life. You will not be able to see the child . You can not change your mind at any time and just reverse what you did. So before you decide make sure that you really dont want to be in your childs life. I do believe that the child should have you in there life. The mother is not thinking of the child but of herself and that to me is selfish and wrong so I do believe that you should stay in your childs life. Because the mother obviously is not interested in what the child needs or will want in the future... Good luck.... Mandy is the name by the way
2016-05-24 06:46:56 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh Sweetie, I am SOOOO Sorry. I have been there. I was 30 weeks along when my now ex decided we were getting a divorce. I do live in Texas so I can help a little. (I hope) He can not give up his rights JUST to get out of paying support. It may be a long battle for you but he will be ordered to pay child support ESPECIALLY since he still pays your bills. As long as he can be traced, he can have his wages garnished, or go to jail for lack of payment. You can also put a lien on his car/house, contact the Drivers License place and he wont be able to renew his license, you can also contact the IRS and have his taxes garnished all for lack of paying child support. I wish you the best in this situation.
2007-01-15 05:01:47 · answer #3 · answered by busyscrappin 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you are not married, a DNA test will be done first and foremost. Until then, he has NO rights at all, even if you list him on the birth certificate. After DNA is established, they will settle support and visitation. He CAN NOT give up "rights" to the child. The ONLY way he can sign off is if you find someone who wants to adopt your child, then he would have to sign off rights.
Just remember, once you establish that DNA, then he has just as many rights as you, even if he chooses not to pay the support that is ordered, you CAN NOT withold him from seeing your child if visitation is in order.
So, if he is on your account get his ss number and everything you can now to track him down if that is what you want. If not, and you don't want him to have rights, don't involve him at all and he will have ZERO.
2007-01-15 04:50:56 · answer #4 · answered by 3rdtimesacharm 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i believe that anywhere if a man/woman can give up there parental rights to keep from paying anything.. i hate to hear that your goin through this right now you have enough on u an dont need to worrie about this.. just let the courts take care of it an everything will be fine..
2007-01-15 04:56:25 · answer #5 · answered by pruittsgurl_01 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey hun, first i want to say i'm sorry you have to deal with such a jerk 2ndly, you are not alone. I say just let him be and let the court system get on him. Nothing like doing it legal so you don't have to deal with it. Theres already too much stress especially with a new baby on the way. You'll get through it don't even worry!!
2007-01-15 04:48:18 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
When one terminates parental rights they no longer pay child support as they are no longer the parent. In Wisconsin and perhaps in all states, you need a court and a judge to allow one to terminate their rights. In Wisconsin it can't happen unless another person is waiting to adopt.
2007-01-15 07:42:08 · answer #7 · answered by Molly 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If don't have one already, it's time to get a lawyer. Eighteen years is a long time to go without a father supporting his child. I'm very sorry for your baby...
2007-01-15 04:50:11 · answer #8 · answered by mJc 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, he sounds like a worthless peace of sh--! Go after him big time. He enjoyed the foreplay and doesn't want to take the responsibility of the baby. Get him good. Good Luck.
2007-01-15 04:52:12 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, he can't. Contact your local Family Services organization and they can help you establish paternity and any child support your child will be entitled to.
http://www.dshs.state.tx.us/wrtk/use-directory.shtm
2007-01-15 04:59:23 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋