Ok she is to Embarrassed to post on here so I am asking this for her.. I keep telling her to move on but she woun't listen.
She has been with a married man for 4 years now!!
She has a child by him and 2 other children by another marrige.
He lives with her and has for over a 18months
The thing is he is still married. He keeps telling her he will divorce his wife, but he hasn't he still talks ( in Private ) to her and goes over to her house to pay bills they have together and see his 3 dogs they have.
But her tells her ( my friend its over between them)
50% of his stuff is still there and he tells her she won't let him have it. What is going on? Why can't she let him go? Why can't he Divorce his wife and move on with her? This man has been married to his wife for over 15years.. I told her maybe they should all move in together. Because he is never going to divorce his wife.
I just want what is best for my friend and I don't think this is!
2007-01-15 04:40:23 · 11 answers · asked by poohgirl 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
She's always telling me she's afraid of losing her son.
May I also add he has left her 3 times and moved back in with his wife but still Nancy keeps taking him back.
2007-01-15 05:03:22 · update #1
both the wife and your friend accept this, and refuse to do anything about it. he tells your friend what he thinks she needs to hear so she will believe her relationship is secure. he may not want to divorce the wife, for financial reasons, if he wanted to move on he would do it. your friend believes everything he tells her, your friend obviously wants to be with him, and nothing u do or say is ever going to make a difference. if she is willing to take life like this, than let it alone. your friend is a fool and accepts it as it is, doesn't want to be with anyone else, and doesn't want the relationship to end.
2007-01-15 05:01:40 · answer #1 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She should listen to you, you are so on the money with this one. She is being used and I guess doesn't have any self control or self esteem to throw him to the curb. Why would he divorce his wife or marry your friend???? He has it made in the shade with just the way things are. Give your friend a wake up pill, she needs it. Does she want her children growing up thinking this is how a woman should be treated?
2007-01-15 04:52:12 · answer #2 · answered by kitkat 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If your friend thinks she will get anywhere with this guy, I have som ocean front property in Arizona that I could sell her. He is not committed to your friend at all. He is the one who needs to move on - this all sounds too comfortable for the guy - he needs to commit or move out! I am a guy 60 years old, and I find this whole situation disgusting. A divorce is expensive, and he is just too cheap or lacks the commitment to follow through. She needs to tell him to belly up to the bar or get the heck outa Dodge.
2007-01-15 04:50:09 · answer #3 · answered by Doug R 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He wants his cake and eat it too. She needs to give him an ultimatum. Either he gets a divorce, or he'll have to move out of her house. I would suggest your friend to go to a counselor. She needs to learn how to have more self respect and confidence in herself. She deserves much more than just the miserable crumbs he's giving her.
2007-01-15 04:52:55 · answer #4 · answered by jazz_lover_25 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he hasn't divorced his wife by now, he never will. She needs to kick the guy out.
2007-01-15 05:31:06 · answer #5 · answered by janetrmi 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She should never have gotten involved with a married man...
He may actually not intend on ever getting a divorce...
2007-01-15 05:25:37 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
How disgusting He hasnt even bouth her a diamond....she should tell him to hit the road...she loves him but he shouldve divoreced by now....ugh Aries men will divorce for true love but most of them wont
2007-01-15 04:47:06 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
he is a bigamist he has his cake and he it eating the **** out of it!! maybe his first wife couldn't have kids so he found someone who could and his wife allows him to do what he is doing as long as they stay married. he love his wife and his he love his kid but he does not love his lover!!! this is a twisted sitcom tell your friend to dump him it is better for her kid to come from a broken home than live in one!!
2007-01-15 04:48:50 · answer #8 · answered by notyochic 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As long as both of these women tolerate what he's doing, there's no need for him to get a divorce. They need to wise up and both of them need to dump him.
2007-01-15 04:46:58 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
do not invite the buddy why possibility spoiling a happy social amassing. the concentration is think to be on your new husband, not some previous dude with a jealous coronary heart. Your buddy likes you better than you prefer to settle for, its time to enable him bypass.
2016-10-20 05:52:47 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋