why do i care so much what people think of me?

Question

is it lack of confidance. if someone is nasty i take it personally and i know i should not. i know its their problem but i do not always see it so.

Answer 1

you're not alone. it's not lack of self confidence. we just want to be liked by others that's why we care so much about what they think of us.

Don't worry, be happy...as the song goes. ~wink~

Answer 2

I think that low self esteem is part of it. You realizing it is a problem is good too. It does take time and at some point in your life you will realize it to a full extent. I actually was luck enough to realize it when I was 17 - 18. I just slowing started telling myself what do I care what all these people think. The more I said it the more I realized it. It is what you think and not what some random person or even some of your friends think. You be happy with yourself and if you want to change something then you change it for yourself. It will come to you. Every once in awhile you might catch yourself careing, but for the most part it fads and you be yourself. Good luck and be yourself. Thats the best way to be. If they are really your friends or whatever they will like you for who you are not someone you pretend to be.

Answer 3

Hi you shouldnt care about what people think of you, it is a lack of confidence in a way but it could be other reasons as well. Im the same i use to always get bullied about what i looked like and i stud up for myself and then people would leave me alone i am who i am and if they dont like me then stuff them.
But nowadays i take things to heart i dont know why i just do, I just think though what gives a person the right to say something about me and when you take a look at them they are twice as worse than we are. People like them have no consideration for other peoples feelings and love to hurt people, but they hate it when someone says it back to them. They are the most unconfident ones as they have to pick at other peoples faults.
This is how i see it, if someone tells me something about me they dont like or say something nasty i just think this was, that there the ones who really hate the way they look and are jealous of the way you look but love to make you feel guilty about it.
Just hold you head up eye and if needs be convince yourself you are better than them and then you will get a whole boost of confidence and people will leave you alone. You will always get someone being nasty to you in your life just tell them to F**K off and then think nowt of it.

Answer 4

Quite often if someone is nasty, they have something going on in their lives that they are not mentally coping with, so they lash out at others. This is not always done intentionally but is a natural coping mechanism. On the other hand look within yourself and ask yourself if you are having a rough time? Have you got a low self esteem, or are there things going on that you cannot deal with, what are making you feel sensitive? If the answer is yes, then ask for help. If you cannot talk to family, go to your doctors and talk to him/her. Good luck!

Answer 5

yep, it sure is. i'm like you, if someone says something nasty, i take it as an insult. i'm getting better at ignoring them now though, since i know the people who said it are more insecure. You're worried that there might be some incy wincy truth to their statements/ comments, thats what does it. You need to improve yourself, be grateful for what you have. Notice the good qualities about yourself and banish the bad, then you'll feel better, and no-one can hurt you, think why it hurts, think if anything in your past can remotely link with their "allegation" then resolve to never let it happen again, dismiss it if its silly, and if you really can't remember, forget about it, its in the past and you have the future to look to, not some annoying pesky people who have nothing better to do in there lives then get amused by torture.

Above all, keepo smiling, one day you'll smile at them and they'll stop dead in their tracks, and you can say/ or just think, i'm smiling because i'm a better person then that. (And just think, they tested you on patience and control, and you succeeded, and feel well).

Answer 6

I would say that you lack self esteem. The people that are important to me My family and a few close friends are there to help me if I'm heading in the wrong direction. They care and want whats best for me. Everybody else's opinion doesn't matter. No one is nasty to me I don't allow those kind of people in my life. I spent so much time in my teens and twenties trying to get people to like me I ended up hating myself. Remember bad company corrupts good character. You may need to change who you hang with. Stand Tall and be happy with who you are.

Answer 7

I am exactly the same as you, I hate to be horrible to anyone but they do not care about upsetting me and I also take it personally, which it stupid because it is really them that have the problem but it is hard to see that at the time. It is hard to become tougher if you are not made that way, but I bet you are a lovely person so do not let people get you down. Good luck to you and stay happy.

Answer 8

I really think that everyone cares of what people think about them. Some people maybe different though, like you need to have high self esteem about yourself. If someone says something bad about you, so what, its not the end of the world. look, you can't always change people's minds about how they feel to you. The best thing to do is to stop worrying about what other are going to say or think about you because there is always going to be someone who thinks badly about you. just live your live the way you want to and forget about other people's opinions.

Answer 9

Maybe because you have no self-confidence.
You need to look at yourself in the mirror and just see the good things, not what you think is really bad.
There is a person in the world that loves you alot, and they don't think anything is wrong with you.
ignore the comments people make about you.
usually they are just haters or they want to be like you.
=]
-Kenya

Answer 10

I could say that you shouldnt care or you should ignore them but I know for a fact that is hard to do. We're constantly surrounded by people so they make up a big part of how we feel about ourselves etc.
Just TRY to not take it as personally as you do. They may not mean it in a negative way and if they do, remove yourself from their presence! You can also say that what they have said has upset you so that they don't say/do it again.

Good luck baby gurl!