I have a 6 month old daughter. My hubby wants another baby in a couple of years, but I don't want any more kids. We're both 21 yrs.old. I don't want any more kids I just want my daughter, that way I could give her all she wants, even college!! I don't think I would afford anything with another child. How do you think my baby would feel? Would she want a sister o brother? Most of all, would she feel lonely?
2007-01-15 04:02:57 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
I think maybe you should wait until your daughter is a little older to make a definite decision that could possibly put a wedge between you and your husband. Your very young and maybe in a couple of years you'll have a change of heart. About your baby feeling lonely, I don't think that'll happen since she's probably got two parents that love her very much. One parent wants to give her the world and the other enjoys her so much he wants another. You both should sit down and have a serious discussion and maybe a compromise before you put your foot down and say no more. Much luck to you and your family.
2007-01-15 04:13:27 · answer #1 · answered by Susan 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She might wish she had a brother or sister. I came from a family of 5 kids. Although they annoyed me a great deal i'm glad i have them. But times were tough and we didn't have much to go around because we were such a large family.
You're only 21. One baby is PLENTY for now. But since it's important to your husband to have another child, don't outright say no to it. Give yourself a few years. There's no rush. You're very young and maybe in 5-8 years you'll change your mind about having another and you both will be more finacialy able to care for two children.
Good luck with whatever you decide. Just make sure to really consider your husband's wishes. It probably means a lot to him.
2007-01-15 04:14:19 · answer #2 · answered by Amber G 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i'm an only child and i love it. if you don't want another child, don't let your husband pressure you into having another. you're the one the has to give birth and take care of them. (this is the kind of household i was raised, if your husband helps with the baby, sorry.) but, you are so not selfish. she can make friends. i am a little shy but that's because of the area i grew up. there were no kids around me. but being an only child is nice. don't feel selfish.
2007-01-15 14:39:57 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I do not think you are being selfish. If you know that you will not be able to provide for another child, then good for you for not having another child.
Many people have more children than they can handle, financially as well as emotionally, and life is sometimes not so great for those children.
Your child will not be lonely if when she gets old enough you participate in activities which include other children.
2007-01-15 04:12:02 · answer #4 · answered by jam_psb 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow this is a tough 1 i have always thought an only child would be a lonely child BUT have friends with only 1 and they are just as happy as my kids.
talk to your husband and explain that's how you feel who knows in a few yrs you may have a change of heart.
it can never be selfish to want the best for your child so don't feel bad x x x x
2007-01-15 04:10:36 · answer #5 · answered by mum_2_many 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no youre not being selfish. I have a neice that was 8 until she had a brother. At this point in life you want to give your child as much as you can. Youre not selfish at all. Over time if you can afford to have another child then thats what you do. Simple as that.
2007-01-15 04:09:55 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm the oldest of three kids, and I couldn't imagine life without my sister and brother. My mom always said to me: "Your spouse can divorce you, your children will move out, and your parents will die. But your sister and brother will be around forever." And that's the God's honest truth. Your daughter will want someone to grow up with. And as long as you're financially stable, go for it =)
2007-01-15 04:11:59 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
don't have another baby if you don't want to. i didn't want another baby when my daughter was 6 months old because she was a handful but now she's 19 months old and i'm pregnant with my second daughter and i'm excited because she's getting a playmate. i know now that i'm finished because 2 is enough. don't rush to make a decision just wait and see how you feel.
2007-01-15 04:20:29 · answer #8 · answered by *~*Jon-Jon's Mommy!!*~* 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
being an only child, i always wanted a lil sister or brother and still think i missed out on things not having one.
2007-01-15 04:09:13 · answer #9 · answered by Mz. Tanning Bed Junkie! 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋