Women: Has it ever been a problem for your husband/bf if you make more money then they do?
This is for a paper that I am thinking about writing.
2007-01-15 03:43:49 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Yep. It was a problem. I made more several times in several different jobs. I am very aggressive and a people person. I excell with a challenge. He on the other hand did not take chances, seldom made friends, always did just what he needed to get the job done.
I heard of an explanation of this problem years ago which helped me alot with raising my own children. Here it is: as children we set goals for our lives. We use alot of the examples of our current (as children) to determine what is success to us. If at age 10, we thought $10,000 was alot of money and it would be what we need to be sucessful then we set our goal at 10K. Once we arrive at that goal, we may set a higher one but more than likely we sabotage ourselves, we have set backs that cause us to go back to zero and we start trying to achieve 10K again. So depending what your mind set is, will determine what is sucess. That said.
A man determines his self worth by providing for his family and the outside world does too. It would be great if a couple looked at their combination effort and income as a joint venture. Someone makes sacrifices in order to allow the other a better chance to excell, each couple make choices in their relationships regarding what is important to them. Raising children, a bigger home, max'd credit cards, working 8,10,12, 16 hour days are all choices. No one does it completely alone. I hope this helps. Good luck.
2007-01-15 04:03:21 · answer #1 · answered by Miki M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. My ex husband disliked the fact very much. I guess it bruised his ego. I have always had traditional values and I tried very hard not to make it any kind of issue and disrespect his manhood. I thought he should have been happy that more $$ was coming into the household? That is a wonderful thing right? Wrong. He could never get over it. : ( Obviously, there were bigger issues other than the $$.
2016-05-24 06:29:26 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My wife makes almost twice as much as I do. This is because she went through college and now has a pretty good job.
It doesn't bother me what so ever that she makes more than me. I'm proud of her for working so hard to achieve something for herself.
2007-01-15 08:05:39 · answer #3 · answered by Ritz Grimarren 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think it bothers my husband that he's out of work right now & can't contribute, but it's just starting to get bothersome for me (after about 6 weeks). i don't think he really minds that i make more than him when he is working, i think he just thinks he's lucky! it's to be expected since i have a bachelor's degree & he doesnt even have a GED...
2007-01-15 04:12:08 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
my opinion....I want the man to make more money than me--I think this also boosts their self esteem
2007-01-15 03:48:11 · answer #5 · answered by sunbun 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It wouldn't bother me at all.
2007-01-15 05:08:53 · answer #6 · answered by steemshovel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋