My husbands ex is always causing problems. I know he needs to have something to do with his daughter which is 18, but the ex always has to talk about the marriage they had! Recently we had a converstation cause I always try to be nice to her cause if not she won't allow my husband to see the young woman. She emailed our conversatition out to his family and got them all involved. I had some issues with his brother and sister not treating our kids like they are family cause they are mind. They wanted him to get back with his ex, so they have never treated me like family. I try my best but am to wits end with the whole situation. I love my husband very much and keep trying to deal for him. She married to someone else for like 8 or 9 years. Why cause all the trouble and why want to talk about their marriage. Like my husband says it was over long ago and all he wants is to love his daughter and include her in our family here and that is not being aloud cause I am in the picture.
2007-01-15 03:35:20 · 11 answers · asked by browneyes79 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Some are confused and I should have stated different the four kids I have are my husbands with me. So they are blood related.
2007-01-15 03:54:06 · update #1
You didnt marry the family, you married him. I suggest you tell your husband to let h is x know that she is not a part of his life anymore. She thinks that she has to stay in the picture but guess what, she's wrong. You run your home she dont and the daughter is grown so she dont have to deal with the drama and neither should you. You seem strong enough to keep your family together and i applaud you for that. If his family dont deal with your kids like that then that's their loss not yours. You have your family and tha's what counts.
2007-01-15 03:55:31 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all I admire you for trying to to keep civil between you and the ex but if she is going out of her way to cause you problems then i suggest that you try to have as little contact with her as possible and tell your husband if he does not do so already to set his brother and sister straight that he loves you and nothing will change between him and the ex so either treat you with respect are stay away, as far as his daughter goes she is 18yrs and legally she has the right to chose whether she wants to see her father are not she may believe she has to please her mother but tell your husband when he gets the chance try to set up a day each week that she can come over on her own tell her mother that this is what she wants and if the mother still does not allowed it tell him to tell her daughter that she is of age and this is what she wants and if not then tell her mother that she is only putting her need in front of her own... also your husband should give you the support you need as much as he is concerned for his daughter you are doing your best to make life easier for him is he doing the same for you?
2007-01-15 03:55:49 · answer #2 · answered by Jackie N 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your husband came with baggage. The daughter is now 18 yrs old, he no longer has to talk to his ex. If he wants a relationship with his daughter there is nothing to stop him. As for your inlaws treating your children like family, they are never going to feel the same about them as they would about the grown daughter who is blood related. As for your husband including his daughter in your family, what is stopping him?
2007-01-15 03:51:18 · answer #3 · answered by derose 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
His daughter is 18 years old. A grown woman....the ex doesn't have anything to do with the relationship that he wants with his daughter. You guys are letting the ex become a problem. You do not need a relationship with her Mom to have a relationship with the daughter.
2007-01-15 03:42:54 · answer #4 · answered by Common_Sense2 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
his family is never going to treat your kids like they do the others, the ex isn't happy with the man she is now married to, best not to have any more conversations with her, she likes to create drama and problems, because her life is full of these things. his ex sees u as being the reason why he has not come back to her. anytime u speak with the ex, she will find ways to make u look bad, the daughter is now 18, no reason why she can't make her own decisions, and come visit regardless of what her mom says. stay away from your hubby's family, they want to see him go back with his ex. if the girl wants to see her dad, she can. but distance yourself from these people, who seek only one thing, too destroy your marriage. stay away from people who want to hurt u.
2007-01-15 03:46:15 · answer #5 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since your husbands' daughter is now 18, she's and adults and her mother has no business with your husband concerning her. Your husband can deal with his daughter directly. AS for you husband' siblings, remind them that your kids are your husband's children just as the 18 yr. old. If they dont want to recognize themafter that, live without them and make sure your husband realizes their prejudice.
Good luck, it may be tough. Ive been maried 12 years and my family has yet to recognize my stepson (whose father disappered before he was born).
2007-01-15 03:50:18 · answer #6 · answered by zax_fl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Now that his daughter is 18 she can see him with or without her mothers approval. If his family doesn't treat your children well, don't have visits with them. Make your own happiness!
2007-01-15 03:45:38 · answer #7 · answered by rhonda y 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
His daughter is grown. He (or you) no longer has to deal with the mother. Tell the daughter that she is loved and is always welcome in your home and she will eventually come around.
2007-01-15 03:43:29 · answer #8 · answered by MD 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well looks like your marrgie is going down but u need to tell him in the eye "i love you" and then have a talk
2007-01-15 03:50:55 · answer #9 · answered by animal lover! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all the daughter is AN ADULT 18!!!
he does not need to speak with the x at all anymore....
he needs to speak directly with the ADULT DAUGHTER
2007-01-15 03:43:17 · answer #10 · answered by sunbun 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋