If you don't like a group of people would choose to associate with them or be lonely?

Question

I have hoped from group to group join and volunteered till I am blue in the face and still I could out on the otherside thinking I really dont like these people. I am a horse in a field of cows and the standing around chewing is getting on my good nerves. I am in a small town that few have ever left. I just moved here and they all seem to think the same way. I am tired of group hoping and tired of volunteering (I know I should love it but I dont). I here permently and sorry but the world doesnt walk down these streets very often. So I now read. Do the one volunteer job I kind of enjoy. I have a job but GOD that THANK GOD for friday. I am surrounded by cows.

Answer 1

I choose being alone over compromising my standards all the time. However, being alone and loneliness are two different things. I cherish the time I have to myself.

Answer 2

Ha ha! I'm facing this problem currently at my job. Because of the type of job I have, I am forced to be social and cordial to those that I dislike. But I am not phony. I am social enough to get what I need for the good of my company. Last night, in fact, my company had a nice dinner party. I sat practically opposite of the three coworkers that I dislike. They were dismayed by my distance but we were "off the clock" and because work was over I had nothing to say to them. If I don't like a group of people, I will speak "Hello" and be coridal and polite but I would never ask how they are or invite them to my home. I guess I am not afraid of being alone or standing alone in a crowd. It beats putting on a phony face and smiling at someone you can't stand!

Answer 3

Well, I would NOT associate with them but rather than be lonely I'd go find a someone or a group that I do like, and where I DID dit in, and hang with them! There is a difference between real friends, and mere acquaintances. Look for friends!

Answer 4

Would choose 2 find a different group. Be creative, and good to yourself. Try school clubs and activities. visit relatives. get a part-time job. volunteer at a hospital. see, there are all kinds of things out there. Best of luck.

Answer 5

I would choose neither. If i didn't like them, i wouldn't associate with them. But that doesn't mean i have to be lonely.

if you are running into problems of this nature, i would recommend finding ways to amuse yourself when you are by yourself. While humans are social creatures by nature, we are able to learn how to be happy when we're by ourselves.

These people aren't the only people in the world. If you really don't like being alone, seek out other people for friendships.

Answer 6

Find someone else to hang out with...get active someplace, join a club, or some organization that interests you. The rest will fall into place. You'd still be lonely if you were hanging out with people you secretly hated...don't waste your time!

Answer 7

If those were the only two choices, I'd say it would depend on how lonely it got. But, I'd sure try to find another group that didn't make me have to decide like that.

Answer 8

The question needs rephrasing. ...or be alone is better, and that still is by choice. The country is filled with interesting groups of people, many like in singles for charity, ethical humanist and culture, Unitarian universalist, need volunteers and welcome new members.

I have already chosen not to be with destructive people and have eliminated all but one member of my family.

Answer 9

Wow tough questions. IF I was really lonely I would probably go out with them. If they were so bad, I would not go and try to find new people. Are you in such a place you could not meet new people? If not, I would make more people know who I am and try to make other friends PRONTO.

Good luck to you .

Answer 10

This is the easiest question I've ever seen. I don't need time to think about an answer.
I'd choose lonliness any day over being with so called "friends."