Right about now my Husband And i are working to get our place, but at the mean time i'm living with His parents, We don't get along well, Can anyone give me tip on how i can live AT Least Happy with his parents......under the same roof.....
2007-01-15 03:10:14 · 17 answers · asked by *Cutie* 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Only thing you can do it make the best of it and remember, this is only temporary!
2007-01-15 03:14:08 · answer #1 · answered by CEP 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My guess is it's mother you can't get alone with right?
Two things.
1): No two women can ever live in the same household for long and not have problems. It has always been so and will always be.
2): A mother almost never thinks that her son did well when they marry. For the first part of his life she was number one in his life and she loved that. Now you are number one and that puts mom at a disadvantage. So it would be hard for her at best to get along.
Do your best to understand her and know that a mothers love for her son is absolute. Try your best to understand that it will not be long and you will be taking that son away from her. And if all goes well it will be for a lifetime.
The day will come when you know what I am talking about.
2007-01-15 03:22:52 · answer #2 · answered by John B 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Remember it is temporary. Show gratitude and respect for your in-laws. Try to empathise with how they feel under the circumstances. You may not have chosen them, but you chose their son. They may not have chosen you, but their son did.
Think of this as an opportunity to find out more about your husband, his family, his upbringing so you may better understand his perspective on things at a later point. Could be valuable if/when you decide to have children together.
Pick your battles. If in-laws give you unsolicited advice...smile and say "you may be right" and move on.
2007-01-15 03:37:31 · answer #3 · answered by Marjery B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Been there and done that ! Help out around the house as much as you can. Offer to help as often as permissable. I wasn't allowed to cook, but offered to help prepare the meal. I knew I'd get a no response...It worked out. Ohh, I also stayed out the way as much as I could.. kept my distance whenever the mood wasn't good. It worked for me. We get along providing we don't live under the same roof.
2007-01-15 03:21:21 · answer #4 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a place soon. This is a VERY stressful situation.
I've been through that w/ my wife(she was close to leaving). That was a contributing factor in my brother's divorce. My bro. in law was in the same sit. and is also now div.
BTW-In none of these situations was anyone mooching off parents.All we're in transition between moves or waiting on a house to be built.
If you you really care about your marriage-then PLEASE have some patience (but stay on his @$$ about moving). EVERYTHING will change for the better AS SOON as you move. I am still very happily married.
2007-01-15 03:20:48 · answer #5 · answered by lkrhtr70 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Here you go...Try to get along with his parents. Suggest doing a girls night out with his mom in order for bonding or go to a salon with her. As for the dad get him something meaningful as a gift. You can even prove your self worthy to him by hanging out with him. I completley understand what you are going through just try to make the best of it. Also watch movies in which the parents are total weirdos you can find some tips. Movies like : Meet the Parents, Meet the Fockers, The Famly Stone.
2007-01-15 03:16:17 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are only there temporarily until you get a place of your own. Think about that when they get to you. Also, you should be thankful that they gave you a place to stay in the meantime. You can handle anything for a while. When my wife and I moved back to her hometown after her Dad passed away, we had to stay with her Mom for 6 weeks until we could move into our apartment. It was miserable there but we made it through and I told myself everyday....it's not much longer. You can do it.
2007-01-15 03:22:12 · answer #7 · answered by vanhammer 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Can you stay at your parents home, you can always say that you feel like it would be better to split the time as to not wear out your welcome so you don't hurt anyones feelings. If that isn't possible to both stay somewhere else then you go stay and tell him you need a place now. I don't think that I would be able to handle staying with his parents that would be too weird. You would be much more comfortable at your familys home.
2007-01-15 03:17:57 · answer #8 · answered by *queenfairy1*Antioch California 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell yourself it's a temporary situation and that one day you won't be there anymore. Remember to let small things roll off your back and save your battles for the larger situations. If they're being purposely mean that speaks about them and their personalities.....no need for you to get yourself worked up over small minded squabbles. Zip your mouth and walk away when it gets bad....hang in you'll be out of there soon enough.
2007-01-15 03:20:32 · answer #9 · answered by Justlookin 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes , kiss their azz.. , do whatever it takes to make them happy, help around the house, when u go to the store ask if u can pick them up anything..make dinner , do dishes.. do whatever it takes to make them think of u as a big help and not a nusance in their home, when ur not doing that, stay in ur room out of the way ..
2007-01-15 03:21:47 · answer #10 · answered by brwneyedgrl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Offer to help out around the house. Mabe cook dinner for the family. Remember you are in their house, just always be respectful and don't forget to thank them for helping you two out.
2007-01-15 03:31:44 · answer #11 · answered by sweetpea 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋