ok ok , so i was pretty good friends with a group of people and they were nice and we'd hang out. But then this year i got to know this other girl whose really fun and we're good friends now.she was friends with those people for a while too, but then they started getting tired of her and saying that shes annoying and a whore and random crap about her thats not true. And they'd be mean and avoid her. It was one guy especially. And i just felt bad cuz i thought they were wrong and it bothered me how mean they could be to a person who didnt do anything to them. But i still tried to be friends both with them and with her, like hang out with them at different times. but it didnt work. So i just stopped talking to them and told the guy everything i thought of him and now they basically hate me as much as they hated her. and i dont really care about that, but what bothers me is that like half the school doesnt really like me now cuz i hang with her...what should i do?
2007-01-15 03:09:38 · 14 answers · asked by hmmmm..... 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
When you make a social choice in friends, you should not be worrying about what other people think.
If she is nice and you get along well, that should be enough.
You know people always talk whether you are bad or good, so you won't change anything by changing teams....
be yourself, make your own decisions and don't worry about the consensus of everyone else.
A strong and grounded person who has self confidence can walk away from the gossip and pursue their own life. Do not let other dictate to you who you can befriend.
Gossip is a malicious and cruel thing and people don't have to know the truth, they just like to repeat anything they hear that sounds bad to make an impression on someone else......
Do your own thing......
2007-01-15 03:16:18 · answer #1 · answered by doclakewrite 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey there. Honestly, these aren't the type of friends that are good for either one of you right now. People change and these friends might call you up some day and apologize or they might never talk to you again, but life brings so many experiences and people into our lives that there is no reason to sweat it. The sad thing might be that you may have good memories about these friends and those memories don't have to die but you have to live life with the confidence that you try your best to appreciate everyone for who they are. If things are at the point where you know for sure they are nasty and mean in how they treat your friend or you the best thing to do is to just move on. You have to show yourself and others that you want to stand up for what's right. Get to know yourself well before you let others tell you who you are. This way you'll know who's a real friend and who's not. Only God knows you enough to be real with you in both the good and the bad. Remember that. Pick up Paulo Coelho's book The Alchemist next time you go to Borders or Barnes and Noble and learn about getting to know yourself. All his books are pretty deep that way. It made a comforting difference in my life and my girlfriend's life.
2007-01-15 03:21:37 · answer #2 · answered by eddienelsongonzalez 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey, I completely understand where your coming from and the thing is the situation really sucks, but you really can't do much about it because if those "friends" of yours backed out on you just because you made a new friend then they're not really good friends themselves and they're not worth moping over. What sucks more is that half the school doesn't like you, so maybe that new friend of yours has a has a reputation you don't know of or maybe that half of the school is just jealous, that's usually the reason these days in the teen world.
2007-01-15 03:16:13 · answer #3 · answered by candice_t24 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, high school....memories. Please pay close attention....you can't let petty stuff like this get to you. You can hang out with whomever you please. If your "friends" can stop talking to you b/c you are talking to someone they don't like, then guess what? They are not your friends. Point blank. If you believe in your heart that this girl that you are hanging with is okay, then fine she is alright. If she hasn't done anything detrimental or bad to you or your friends, I don't see what the big deal. You are better off with out them. Just continue to be a good friend to the other young lady, and watch KARMA take care of the other little girls that are starting problems. It seems like you are far too mature to be hanging with those LOSERS any way. Just hold on. Don't let it bother you, b/c if they see that it does, you will be stooping to their level. Remember that you are better than that!! GOOD LUCK. And remember that you will encounter people like that, or as shady as that years to come.
2007-01-15 03:22:42 · answer #4 · answered by China Doll 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that must have taken a lot of courage and i'm postive she appreciated it. She probably has had this problem before I"m guessing and for you to stand up for her was really sweet! just ignore people for a while or talk to them as if nothing is wrong. eventually they will figure out they have nothing to be mad about. You will also eventually have a new group to hang out with. don't worry kindness always pays off in the end. good luck!
2007-01-15 03:14:25 · answer #5 · answered by Delicious! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if you really like this person. Keep hanging out with this person. Who cares about if half the school doesn't like you anymore. If this person makes you happy and they are fun it doesn't matter what other people think.
2007-01-15 03:14:10 · answer #6 · answered by <3Juicy.Couture.Love<3 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Been there too- you come to realise that one good friend who you trust and respect is worth hundreds who will just snipe about you behind your back and turn on you when they have the chance.
Just enjoy your friendship and remember their approach to life is going to catch them out sooner or later!
2007-01-15 03:17:37 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If she truly your pal than why might she call you a b*tch and additionally why might she assist you to recognize to fu*ok off in one among those propose way. i think of you could desire to furnish a slapping because of the fact your her pal too and not purely toy or shoes you could throw it away (do not try this!). purely leave her and discover new acquaintances because of the fact a chum might on no account have call you that which contain if she a sparkling b*tch for pal.
2016-10-07 04:46:43 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't care about what other peoples think about u.i have a really awesome friend that people hate me now since i've met her but me and her r still friends.just tell them 2 shutup when they say things about u or her.
2007-01-15 04:08:15 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
stand your ground ignore those who do not like you so what if they do not , they are spreading rumours cos you did not go along with them, if they treated her like that they will treat you like it and they will treat others like it. they are control freaks, don,t let people know you are bovered sooner or later they will turn on each other. and you can have a laugh. they are frightened really. i admire your guts best to have a few decant friends than alot of false one.
2007-01-15 03:16:11 · answer #10 · answered by denise g 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋