emotional Breakdown!! Help me get through it!! Please.?

Question

i need major help. i am going through an emotional breakdown. im only 16 years old but feel like i cant handle life anymoe. last year was so amazing and this year sucks. my boyfriend and i broke up. my cousin died. my uncle died. my grandfather is ill and in a coma. im not doing as well as i use to in school. i cant concentrate. i dont know what to do or say. all i do is cry. my best friend moved away. my other friend is in the hospital struggling for life. and i have no clue how to manage. all these stressors are cracking me. i was at a sleep over at my friends house the other day and i cracked. i cried like crazy. i am emotionally dying. i dont know what to do with all these self-hate thoughts and hopelessness and uneasyness. i feel like my life is crumbling slowly piece by piece. i dont know how to deal with it anymore. im not clinically depressed. i dont enjoy what i once use to like dance and tennis and karate. all i do is cry. cry cry crycry! i dont know how to cope!help me!!!!!!

Answer 1

Wow! I'm so sorry you've had so many bad things happening at once. Can you get yourself to a pyschiatrist? Can you talk to your parents? Do you exercise? That might help. I think keeping a journal might help. Hang in there things will get better. You could also see your regular dr. for some ideas on who to see and what to do. What about volunteering somewhere? Could you help at your local animal shelter walking dogs? Or, are there clubs at school you could join? Is there a teacher at school you are close to, that you could talk to? How about a guidance counselor at school that you like? I'll keep thinking. THat's all I can think of at the moment. I hope things get better for you. The saying that time heals all wounds is so true but hard to hear at times like this.

Answer 2

Wow! that is stressful, but I don't see why the self-hate. You did nothing to make these things happen, so why hate yourself?

What about the ones you love and still live around you? What is happening to your Mom or Dad with your granfather being in coma? What is happening to your Uncle and Aunt with the loss of your cousin?

It would just be normal to have low grades at school, so that is a concequence, not a root cause.

I would recommend to stop for a sec. and look around you. See what your loved ones are suffering too. In providing assistance and support you will find some peace. And yes, it is too much. Professional help would help you go through this tough time. A psychologyts could help you deal and be a support for others. At school they might have someone that could help you, or direct you to an other person.

Don't lose the opportunity to contact that person, so you can talk.

Good luck

Answer 3

I'm sorry that you have to deal with this. It's really rough. So many stressors at once. You'll get through it though. It's just really crummy right now. I was in that state when by ex and I first broke up. I was devastated and just couldn't stop crying. I'm still upset about it all but I'm just not as crushed. It's hard when you want to have a good time with your friends and it feels impossible. You just have to attempt to force yourself to have a good time, so to speak. I was thinking about my ex last night so I decided to hang out with a friend because it would at least be an attempt to get him out of my mind. It worked temporarily. Think of these things as things that will make you stronger, because they will. It's okay to cry, you are grieving. Some people seem to have no emotion, don't you wish you were like them? I know I do. You may need to find new hobbies if your current interests aren't working for you, it will get your mind off of everything. You'll be alright, if you need someone to talk to you can IM me on yahoo or aim. plexivixen my screen name for both.

Answer 4

Try meditation. Look for the inner peace that you are now missing in your life!! Learn and accept the fact that life sucks!! It is a hard lesson to learn, and it is always being taught to those of us with many problems. You can overcome these stresses by simply trying to stay calm and meditations. Life is for learning how to cope with Life, and it isn't going to be an easy road to travel, yet travel it you must. There is nothing wrong with crying either, because it helps you to cope with the stress, as well as helps you to accept the loss of those around you. Eventually things will start to get better (they will never get perfect because that is not possible) and you will be able to enjoy life again. Be Strong, Be patient, Be at Peace. Good luck!

Answer 5

be strong. Its normal to react and be very emotional. Your environment is not stable so your emotions wont be either. just be strong. since your young, there is not much you can do to change your environment. The best you can do is react the least amount as possible negatively. Dont depend on her for anything emotionally or anything like that since its obvious you can not trust her to help you. Be stong and be happy and be your own source of self esteem and happyness. keep fighting and fighting to make life better and never give up hope. Trust me when I tell you that when things get better, you will have amazing self esteem knowing that you stayed strong through out the entire time that things were looking bad. keep your head up no matter how bad things get. Thats what I did and it made me a much much much stronger person. =) and happier

Answer 6

Regardless of what you want to call it you sound very depressed
to me. First you need to go to a therapist. They can help you from there. There is nothing to be ashamed about, Depression happens
to everyone at some time. Maybe you can try your family doctor first
You also need to talk to your parents or other family member. Just
get help today, you shouldn't be carrying around such a big burden.
I know you might be reluctant to get help, I know I was, but there comes a point where you have to. Believe me life will get better.
If money is an issue, they have free clinics that can help you.
Please don't wait, get help today. I will pray for you. Good Luck

Answer 7

I am so terribly sorry for all the loss that you've had. Have you tried talking to your parents about how you are feeling? There are doctors and therapists that can help you with all this. Its hard having to deal with all this stress at one time but its good to let your feelings out to someone. Keeping it all bottled inside doesn't help at all. I really think you should tell your parents whats going on. Also try keeping a journal of all your thoughts. Thats helped me alot through my tough times. Good luck sweetheart, and remember, you can only hit rock bottom so far before the only other way to go is up! God Bless!!!

Answer 8

It sounds like life's little bumps are turning into mountains. I'm sorry about all your hardships, but let me tell you, you are not alone. Life is not easy; there will always be difficult times. I would advise going to a psychologist just to get some feelings out. It helps to talk. If you are not up for that, you need to find a hobby. Some creative thing such as drawing, writing, painting, poetry anything to make you get your emotions out. I started writing a diary and every day I write what I am thankful for and I write to myself about my day and how I feel. This helps tremendously. Remember, it could always be worse. You must be determined to bounce back.

Answer 9

Calm down. You said that last year was great and this year sucks. Well next year will be great again. I think you just had an exceptionally bad year and I doubt very much that it can ever happen like that again. You don't need to kill yourself, you just need to survive this year.
Talk to your parents about all the death around you. Talk to your the school psychologist or go to a private counselor. You don't have to be crazy to get counseling, you just have to have something you need to talk about. The answer to stress like this is talk talk talk. Maybe start a blog and post all of this, believe me you'll feel better.
The most important thing here is to wait. Don't so anything that you can't undo, like commit suicide. Just wait. Like a bad storm, it may be very scary right now, but it will blow over. Wait it out, and talk it out.

Answer 10

wow..sounds like you have had a hard year..and were only 14 days into it. well, it's completely understandable that you feel the way you do, so dont think you don't have a right to feel this way. but honestly, this is too much for anybody to take, and i think you need to call your doctor and tell him/her everything you told us. you may be better off taking some sort of anti anxiety pills unitl you can sort your feelings out...also your doctor will send you to someone to talk to as well. you need to keep in contact with people and talk about everything you are feeling. just know that nothing is forever, and this too shall pass...it always does, and things will get better...good luck and be strong