Is she cheating on me?

Question

My GF met a guy during an out of town training and continued conversating via phone with him afterwards and never told me about him. I suspected she met someone while in training, because she became aggressive with me. I checked her phone and found out they were having long conversations with each one late at night. I confronted her and she claime he was just a friend and that she will stop talking to him. However, I checked her phone records a few weeks later and found out she continued talking to him and infact they will stay as long as 128 mins on the phone together. She deletes the calls the made to each other from her phone. I was only able to get the records through her billing statement. I am confused, my mind tells me she is or was going to cheat on me if I hadn't intervened.

Answer 1

Maybe she's not cheating, but she's definitely being dishonest...tell her that you don't deserve dishonesty, and tell her if she isn't going to start telling you the truth, then you guys are over.

Answer 2

Way too soon to tell, man. These long phone calls are a sure signal that something might be up. But then again, it honestly could be a harmless friendship thing. She may be hiding them because she doesn't want to upset you and at the same time doesn't want to be mean and cut ties w/ her friend. My opinion is something is up(I've been there before), but I would keep watchful and hold back on actually accusing her of cheating until you find some more concrete evidence. Expressing your dislike of the hidden, lengthy phone calls is definitely warranted though. Best to you.

Answer 3

It could be all very innocent, it depends how much you trust each other, how long youve been together, what your relationship state is like now blah blah but in my experience, women are born chatterboxes when it comes to phone calls.

Late at night however, for over 2 hours, does seem a bit sussed. If he was just a friend, im sure she would not have conceded to your demands to stop talking to him. You need to ask some honest questions and not get angry, bring her out of her shell, find out what this guy is about. He could be gay for all you know, or maybe they have to work together on a project or something that needs input. Try not to lose your temper though, its hard to NOT be jealous, but you need to find out more about the situation before you decide what to do.

Answer 4

I don't know if she is cheating on you or not, but she obviously does not respect the fact that it bothers you that she is having long conversations with another man and lying about it.

Assuming you are not the jealous type and this is a real concern of yours, then she should consider your feelings about this matter and have long conversations with you instead of this other man.

The reason I mention jealousy, is because some men get jealous if their girlfriend says anything to any man. This would be unreasonable if that were the case. If you are not the jealous type, then she would have no reason to keep her conversations with that other man a secret from you.

I would just be honest with her, and tell her how you feel about her long conversations with this other man, and ask her whether she wants to be with you or not. It's up to you because it's your relationship, but I personally think a relationship should be built on trust and respect and honesty.

Answer 5

I believe she is cheating. I have a couple male friends and I tell my husband about them just so he knows and doesn't think anything of them. I feel I have nothing to hide since mine are just friends. If they were more I wouldn't have told him...does that make sense? My ex husband hid all kinds of emails and phone calls from me when he was cheating. If they would have been just friends...he would have told me. Has she changed at all. Does she dress nicer ? Wear new perfume? Those are signs also. I wish you the best.

Answer 6

It sounds like it is possible that she is cheating since she is trying so hard to keep it from you. I would call this person and ask them what is going on, tell him no lies just tell me so I can decide what I need to do. If he says they are just friends keep an eye on her since she maybe trying to get into a relationship with him. If he says they are more break it off with her and be glad you found out. Good Luck

Answer 7

Well, she has lied to you, so the answer is obvious. It would be okay if she wanted a male friend, but she is trying to keep something from you. Whether it be she has cheated on you, or plans on doing so. She sounds very shady on the whole situation. And if she loved you, she would not have lied to you. You could do better, move on! Good luck! :)

Answer 8

Honesty is necessary for any relationship to work. Have similar problem with my sons gf. Don't know how to tell him. Sounds like you need to move on and find another, one you can trust. This is the advice I'm going to give my son just as soon as I can figure out how to tell him. I thought about confronting his gf and telling her to get it together herself or move on.

Answer 9

She's definitely flirting with this guy on the phone. Start being nice to her first and confront her with the phone bill. Talk to her calmly and ask whether she's having feelings for him.......ask her if it's the other way round.......you on the phone with another women.....can she understand and accept it too? You guys really need to talk it over.

Answer 10

those who have nothing to hide, hide nothing. she is hiding it, by deleting the calls, think she has already cheated on u, when a mate gets aggressive, or treats u badly that there is definitely someone else in her life, she is interested in, so she treats u badly, hoping there will be a fight so she can justify what she is doing. she is still in contact with him, just not ready to leave u yet, but it's coming. prepare yourself for the worst, and know there is nothing u can do about it, as we can't control others, as they have free will. when someone wants to cheat on us, not even intervention will change it.

Answer 11

you may have intervened,but you have not stopped or stalled the possibility that you are being cheated on.The fact is you cant.Sometimes our hurt and frustration over a situation like this will drive our partner right into the arms of just the person we were trying to keep them from.You cant control your girlfriends behavior you can only hope its not your behavior that has possibly caused her to seek comfort elsewhere.