Here's the situation. You are close friends with a couple. Through all your relationships, the interaction between the couple, and your prior partners has been mild. Now you are with someone new, and married. The interaction between your couple friends, and your spouse is a good one because everyone has something in common and you all get along. But now, the wife in the couple starts to flirt alot with your husband. Although it would deem 'harmless'...is it?
2007-01-15 02:41:01 · 11 answers · asked by snugg_bug 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
First remember, no one can steal anything that doesnt want to be stolen , so if your husband isnt feeding into the flirting at all, then who cares.. because he's the one that took the vow to u , he's the one who swore to be faithful.. and he's the one u need to be concerned with not her.. theres going to be plenty of women that flirt with ur husband, and u'll never even see it, because it will happen when ur not around.. but its His character that will determine if u have something to be concerned about or not.. now if she's flirting to a point that it makes u feel uncomfortable.. let her know.. just be honest.. but if it is harmless, and he seems as if he could careless.. then just be proud of your man and smile and know that she wishes she had a man as good as yours..
But if he touches him definately b**** slap her lol..
2007-01-15 02:53:07 · answer #1 · answered by brwneyedgrl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you think it's harmless? I was in a situation like that and thought it was harmless and my husband ended up having a 3sum with the other couple when our first child was 5 months old and I didn't find out about it until 2 years later when I was pregnant with our second child! I say go with you gut feelings on it and don't let them make you feel bad if you think something is wrong. My hubby made me feel so bad that I even apologized to the couple for thinking such things. How foolish was that!!
2007-01-15 10:48:54 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Do you trust him? DO you trust her? If she is a true friend then it is harmless. We have a couple that we are very close with, there is joking - but nothing besides that. We all feel like brothers and sisters when we are together,
If this bothers you - then tell hubby and have him make a mental note on your feelings and have him not react to her actions. If she still acts this way, tell her that it bothers you. If she is a real friend - then she will apologize for stepping over the line and that is fine. If she blows up, get rid of them - they are not true friends.
Good Luck~
2007-01-15 10:54:40 · answer #3 · answered by WhatNext 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, it's never harmless.. women who flirt with someone's man cause problems. She makes people (the husband, the wife and her own partner) feel awkward and uncomfortable- that's rude, too. Flirting is a way of saying "I'm -sexually-interested in you". It's inappropriate to play that game with other couples.
2007-01-15 10:50:36 · answer #4 · answered by Violet Pearl 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
a flirtacious wife and friend is never harmless. LET ME ask you, does your hubby has a cheating background that you know of? because would be easier now that you are marry for him to cheat specially with someone that would care to keep it on the download
2007-01-15 10:46:46 · answer #5 · answered by Jeenie 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Stop and look back... are you maybe being more sensitive to it now, Perhaps she has always been a flirt?? Bottom line (why don't people understand this???) if something makes you uncomfortable, by all means speak your mind..... if anyone takes offense from you speaking your mind, then they are probably feeling guilty. If these people are truly friends, then they would respect your opinions and try to resolve the situation to everyones satisfaction.
2007-01-15 10:49:44 · answer #6 · answered by raewrn 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Im sure its harmless however it might not be. Be on you P's and Q's about it. Id say something to my husband like " what the f uck, why are you so flirty with her?' just ask him
2007-01-15 10:45:42 · answer #7 · answered by jdnsmama1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is not harmless and if she continues to do so confront her and ask her to stop and if she continues and does not stop then get you and your husband away from her and find new friends.
2007-01-15 10:56:01 · answer #8 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
She probley has a little bit of a crush on him, but I would talk to her and ask her to not do that because it bothers you. If she doesn't respect you'r wishes I would tell your husband to tell her that he doesn't like it when she gets flirty. Good Luck
2007-01-15 10:48:24 · answer #9 · answered by little lady 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Probably. Flirting is something we do naturally. Talk with her but be careful cause if she may be defensive.
I would not worry too much about it though.
2007-01-15 10:45:33 · answer #10 · answered by rcbricker33 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋