My cousin got herself into this relationship with this guy who later became abusive and unfaithful. They had left each other, but ended up one night being together and she got pregnant. He made so many promises on being there for her. He lied. 11 months has past and all he has done is argued with her every time she needs money for diapers or for doctor's appoitments. All of a sudden he demands to take the child. He makes these threats on how he's going take the child away by putting her in court or by calling her offensive names and saying that she is not a good mother. She is terrified and those not know what to do. She wants to leave the state to live with her mother but he threatens her and say that she can't do that. What can she do? If anyone that has been in a situation like hers please give advise? She really needs it?
2007-01-15 02:30:35 · 11 answers · asked by av 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Run away and deal with it from there
2007-01-18 21:28:55 · answer #1 · answered by tillermantony 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your cousin could certainly contact the police and have a non association bond be placed on this fella but in reality it may just make things worse. If there is a woman's shelter close to where you cousin lives she would be wise to take her child and herself to this place. There they will offer her safe haven and help her with dealing with this abusive relationship. They can stay there until things have gotten a bit better and they are ready to move on and live independently. If she requires any type of legal counseling this can also be either arranged or they will help recommend a good lawyer for her anyway. Personally I do not believe that her boyfriend can stop her from moving out of state but she would be much wiser to get an opinion from a lawyer rather than a bunch of strangers. Living with abuse is an awful situation and I do wish your cousin the best of luck.
2007-01-15 10:47:18 · answer #2 · answered by crazylegs 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
for starters, she would be able to move if no court order was issued. if he pays child support, he has a right to visit the child. threats about taking custody of a child are just a bunch of hot air if the mother is not insane, an alcoholic or into serious drugs. if he would take the child by force, that is kidnapping and the law would find him. i think your friend should go to the local child support agency and get a support order. from there, she should move on.
2007-01-15 10:40:45 · answer #3 · answered by sinned 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all if he has been abusive, she should contact domestic violence, they offer housing and will her file a PFA against him. He is just using threats to scare her. The domestic abuse will also help her file for child support for the child and obtain full custody of her child. She has to have a starting ground and that would be her best choice to do right now. If he abused her then most likely he will abuse the child.
2007-01-15 10:36:53 · answer #4 · answered by daisy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She needs to stop believing his threats. AND be strong for herself and her baby. Get a court order for child support, as well as a restraining order to keep him away from her. He knows he's got her snowed.
2007-01-15 10:44:39 · answer #5 · answered by iyamacog 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Solution: take him to court so he can pay child support. That should shut him up. Sorry, but he didn't show much support or help when child was in womb or after baby was born. So she has that in her favor. He can take her to court all he wants, but she will come out looking angelic compared to him. Judgement: In mother's favor, and he will pay! Good luck! :)
2007-01-15 10:36:42 · answer #6 · answered by metallicachic82 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She needs to talk to a lawyer. (free legal help clinics exist if she has no money) and get her rights set in stone. Every state has different laws about what the parents rights are.She needs to find out what her's are and then cement them in stone through the courts.
2007-01-15 10:35:43 · answer #7 · answered by raewrn 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Contact a lawyer. Get some sort of custody agreement worked out in court. Then get away!
2007-01-15 10:35:43 · answer #8 · answered by blcria 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Call the police. Get a non harassment order, and report him immediately.
2007-01-15 10:33:47 · answer #9 · answered by Java Queen 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She needs to get away from him, fast.
2007-01-15 10:34:15 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋