I'm married. I had an online affair for almost 5 months. We called it off today. My heart is breaking. I can't stop crying. I don't know what to do. I have no one I can discuss this with. I don't want my friends or family to know what I've done. It's making me crazy. The kids are looking at me funny, wondering why I'm crying.
I never knew it was possible to love 2 people at the same time. We both knew it was wrong. We agreed to call it off because I'm not willing to leave my spouse. This is the first time I've ever done something like this. I know it was wrong. I know that I'm a bad person for doing it. I just wish I had someone I could talk to about it. My heart is truly breaking, but I know that it is the right thing to do.
I feel better being able to write it down here, just knowing that none of my friends or family will know about it. I guess it's just a bit of a confession. Do you have any more ideas that will help to mend my broken heart?
2007-01-15 02:19:58 · 12 answers · asked by drew d 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
let it go. He doesn't really love you anyway.
2007-01-15 02:25:48 · answer #1 · answered by oldsoftee2001 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
U have a secret affair with someone on line. U are married with kids. Think wisely, U already build up your family and as U said U are not willing to leave your spouse. It is good that U have a positive thinking. Doesn't matter U made a sacrifice to call it off with your on line contact. At least U save the entire family from any unhappiness and separation.What happen if U continue, your family will break and U will lost all what U already sow. As from now on, avoid such relationship and concentrate on your family.
2007-01-15 02:37:20 · answer #2 · answered by atbt 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok wait, I just want to clear things up a little for me. You had an on-line affair so you never met this individual in person?? I think this is becoming more common. Your heart is breaking because you really liked/loved this person you were talking too. Something must have happened that you ended it, WHAT? Was it getting too serious were you thinking your wife was going to find out? It was not healthy for you. You have to ask yourself what is happening in your life right now that opened you up to start talking to another woman on line? Could it be possible you are not happy at home? Is there something stressful happening in your life causing you to need distraction for the past 5 months? Did someone change jobs, new baby, move or a recent death in the family? Just look back and ask yourself that. I would not discuss this with anyone close to you in your circle of friends or family and especially not your wife. She won't understand and it will just make her very upset and not to mention her trust in you will be completely gone. You just need to figure out why you did it and can you move on and be happy?
2007-01-15 02:37:13 · answer #3 · answered by ? 6 · 4⤊ 0⤋
If your married , why did you even get involved in an online relationship? You were playing with fire. Now your paying for it with a broken heart. It happens all the time though unfortunately. My advice would be to stay off of the computer for a bit or try not to spend too much time on it. Get rid of everything that reminds you of her. Delete her s/n . Keep yourself busy and try spending more time with your family. It will take time but in time things will get easier. This was a mistake and you have learned from it (hopefully). Good Luck!
2007-01-15 02:29:39 · answer #4 · answered by Lace 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Im sure it will take some time for the wound to heal. We all learn from our mistakes, you admitted to what you did and said you were sorry which is good. I think the fact that she wants to know the full details of what happened is normal, as soon as she found out it became a trust issue. Obviously, she wants to know, but the more you tell her the more it will upset her. So I would suggest that before you speak with her about any details... talk about something positive, maybe guide each other on how to listen and respect each other, so that you dont end up screaming or arguing. Im sure that if you love her and she loves you, you will get her back. Matters like these require a lot of communication. Just my opinion. Thanks.
2016-05-24 05:31:01 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay, putting it on the internet means that EVERYONE can see it, including your family and firends. Especially if any of them have Yahoo! Never put personal information that you don't want anyone to know about on the world wide web; it's idiotic and destined to get you into some trouble. Good luck keeping this one a secret now...
2007-01-15 02:29:21 · answer #6 · answered by Cori 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry to tell u this but u have 2 tell her about this. I mean if u don't it doesn't matter how much u try in confess. or what any one es ls say u should do, take what I'm saying to heart and tell her all about this cause your not hurting anyone but your self and your family. don't mess this up any more bye trying to hide it. It will eat u alive.
2007-01-15 02:33:21 · answer #7 · answered by honey.. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be glad it didn't become physical. Talk to your minister/priest. You need to tell someone to get it out. ....walk away from the computer and never look back. I'm talking from experience. I know your hurting, but it'll be the best in the long-run.
2007-01-15 02:26:11 · answer #8 · answered by K.W. 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
When one thing ends, there is space for another...activities... (not an affair) to begin.
Focus your energies on your family.
Also find new activities that are healthy.
In time you will feel better and try not to do that again!
2007-01-15 02:27:18 · answer #9 · answered by Lake Lover 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you kids see you crying they are going to tell your husband. You need to tell your husband the truth, come clean and hopefully he will forgive you.
2007-01-15 02:31:12 · answer #10 · answered by hank 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a LIFE & then write a book about it
2007-01-15 02:39:58 · answer #11 · answered by LCee 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋