does anyone have tips for shyness?

Question

i am really shy, and i have just joined a drama class. You cannot be shy to pass- in other words, if i don't get rid of my shyness fast, i will fail....any tips for getting rid of my shyness FAST???

Answer 1

Practice becoming fascinated by other people. Ask them about themselves, and concentrate when they answer you. Remember what they tell you about themselves so you can talk about it later, or on another occasion.


Great socialisers make other people feel comfortable and interesting. How do they do that? By being really, genuinely interested in other people. If you are talking to someone and you feel boring or inferior, ask why that is. Is it really all your fault?


Practice using fewer 'personal pronouns' when you talk about things. Sentences beginning with 'I' are not only a turn-off for the listener, they also keep the focus of attention on you, which increases shyness. (Note: Of course, part of friendship is giving away things about yourself, but only when you feel it is appropriate to do so.)


Remember that the way to overcome shyness is to focus elsewhere. Like on imagining what it will be like to really enjoy the social event, on how it will feel to be full of energy, or to be having a great conversation with someone.

Instructions

STEP 1: Determine why you're shy in the first place. For example, are you scared of what someone might say about your physical appearance? Remember, there's an underlying reason for how you react in situations.

STEP 2: Act as if you're not shy. In private, behave as if you're oozing confidence. Hold your chin up, stick your chest out, add a swagger to your walk and speak firmly. It may seem ridiculous, but you will see results when you're out in public.

STEP 3: Practice making eye contact and smiling in your interactions with others. Strike up casual conversations with strangers about weather or current events.

STEP 4: Look your best. One way to improve self-consciousness is to always look good and limit ways you can be self-critical.

STEP 5: Lower your fear of rejection by imagining the worst possible outcome. If you approach someone, they may say "no" or they may just walk away. Absolutely everybody has been rejected at some point, but no one has to dwell on it.

STEP 6: Look and learn. Watching friends or even strangers who aren't shy is a good way to learn some tips first-hand.

STEP 7: Feel positive about yourself, don't get frustrated and have fun. Remember, the real goal is to find someone who will like you for who you are.

Answer 2

Drama class will make you or brake you! So if you want to act and pursue an acting career, then you're in the right place and did the right thing to overcome your shyness! But in the mean time, work on talking to people and approaching those you usually wouldn't talk to. Prove to yourself that you can fight and overcome this shyness by finding out that it all starts with you and your efforts! Good luck! And don't worry about anyone else's comments or thoughts; this is about you and your well being and mental health! Have fun and smile more often!

Answer 3

im a very shy person as well and im also starting college. What iv done is just wait till im in a group of people and try and join into convos what i can join into. If i cant find a convo ill try and join in to what ever there talking about. Another way is by hanging around with your old friends. If they have new friends im sure you will end up speaking to them. Thats happend alot to me over years. You can also try joining alot of clubs. It may sound hard but really its quite easy. I used to be VERY shy. What got me going was when i joined a local hockey team. That boosted my confidence right up. Try joining some college clubs and see what happens. The first answer you got. No dont go and drink lots of beer.... Im not a drinker or smoker and i can overcome my shyness easy. Basicly you can 1: join clubs which make you interact with lots of people. It definatly works 2: hang around with old friends offen and you will get to know there new friends. 3: Join in with convos what you can join in. If none come up just try and say a few words. It does boost your confidence There the things what has helped me. Im sure if you give some a try you will overcome shyness :) good luck!

Answer 4

I really like what Tiffany said. Just to add to it - I'm a very shy person and I think that it might stem from a low self-esteem. I'm always afraid that people don't care what I have to say or that they will laugh if I actually do speak. I've had to consciously remind myself that most people aren't that cruel. And I also have to remember that I do have opinions and thoughts that are worth hearing and that someone might be interested in. Keep reminding yourself of that and if you have a really good friend who you are very comfortable with, start telling him/her everything you want to say and see what his/her response is. Feeling like someone is listening and is interested may be that little boost you need to get you through that next drama class.

Oh! And congratulations on doing something crazy like joining a drama class. I'd never be able to do that. You've taken a huge step just by doing that.

Answer 5

What are the "domains" that you are shy about? (That you are shy talking about them with other people, or even more: the things that you are shy thinking about even with yourself, inside you).
A few years ago I was shy also (namely about speaking to other people and especially with girls... after a few years I realised that the people I was talking back then had a really big influence on me.)
I realized that no-one was ever going to make me "not shy"... It was all up to me... I read books, I talked to people, made a few new friends (friends that are much more open to me... but it still not enough... I have many things to do for myself to change in a good way...)
It takes time.
Do not be ashamed by the fact that you are shy. NEVER!
Be confident in other people's goodwill and you will see: maybe you'll loose some friends (because they exploit in their favor the fact that you are shy... in order to win something from you, not even caring about your well-being)... BUT: you will win a lot more people than you'll lose...
Maybe for girls is different... I just told you how it was (and IS in the present) for me. (I'm 23, male.)
How old are you?
:)

For fast results, focus on what YOU KNOW causes you shyness and discomfort and go to your enemies and your friends (sometimes friends are the greatest enemies)... and tell them about them... I think... I'm not sure though... Do it at your own risks, I never done that... :) It could work, though...
How about talking to your family?
How about repeating your roles with a loud voice in your house, so that you could get comfortable first with your parents, and after that you can do it on a scene with unknown people around you.
Maybe a scene where you have to kiss embarrasses you? Kiss someone, then... tell him that you need to practice and you're very shy, and you want to know how it is to kiss someone new... I don't know. (Ask that person to be your "tutor" and he will be "paid" in some way... hehe... check that out, tell me how it went out, pussycat, I'm interested... ;) )

Best wishes.

Answer 6

Change your perspective and outlook on things. Be bold, be brash, be brave...with these attributes confidence will overcome any shyness that you may have.

Option 2: Have a couple of drinks before class to loosen you up. Just kidding. Have fun and relax. It's hard to be shy when you are enjoying what you do or just plain having fun. Do you want to be in this drama class? If you do enjoy it.

Answer 7

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Answer 8

Focus on the thought that this drama class will be the best thing for you, I was going to say to take a public speaking course, but a drama class will work just as well...Think " this wll be good, this will be good, and go for it!!!

Answer 9

well....just be confident of yourself...try not to think about what others think....maybe it will help you feel better facing the crowd....just think about things that will make you feel more confident...anyway...good luck!!

Answer 10

Remember that the others are merely people as well.