I'm a 23 years old man.
On yahoo messenger, if a woman (20 years old, for example) starts a chat with me and says hello, and I answer hello back to her and after that she says How are you?... Is it ok if I don't answer to her question?
(She is a little promiscuous and not very nice to me... like if I ask her something or if I say hello when I meet her she looks somewhere else or pretends she doesn't hear me, and other times she is very friendly and nice to me...)
Because I'm very depressed and I don't want to say I'm ok when I'm not.
What else can I answer to her, or to anyone else for that matter?
2007-01-15 01:58:16 · 6 answers · asked by iDontKnowWhatToDo 2 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
How about trying to say something like..."I'm not as good as I could be, thanks" or perhaps...." Not as good as I want to be right now, but am working on it". To not answer at all is a little on the rude side, and no reason to lower yourself to her standards level, there are LOTS of people out there to talk to, don't pick the ones that treat you rudely. And then there is always the truth...When asked how you are doing, tell them the truth..."I'm feeling a little depressed right now, but thanks for asking." and maybe, just maybe, that person might actually be able to help you in some way. You never know until you are honest. Give it a try and see. Hope this helped you some.
2007-01-15 02:08:35 · answer #1 · answered by dragondave187 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell her that you're not feeling too great. You don't have to completely ignore her or be dishonest either. You are free to tell people that your mood isn't the best right now and you're kind of blue. Just remember that instant messenger IS a way of interacting with others. If you don't want to interact or you don't want to answer questions - then maybe you shouldn't be on there until you feel better about dealing with other people.
2007-01-15 10:09:57 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I once heard someone reply to this question: I am doing very well, but the person i think i am is having a very bad day. I found that a very true and funny remark that might give her the option to elaborate on it or not. (i think you being not eager to tell her is because you don't want to immediately complain or be negative, but you also don't want to play shiny sunshine when that would be a lie)
I myself have however not used this answer, i just say "thanks, and you?"
("thanks" is nice, appreciating the question, "and you?" means i am also interested in you. Not saying "fine" nor "bad" means i want to be on the surface about my mood, but she might not even notice, and the difficult question is gone.)
Good luck chatting,
enjoy feeling bad (not nastilly meant; it is a healthy thing to fully experience and feel al that goes on in your body and mind, and that one might call enjoying as well)
wish you to have a good day soon!
Dr. Aram
2007-01-15 17:19:24 · answer #3 · answered by Dr. Aram, from Holland with love 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi First of all why are u depressed and for how long have u felt like this. Like i say to everyone else who is depressed, please go and see ur doctor and tell him how u are feelling. U will realize it doesnt really matter if u talk to this girl or not its how u are feeling about urself right now that matters. You matter.
2007-01-22 15:17:14 · answer #4 · answered by jane h 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
state how you really feel. this will resolve the issue either way.
2007-01-20 12:37:58 · answer #5 · answered by pnn177 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
partly cloudy
2007-01-15 10:06:29 · answer #6 · answered by yessy yes no 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋