how often do you?

Question

How often do you have intercourse? I've been with my partner for 2 years and I think we do it a lot and he thinks we dont. I was just wondering how often other couples in a similar situation do it? I work 40hours a week & he's unemployed at the moment. He lives with me and we dont have children and are in our early twenties.

no rude answers please.

Answer 1

since you are working you probably think three times a week is a lot. Since he isn't working he probably thinks that once a day isn't enough.

Put his butt to work. Construction should slow him down somewhat.

Answer 2

What someone would define as "alot" varies from person to person. Generally speaking, men want sex more often than women. That said, I've known some women who had a hard time imagining going more than a week without and some men who were barely up to it once a month. Comparing your sex life to others is, in my opinion, a bad idea. For example, my wife and I are together three times a week minimum lately. That's more than my wife would prefer, and less than I would prefer, but we've arranged it in such a way that we're both happy with it. My wife and I have talked about all the options and have come to the conclusion that if there's any comprimise that needs to be made in regards to how often in sex, unless there's a medical reason, it's the one who needs it less that needs to comprimise more. The reason is simple: the person who needs it less can cut back on work, can hire someone else to clean the house, can go out to eat, can find friends to visit with, whatever he/she is missing can be found somewhere else without any damage to the relationship. However, in most cases, the person who needs sex more can't just go out and find some other girl/guy to have sex with unless they want to destroy the relationship. As a simple rule of thumb, try not to deny your significant other something unless you're okay with them finding it somewhere else.

That said, I don't think that it should become a chore. It should be something that everone can enjoy, at least a little. Sometimes having to do it too often can bring it over from something fun to something that's a chore. That's bad. This point is different for different people. For me, it wouldn't be a chore unltil I had to do it more than twice a day. My wife would start to feel it was a chore at a consistient every-other-day.

Answer 3

Ok....he's 40, I'm 35, been married for over 4 years, he works FT outside the house and I work from a home office selling online plus we are both OCD so we do alot of cleaning lol so we are about as tired as any other couple and I have a teenager at home. We have intercourse twice a week (usually on Saturday or Sunday then around Wednesday or Thursday). I almost always "orally serve" him on Monday when he gets home from work because Monday is his most stressful day, and usually he'll want another bj or he'll want me to jerk him off (or he'll do it alone, I don't care) before we go run errands or visit relatives because he "needs to relax" as he is high strung.

So, I am happy with twice a week, he needs to come about 4 times a week. I think that is pretty normal for a man who has alot of testosterone like he does. He was on Wellbutrin to quit smoking and it didn't make a dent in his libido. He wasn't too happy when I had my uterus cut open in March and we couldn't have sex for weeks LOL. I don't plan on letting my libido go to waste after menopause either. I love him and love being with him.

I think the average couple has sex twice a week if they aren't having problems outside the bedroom or don't have little kids, which are draining. I know people in sexless marriages and people who only do it once every 8-10 weeks because they argue and fight all the time. If your spouse is your best friend, that shouldn't happen. Marriage is a bank, everything you do puts in or takes away. If you have little kids, get a sitter. The best thing you can do for your kids is take care of your relationship with each other.

Answer 4

I'm in my twenties and have been with partner for 6 years. We do it once a week at the most. I used to think that was too little but i find we are both happy with that. I don't think the regularity of it matters as long as you are both satisfied and happy with it. We have 1 baby and both work. I'm wondering if your partner might be feeling the lack of desire because he isn't working? He could see you as more successfull than him at the moment? I'm sure over time it will iron itself out. After all, sex is not the most importnant part of a relationship and it's good that you are discussing it. good luck

Answer 5

You havent said how often you do - which is probably quite a good thing as it doesnt put any answers in people's minds!

I am 49, my husband is 48 - he works outside the home, i work in it and we do it virtually every day - certainly 5 times a week.

If this is causing rows, or upsets, you need to get communicating more. I imagine you feel you are doing everything as no doubt you are paying the bills. He MUST be able to find some sort of job. Don't get stuck with a loser. I did until i got out of it by divorce. You are young, you need a guy who's prepared to work hard AND play hard!

Answer 6

He needs to get out there an earn some cash to help you pay the rent and bills, and to burn off some of that excess energy. There is no right or wrong amount of times you should be having sex, so don't feel upset or disappointed if you find that people have sex more often than you. I would say on average around 5 or more times a week, sometimes more, sometimes less depending on how late he has been working.

Answer 7

It really varies by the week. It happens at least once a week for sure. Probably even twice. But, if we both have weeks where we aren't stressed and worn out from work, it may be 4 or 5 times. The funny thing is, sometimes we are so busy on the weekend, we never have a chance because we come home and fall asleep.

Answer 8

I have been with my husband for 6 years and he has a very high sexl drive (as do I). We both work and have two young daughters and we still manage to be togehter at least 5-6 times a week. I know sometimes I come home tired and have to deal with the household and the kids and when I crawl into bed I just want to go into a coma. I talked with him about it so now a days, he helps out with things in the evening. (with the kids) giving me time to rest, catch my breath. So when the time is right for the both of us, I am more than ready.

I am 34 and he is 36

Answer 9

When I was in my early twenties and only married a couple of years, we had sex in the a.m before I went to work. We had sex when I came home for lunch. We had sex before and after dinner and a then when we went to bed. Now we are in our 40's and it has slowed to 3 or 4 times a week. Of course I have never been so disrespectful as to be unemployed.

Answer 10

My partners drive has gone down since he's had a regular job and doesn't spend his days looking at p**n! We are both 30 and my drive has gone down not up! We have some about 2-3 times a week, he wants more. And he gets stressed if he has to wait any longer than 3 days! Hope this helps. Get him to work he has less time on his hands to think about it trust me, lol!

Answer 11

With me it is every other day. So its about 3-4 times a week after several years with my BF. Also, there are other times during the week when he just go down on each other without the entire intercourse.