do you find any sense in this?

Question

i personally dislike the idea of marriage and that's because i don't believe love could ever be defined. there are so many meanings! be it passion, a deep friendship, a game, logic..etc. so many people have their own opinions and fall in love for differant reasons. a contract simply means you are commited to your partner untill you break the contract. and that's when you go to court. in my opinion marriage is only the government's way to track you down and this commitment (contract) we're talking about seems more like a trap. why can't lovers live happily ever after without a binding contract? +if anything goes wrong without this thing, you can just split your earnings and walk away. +if you want your lover's earnings, you can always write a will. besides, gays can't get married in most countries, one is not allowed to have more than one lover, sometimes two ethnic groups are not allowed to be married..so why not just live together?

Answer 1

In theory what you said makes sense.

In reality this institution called marriage has already been established, so to take advantage of other benefits of marriage (besides love, of course) you have to go ahead and legally recognize it. So whether it be for tax purposes, Join Spouse (military folks would understand), financial backing and other financial quests, credit, and many other things I can't think of right now.... would be the benefit to tie the not with the contract.

But you're right. If it's true love then why go through the whole formal mess? More of a tradition, I guess. Most (not ALL... "most", or "some") women dream about that day from the time they are little girls.

Answer 2

Above all of your definitions love is a commitment first and foremost. Love is self-sacrificing. The rest of things describe the different effects of love.

Marriage is pinacle of love between people. A lifelong commitment.

If you want "true" love why would you seek to leave the relationship?

Love is work, it is a journey. Why cheapen it with whimsical feelings? How will you learn anything if you leave after the first struggle? You have gained nothing.

You build your muscles by working out. You stay commited to it. When you quit your muscles atrophy. So it is with love.

So it is with marriage. Sure it is backed by the laws of the land. But laws only serve to assist you in the work that is love in your marriage.

What you want is easy love. That is what we call lust. You simply want to have your fun and when the fun is over move on to the next fun thing. That is like living on cupcakes. It fills the belly but tears your health apart.

So, there is much sense in marriage beyond the laws of the land. It serves a deeper purpose.

Answer 3

Because we live is a society that caters to billions of people, it is wise to have some kind of control. For example: having babies out of wedlock can result in a sibling marring another. They may have the same father but not the same mother or the same mother but not the father. It's too bad people lost respect for the marriage arrangement, because if it's used properly it reaps much blessings.
 1 Corinthians 13:4-7....Love is long-suffering and kind. Love is not jealous, it does not brag, does not get puffed up, does not behave indecently, does not look for its own interests, does not become provoked. It does not keep account of the injury. It does not rejoice over unrighteousness, but rejoices with the truth. It bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.

Answer 4

One doesn't have to tell the world that one is in love, when one is in love, but for many, to not do so would make it seem as if they are ashamed for not speaking out about it. Can/do you love a person less when you are quiet about it than when you are loud and boisterous about it?

Marriage, and its contracts, is simply one way in which society and its members can understand one of the relationships that some people have with one another. To 'marry' someone has a different social relationship implication than saying 'spending the night' or 'moving in'.

Like most things, marriage is for people who want to be married, and who want the society to recognize that the relationship they share with this person is significantly different than one they share with anyone else.

One does not have to get married to be 'bonded' with another person (far too many examples of that) and to be married doesn't mean that the two people are made for each other for life (the high divorce rate attests to that as well). One doesn't have to go to the museums in one's city, but obviously if they exist, perhaps its because there are people who wanted them to, and others who will also be enriched because of it.

Do not think of marriage as being something that binds from the outside; marriage is ultimately about two people who choose to bind themselves to one another from within their own selves. Any marriage is ultimately about the personal contract we make with our partner. In other words, just because you don't have a piece of paper doesn't mean you aren't, and just because you have a piece of paper doesn't mean you are. When it comes to marriage, the personal contract is the more important one.

Answer 5

You're incredibly naive. You really think everyone just walks away happily? Everyone splits things equally? Wills can be changed too you know. Committing to love and care for someone through sickness and health and for richer for poorer makes you try harder to make things work. Gives you a foundation to build a family and a dream on.

Should children be labeled as illegitimate bastards because their parents couldn't be bothered with a ceremony? As for the government, they do not need a marriage certificate to track us down. Trust me on this, they know how to find us.

You may think throw away relationships are healthy. I think they are yet another symptom of a sick society quickly losing its family values and morality.

Answer 6

because the roots of most marriage is religious. Most marriages are a union before god to combine the two bodies of the male and female as one. THIS is why many people argue that gay's should not be married, due to the fact that most churches do not condone homosexuality. because of this the sanctity of marriage is more for the religious community and not the community as a whole. This is why I don't see why you can't do 2 things Reserve the term "marriage" for the religious or straight couples who prefer to be wed. and use the term "civil union" for same sex couples or straight couples that may reservations about religion and marriage.

Answer 7

You are right about all of the points, except that when children are involved there are a lot of things that are greatly simplified by getting married. Legal rights to ownership (of the kid) are made a million times easier through a marriage contract. But aside from children there is no reason to get married at all, especially in non-traditional societies.

Answer 8

You've got a lot going on in your brain. Why not be simple. Love is love and when you fall in love, you'll know it. Your marriage will be a testimony to all that you have chosen the one, the only one for you, for the rest of your lives. Don't try to figure societies problems all out.

Answer 9

marriage is so kids have a family....for thousands of years people had roles in a family...the daddy/husband role and mummy/wife role...and then the kids...all that's changed now...so yes...why get married in the first place when things have changed...on the other hand some marriages work....the other couples if you ask them wouldn't have it any other way...it's up to you and your lover to decide...if you wanna follow tradition..but its not a formulae to a successful relationship anymore....your best bet is as good as mine...although Catholics who don't subscribe to divorce have a dfferent view...about how a marriage should be...between 3 people ..you , your spouse and Jesus who joined 2 into 1 and holds the marriage together...
http://www.newadvent.org/cathen/09707a.htm
http://www.americancatholic.org/Newsletters/YU/ay0389.asp

Answer 10

well this is how i feel i think if you live with someone for a while that its OK why get married then you mess it up and if you don't try taking a leap in love how will you ever know what it is like if you think about something to much then whats the point
don't let people tell you how to live you do what you feel is right
but if you don't try how will you ever know