i was seeing some1 and found out he was married and he doesnt know i know?

Question

please help

Answer 1

You need to stop seeing him. He was dishonest with you from the start. You do not need anyone who is dishonest with you and is most certain not telling his wife, and probably has children.

Leave now even though it hurts, it is the best thing to do. You know it is. I had someone do that to me. He kept telling me his ex. Well, it wasn't an ex.

You deserve someone who is honest and can communicate and someone you can trust. You don't want someone who you thought was those things or who you wanted to be those things. He obviously isn't and he doesn't deserve to be given a chance. Leave now.

Hugs to you.

Answer 2

The majority of people who cheat, cheat for a reason. While its not the best situation to be in, I would certainly confront him on it. Dont just assume he is using you, dont get angry....give him a chance to explain. If you have deep feelings for him, allow him his side of the story, because there are always two sides to every story. He kept this from you for a reason...probably because he didnt want to lose you. You are obviously giving him something he needs. Not everything is black and white, and just because he is married and didnt tell you, doesnt mean to say hes a bad man. This is probably the worst forum to ask this question because people will judge based on the fact that he is married...not on anything else. He is a human being and I dont believe anybody, man or woman "cheats" for the hell of it.

You want to get to the bottom of this and the best way of doing it is by being calm, because if you start throwing accusations around you will put him on the defensive and you will never get the truth. You have to approach this thing calmly. You have to try, as hard as it is, to try to see this from his perspective. Dont assume anything....you need to hear it from his lips. Take the judgements you will get on here with a grain of salt because we are not in your situation......we do not have the feelings you have for this man. Ask him what his situation is, then make a decision. Do not, and I repeat, do not make a decision based on anything anyone says on here. In saying that though, think of yourself first because while you may have deep feelings for him, maybe even love him, he is married, therefore there are a lot of things you need to take into consideration. He may be very unhappy in his marriage, but you also need to know does he plan on leaving his wife. If he has no plans on leaving his wife, then, if you decide to stay with him, then know that you setting yourself up for a lot of hurt. Only you know your feelings towards this man. This man is the only person who knows how he feels about you too. Talk to him...find out the truth and then when you have the truth, then make a decision based on what he tells you. Only time will tell if he is serious.

Answer 3

Well, let's see. I suppose what you do really depends on how upset you are, how vengeful you are and what you can get out of this guy. You could blackmail him, but that might cause you more problems in the long run. I think calling his wife and then sitting back to enjoy the drama might be fun, but that also depends on what sort of guy he is. If he's a douche, do it. If he's up to the game, maybe. If he's an American, don't bother. Americans are psycho!

Answer 4

This man is a liar and a cheat and more than that he has gone about stripping his integrity. The next time he calls I would tell him right out "You ARE a liar, a cheat and not worth my time. Call again and I will make a call of my own."
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Answer 5

well it all really depends on him really doesn't it - has he actually specifically said that he isnt married, does he have kids (!), how much do u like him etc.

in the majority of situations, its quite simple tho - married men are not a safe option.

id tell him u no and see how he responds - if he runs, then it tells u that he does have some commitment to his wife and probs wouldn't have lasted with u anyway, but if he explains something about it bieng on the rocks etc. then theres more chance of him actually wanting o be with u.

Answer 6

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Answer 7

As far as I'm concerned, (as with all these questions) he's a cheating PIG and DUMP him. He's a low life loser. It really p****s me off when committed men and women cheat. Why be with that person in the first place if you want to sow your oats instead of being loyal. Yes I'm bitter. I've seen too many people hurt. (I'm not one of them by the way)

Answer 8

ok, i dated two married men in the same month, they are so evil. It's actually quite ridiculous. But after I found out the second one was married, I very conveniently showed up at his house while his wife was home....oops....wonder if he's still married. They are such assholes!

Answer 9

I would expose the son of a B. His wife needs to know that she's married to a low life and she deserves better.

Answer 10

oh dear.. sorry to hear that. DROP HIM IMMEDIATELY it isnt going to be easy but you need to drop him and ignore him completely. Erase him from your life as quick as you can and leave the pathetic excuse for a man to live his pitiful life! If you want him to know you know tell him in one sentence then leave, or right him a letter. Tell his wife? Get out of there! good luck!