I dont understand whats going on with my fiance?My bf and i started dating my senior year in highschool and got engaged afterward.Everything was fine till college started he only took 3 classes and ended up dropping 2 of them leaving just the one he ended up on probation.He could not keep a job and started asking me to borrow money which as okay but the problem is he never pays me back?He keep complaining if i dont give him money that my family is much better of than his that i am being stingy.I still love but i dont think i can take much more of this i am exausted.He does nothing but live in his moms basement and play video games all day!He never acted like this in highschool?
2007-01-15 01:15:06 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I am taking 4 classes and working to pay for books,gas, nessarys,cell phone,savings and car insurance. When i go visit him at 3:00 in afternoon he is still in his sleep wear!
2007-01-15 01:23:55 · update #1
He seems to think i do nothing all day and should be at his beck and call!?
2007-01-15 01:26:22 · update #2
This boy has major identity crisis'. you can continue to feed his fantasy world, or you can nip it in the bud and call a halt to your relationship with him until he sorts hmself out.
It isnt like ending it, but more like tough love.
he needs a firm approach.
Your it
2007-01-18 21:10:20 · answer #1 · answered by tillermantony 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dump him.
Dump him now.
Dump him now, and tell all your friends that you broke up with him, and never want to see him again. Burn the bridges between the two of you.
Dump him now, delete his mom's phone # from your phone, throw away all pictures of him, tell him to never ever call you, return all his possessions, and move on with your life. If you marry this guy, your life will be a downward spiral. He will not hold a job, he will constantly borrow money, and you will get to the point where you hope to live in a double-wide trailer of your own some day.
I can't tell you why this guy has no ambition. Maybe he's doing drugs, or he's an alcoholic. But I can tell you that marrying him would be the biggest mistake you could ever make.
2007-01-15 01:25:42 · answer #2 · answered by Ralfcoder 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look Jenny you need to move on --you sound like you've got yourself in the right direction and he is an anchor-maybe if you leave then he will snap out of it and do something w/ himself!! If his family is so "well off" then tell him to take their money and kiss your ***--he is only going to slow you down and this may be a critical time in your life to make decisions that could have an impact on the outcome of your future--what would you do if you ended up pregnant from this guy?? think about it!! Good Luck!!
2007-01-15 01:56:10 · answer #3 · answered by I'm laughing WITH you 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Same thing happenned to me...my ex did exactly the same as your guy. but he had O.C.D. he couldn't keep a job or concentrate on studies. even at work he used to stay surfing the net all the time. Life became hell as time went on. He could no longer keep appointments with me, always coming late, always oversleeping. He never even managed to be on time for work interviews or driving lessons.
He said he loved me but it was too difficult to remain in a relationship with him. I left him and found a guy who's grown-up and acts like a real man. Life is totally different now and much easier. I never really loved a person who was wholly dependent on me and his family. A mature fulfilling relationship can only happen between two mature, independent adults.
I would leave him if I were you. What finally led me to leave him when I was seriously considering leaving him was a friend asking me: Do you see yourself with him in five years time? If you keep on procrastinating in 5 years time you'll still be in the same situation. and so i ask you: do you want your life to always be like this??? Few people change if they ever do...
2007-01-15 01:30:00 · answer #4 · answered by Micia 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All they say is "Dump him." I think that is the conclusion that you have to make. First of all try to spend more time with him, learn to play his games, they are no so dificult as they look. Or make him gelous, get out with your friends, let him know that you're not his posesion. When he'll start ask you what's wrong, tell him that your parents don't give you money anymore. So you're broke. What is he going to do? THIS IS THE TEST. If you mean nothing to him, he'll dump you. If he's changing, I was wrong and all of us were.
2007-01-15 01:30:26 · answer #5 · answered by LynX 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Jenny He needs to grow up. and you need to leave him and let him do it. I am 25 and am from a average income family. But I dont want help from them or anyone else I feel like they raised me for 18 years now its my turn to make it on my own and treat them some times. I work two jobs so that I can get ahead. One of my jobs is a business that I started and it does well. You sound like a smart girl let him go and find someone who has some drive and ambition. macinsc20@yahoo
2007-01-15 01:21:32 · answer #6 · answered by Mac H 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People change a lot between the ages of 18-22 when they get out on their own and finish growing up. Apparently he has changed not for the better in your eyes. Move on and find someone that treats you right and doesn't serve as a drain on you.
2007-01-15 04:14:10 · answer #7 · answered by Eric 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dump him. He is using you. If he wants a grown up relationship, he needs to become a grown up. Stop giving him money. You will probably never get back the money you have already given him, but you can stop it from now on.
Tell him to come back when he gets a life.
2007-01-15 01:20:07 · answer #8 · answered by Beth B 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How are you sure that he's playing video games all day? It sure sounds like something else is going on. It could b a bunch of stuff. But i'd try looking in to it, if you know what i mean.
2007-01-15 01:21:13 · answer #9 · answered by floridakiddd 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you think you love him it is because you have no idea what love is. He is a habit(a bad habit) and a really messed up sense of security for you. Just because you gave up your "V" does not mean he has a right to use you forever. Move on and give yourself a chance to be loved.
2007-01-15 02:04:36 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋