I am not satisfied in my married life i'm 27 i would like to marry my lover.?

Question

I m now living seperately for some reasons,oftenly sense of suicide attacking me,in between accidently i fall in love with a girl,i like to live with her,as per my opinion without satisfaction i cannot lead a happy life or i can't able to give happy life to my wife.better to quit.can't able to decide,spoken openly with my wife in this regard she agreed and go ahead.give me solution

Answer 1

It sounds like you need professional help more than a divorce lawyer. And taking on a lover is never the answer. What makes you think you're not going to feel the same way about her in a few months? The problem lies within your head, and that's why you need to seek professional help to sort out all these other confusing things that are going through your head. You cannot lead a happy life by bouncing from one relationship to another. It will just lead to more unhappiness. No one can completely satisfy you in the state you're in, especially since you've had suicidal thoughts. I have first-hand experience that you can work through any situation that arises in a marriage. I've been through some of the worst things a marriage can go through, and we're still together, working it all out. Marriage is always a work in progress. You have two imperfect people coming together as one. Unless you continue working on your relationship, you will be unhappy with each other. Many people get married for the wrong reasons, often thinking that their feelings of love will last forever. It doesn't. You soon find out that the person you married has problems too, just like you do. Expecting them to always live up to your expectations is too much for anyone to do, just like you'll never live up to theirs. Marriage is a growing thing, maturing together, and learning that love is deeper than feelings. I know now, after over 29 years of marriage, that the love I have for my husband is deeper and more lasting now than when we first married. I didn't have a clue, back then. And it sounds like you didn't either. Love isn't about you being satisfied. It's not about your feelings (feelings will ALWAYS change). It's not about you. It's about two people, becoming one, in every way. You can no longer think just about yourself. Love puts others feelings above your own. If that's not how you think, then you don't know what love is. And taking on a new person isn't going to last, as long as you haven't worked through your issues. Never bring another person into a messed up marriage. It will only get worse. Work through what's bugging you. Own up to your faults and failings. That's where going to a counsellor will help. Whether it's a psychologist, pastor or other such person, get help. Then, ask your wife to join you, so that she can also work through the issues you both have. Marriage isn't a shoe store, where you try on this pair or that pair, to see which one works for you, then bringing it back because it causes you too much pain & doesn't satisfy your needs. Marriage is forever...till death. While separation can help get your perspective cleared up, it's not meant to be permanent, so that you can start living with someone else. I've seen too many marriages destroyed by people who were too selfish to work through their issues. Another relationship won't give you what you want. You'll end up tossing that one aside too. Just think about what I've said. Think about getting help. Think about what you're doing. <*)))><

Answer 2

When one is faced with a critical decision hurt one and leave for the other or hurt the other and stay with one you don't want to leave...delima delima

The easiest way to answer this question for you is that you have to lay your cards on the table.

You have to set a path where you're going.

You have to choose which path is best for you in the long run.

Which choice is best for you?

Choose the path of righteousness and not selfishness.

Analyze and Intellectualize your decison that will get you where you want to be.
If path A leads to more despair then path B must better.

Do without the things you want, but get the things you need.

What is your best path here to go that will lead you to a much better life and a better disposition is what your faced with.

Choose wisely my friend, because not all that glitters is GOLD

When a Snake is hungry it looks for food at night carefully stalking out the prey by heat and then strikes and never misses.
The Snake has to live and a miss hit could send this Snake into a hunger that might kill him or her so their decision to strike at the right moment is a 100% hit on target.

You must hit your target first go round. No room for mistakes here. Be careful how you challenge yourself in a situation that might otherwise hinder you from your successful decision to not seek path A

Answer 3

You sound like you need to spend some time single. Don't start a new relationship until you get yourself sorted out. If you are going to divorce your wife, do so, but remember, once your lover is your wife, you go to having the same problems that any couple in a marriage has. Consider getting counseling and working on yourself and your marriage before you go off to the mistress.

Answer 4

OK, First you need to be honest with your wife and let her know how you are feeling right now, is always better to speak the true even that something it could hurts, then you won't feeling bad, because she knows what to expect from you. Talk to her tell her that you don't love her and that you love someone else, so she could go on with her life, and so do you. GOOD LUCK, BE HONEST WITH YOUR SELF AND YOUR WIFE, AND YOUR LOVER

Answer 5

You need to get some help. It's likely that you will end up in the same situation if not worse if you leave your wife for your lover.

There was a reason you married your wife and you need to rekindle the relationship. You need to think of her and not yourself.

I'll pray for you, because you really need the power of God here.

-Mike

Answer 6

Chances are YOU are the one creating this unhappiness and dis- satisfaction. The likelihood of your having long term satisfaction with someone besides your wife is mimimal. We tend to carry our own expectations and poor heavy baggage with us from one person to another in hopes that there is "room in their closet" for our junk--you will be a better friend to them and to yourself if you face up to your own shortcomings or problems and fix yourself, and not go on cluttering up other people's lives....think for a minute, and be honest with yourself, where else does this trait show up in your life?
This isn't just happening to you, you know, it is also happening to your wife, this is HER life , too.
Is this how YOU want to be treated???!!!!

Answer 7

Who don't you instead of cheating on your wife with another woman, go to marriage counceling and try to work out the problems in your own marriage. I think your listening to what society says, if your not happy in your marriage, get divorced and find what you want in another marriage, and that is not what marriage is about. In marriage if you go into it looking for what will make you happy it's doomed to fail.

You need to quit being so selfish and thinking about yourself. Put your wife first, think of her and her feelings and needs before your own.

I believe your marriage can be saved. But you have to want to try and work at saving it.

Answer 8

2 questions for you.
was there infidelity from either your wife or yourself?
Why do you think you have to give a "happly life" to your wife?Happiness comes from within...the partner should add happiness to the relationship.

Answer 9

Sounds like you need to get a divorce

Answer 10

you are in too much self pity..you know the saying either poop or get off the pot