last summer, I sat next to a guy in class. we periodically e-mail each other, but it makes me feel uncomfortable for some reason. We haven't done anything wrong, but we are both married. what is appropriate and what is not?
2007-01-15 00:47:35 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
Yes, it's possible to be friends only. Does it make you feel uncomfortable because one of you is feeling more than friendship? If so, then it is time to put on the brakes.
2007-01-15 00:54:22 · answer #1 · answered by Godsgirl 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing wrong with a man and a woman being e-friends. It can be a good friendship. If you aren't flirting with each other or hiding something from your spouses I don't see why you should feel uncomfortable about it. I have a bunch of male friends and e-friends and it's not a problem. My husband has female friends and pen pals too and we're both ok with such friendships as long as there's no cheating.
2007-01-15 09:23:30 · answer #2 · answered by undir 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, certainly, of course it is possible !!!
I have a few email buddies myself, some of them married, others single just like I am. Nothing wrong at all.....
What is appropriate is to keep the emails ''clean'' and free from flirtation, etc. unless you want a jealous husband ''watching over'' you.
If you have not done anything wrong, but for some reason you feel uncomfortable, ask yourself why you feel the discomfort?
Are you gradually attracted to him and vice versa?
Or, are you afraid of being attracted to him?
If it is nothing else but friendly emailing, then, I do not see anything wrong at all....
2007-01-15 09:00:01 · answer #3 · answered by winterlotus 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Nothing is wrong. It's all good and normal. But if one or both of you are feeling more than e mail buddies..well it's time to look at your marriages. Something is not right. If not, then it's perfectly fine. A friend is a friend no matter what sex they are. If he was a she you wouldn't feel guilty. There is no difference.
2007-01-15 09:00:40 · answer #4 · answered by cripesokay2 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You've actually answered your own question. If it makes you feel uncomfortable, there is something that is not right (listen to that little voice).
Another test would be, what would your husband think of this?
Would he be comfortable with it?
If your e-mails deal only with class events and a re neccessary for the class that is one thing, but other then that, be careful.
2007-01-15 08:56:22 · answer #5 · answered by LTin2000 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I presume you feel uncomfortable because your husband doesn't know about it?
If you wouldnt mind your husband looking over your shoulder and reading the conversations then fine I dont see a problem. If you're going to end up flirting though then this is just a prelude to betrayal and you should seriously consider what you're doing. I presume you didnt make a vow in church to honour your husband, then.
2007-01-15 08:52:05 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
As long as your missives are truly platonic (that is they involve no sexual or romantic overtones of any kind) then there shouldn't be any problem. I know plenty of happily married couples who have friends of the opposite gender and are not romantically involved with them. I suppose the important thing is to be open about it with your spouse so they don't *feel* like you are keeping secrets and that can lead to trouble. Also, ask yourself, would it bother you if your spouse had platonic friends of the opposite sex?
2007-01-15 09:00:58 · answer #7 · answered by Writer 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sure its possible.
I think its o.k. if the e-mails are such that you really don't mind your husband finding out about them. If you are hiding the habit from your husband, its probably not the best of ideas.
Talking or e-mailing another guy is not the real problem.
2007-01-15 08:55:55 · answer #8 · answered by rostov 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
It's perfectly fine, and it's possible for you to be friends. It would probably be easier for you to talk about your concerns with your friend so that you have a good foundation of understanding that your just friends.
2007-01-15 08:52:35 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋