I'm 22 and want a baby. Please read?

Question

Hi everyone, basically I'm just after your opinion in regards to my situation. I'm about to turn 22 in 2 weeks time and I really I'm ready for motherhood and all the responsibility that comes with it. My situation is similar to that of a question asked recently. I left school at 16 and have been working full time ever since and also studyinh business management at uni part time in the evenings. Been living away from home since 17. I've been with my boyfriend for almost a year and know in my heart he is the one I am going to spend the rest of my life with and he is the man I want to father my children. Marriage to me is not that important. My parents have divorced twice... so I guess thats where I've come to that opinion. I just feel I'm ready for that step in my life. I feel i've done the things I wanted to do whilst your young... like clubbing, and I've travelled o/s to England, Germany and America. Is this wrong to feel like this? Am I too young. Should I wait?

As my question states... I've done the clubbing... I don't do it anymore and haven't for sometime... My weekends consist of hiring DVD's and spending time at the beach etc.

We're about to build a duplex with my boyfriends parents (they will live in one side & we will live in the other). His mother doesn't work and she has already told me she would love to look after the baby if I want to go back to work.

I will marry him one day... but my view on relationships is that the commitment and bond is more important than a piece of paper. We have spoken of marriage... We're both on the same page... We are very committed to one another and neither of us need a ring to comfirm that. And I don't think its wrong to feel that way.

Answer 1

Live life to the fullest.
Have no regrets-
Honey, do whatever your heart desires if you know it will work than go for it!!! As long as you feel you are ready than there is nothing wrong

Answer 2

Get the ring on the finger and marry him first. See where his head is at as far as marriage goes. As much as marriage may not be important, you should have to consider who will watch the child when you are at work. Just check first if he is ready. You didnt say his age but I have a friend who is 22 and her man dumped her at the first talk of marriage. They were a great couple too. He was 22 but he "wanted to see the world". Best of luck to you!

Answer 3

first off jus b/c ur parents' marriages didnt work out doesnt mean urs wont. if u tink dat dis guy u r wit is d one how come u dont want 2 marry him no matter the outcome. i had my son wen i was 23. to say dat u are 2 young is not abt rite. if u r ready u r ready. jus kno it is not easy to deal wit. a baby is not a doll. it is like a full time job.

Answer 4

Hi there! I can relate to you as far as doing everything early, here goes...

Only two things REALLY matter:

A) Can you afford a baby?
B) Is your boyfriend ready for a baby

Everything else is jobberjabber. I'm 23 and I have a 14 month old baby, and I have no regrets, our lives are amazing!

Answer 5

I think you are too young. Even though you may feel you are mature enough...it's not just about that. Trust me, you have plenty of time to become a mother. Being a parent is a lifetime event. Please take more time and just enjoying being yourself and enjoying life. And.....you should be married when you have a baby. Even though marriage may not be important to you, it may be very important to your children. Think of them first...not you. If you aren't concerned about marriage...then perhaps that shows you really aren't ready to be a parent. Just give it some time....at your age, you have plenty of it.

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Answer 7

ok well i am going to give you my opinion you sound like you know what youi want and will go after what you want u seem smart and got a good head on your sholders...so maybe you and your boyfriend should have a talk about the baby thing I am only 18 and prego with my boyfriend of 4 years now and I know things will get rough but we want this baby I say as long as you tink you are ready go for it hun only you can make the decision I WISH YOU LUCK and I hope you have a gorgeous healthy baby

Answer 8

nobody can decide but you dear.... i have a daughter who will be 22 in august..... would not replace her for anything in the world ..... and i also was ready and thought i've done everything i wanted before i had her.... but,guess what i didn't.... i have no regrets.... and would not change anything...... but,think you should wait.... a year with someone is not a long time....you might be ready but is he?

Answer 9

You can have a baby whenever you want, you know. You're an adult, after all.
But maybe you can wait till you're done studying. A baby needs full time attention, so maybe waiting till you're done with school can make it easier on yourself and your boyfriend.

Answer 10

if you have a baby maybe the clubbing should stop? and yes you can travel still too but its rough with a baby,and you can't take it too a club so you better have some good money set aside for babysitters and please pay for a good one safety first is a good mom.